Mental Health Hot Takes #4
Added 2025-11-21 12:00:06 +0000 UTCDr Kirk Honda reacts to mental health hot takes from the listeners. November 21, 2025
00:00 Intro
01:16 Self-care culture can cause undue pressure
03:42 Teachers should be banned from using mental health terms
11:04 Autistic individuals are frequently misdiagnosed with Borderline
18:04 Humor is the best coping mechanism
18:13 Those in the US are prone to exaggeration
19:27 Excessive screen time impacts our mental health
25:21 We don't all suddenly have ADHD
27:33 People with personality disorders shouldn't be politicians
30:10 Frequent trauma reflection can become unhealthy wallowing
40:16 People use diagnosis as an excuse for bad behaviors
41:00 It's OK to use Borderline language without a diagnosis
42:33 Authenticity with clients is not about full transparency
46:35 Narcissism is both over and under diagnosed
47:10 Shame isn't always bad
50:05 Medication doesn't work for everyone
52:08 People with psychosis can benefit from talk therapy
55:28 You can cut out those that negatively impact your life
56:36 Therapists only validate their clients
1:00:20 Romantic love is unethical
1:00:58 Trauma dumping is a quick way of rescinding empathy
1:01:10 It is too much work to become a mental health professional
1:08:13 There's too many types of psychotherapy
1:14:38 Boundaries are just a way to be avoidant
1:15:50 Understanding mental illness is still in infancy
1:22:12 Embrace being average
1:26:10 DID is a trauma response not a personality disorder
1:30:31 Mental health issues come from family of origin trauma
1:30:46 EMDR can do more harm than good
1:33:52 Imposter syndrome points to grandiosity rather than humility
1:37:48 Social media isn't harmful per se, just in our societal context
1:38:09 Client-centered therapists "just" listen
1:39:37 CBT is for therapists who are afraid of doing real work
1:42:08 You can't love yourself without being loved by others
1:44:54 Can someone be in love with two people at once?
1:51:22 Schema therapy is the best model
1:54:35 Mandatory therapy should be paid for by the government
1:57:23 Eclectic therapists don't understand any model well enough
1:59:10 Stop focusing on your mental health
2:03:14 Organized attachment is the exception, not the norm
2:05:09 Those in open relationships just have insecure attachment
2:09:29 It's not easy being green
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Comments
16:00 i have autism. True it looks like many differemt disorders. Idk if we habe bpd more but all the maybe dozen autistic ppl ive me including myself we badly abused as kids. Not recognizing social cues, trusting demeanor, timidity, and difficulty identifying with peers(we're nerds), all combine to make a good canidate to be a target for bullying. So on average probably more bpd/npd and depression, avoidance but autism doesnt look like bpd. "I hate you don't leave me" isnt a normal way for autistic ppl to act. We tend to be afraid of other humans just being honest here. A teacher grabbed my face when i was a kid, forcing me to make eye contact, thats not going to make someone have bpd though, ya know? Overall I feel like we're about as dysfunctional in relationships as neurotypical ppl. The challenge we face in life is finding like minded ppl who share our special interests or wide boundary empathy worldview. Social norms arent that obvious to us and it puts us in danger.
Snowfall Eon
2026-01-14 06:21:39 +0000 UTCYeah think there might be a thing that some people tend to ruminate about their pathology / problems, which leads them to feel „surrendered“ to them and not able to change something. This could lead to the person not seeking help or to slow down their healing process. And this might look like „over-focusing on the problems“ from outside.
Melly
2025-12-28 22:44:32 +0000 UTCMaybe the confusion about DID comes from the fact that in some languages, as for ex german, it used to be called multiple personality disorder although it is not a personality disorder. Now they renamed it.
Melly
2025-12-28 00:04:15 +0000 UTCThinking that politicians with personality disorders are the problem assumes that politicians without a personality disorder do no harm.
MK Average
2025-11-27 03:44:56 +0000 UTCMy heart started racing when you read my impostor syndrome hot take. I'm cognitively compromised by Long Covid / ME/CFS and was unsure about my wording, so I am extra happy you could relate 🙃.
Tonja
2025-11-22 16:20:53 +0000 UTC
