Sleep Training and Attachment
Added 2025-04-21 11:00:33 +0000 UTC
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I had no idea what was the right way, but hearing my babies cry was so heartbreaking for me, so I could never let them cry and not go hold them and then get them back to sleep and do the slow careful hope they don’t wake up placement back into crib. I loved the bedtime routine and cuddles with my babies so much. Luckily both my kiddos were pretty great sleepers or it might have been more difficult. I really felt for my friends who had terrible sleeping babies and were so sleep deprived themselves! My daughter (18) and son (13) now, seem to have turned out alright, actually I think they are pretty incredible, but I know I’m biased! They are both such kind and caring humans, I think they are better people than me! I still can’t listen to even other people’s babies crying without wanting to go pick them up and hold them if they aren’t being held! On the other hand tantruming toddler screaming I could do without! 😂. My daughter who was the easiest happy baby was an epic tantruming 3 and 4 year old! I actually did seek help from a therapist because I was worried something might be needing to be addressed with her. He assured me she was okay and gave me some great tips for handling her big emotions at the age, so if any of you parents have this issue I can’t recommend discussing with a therapist and getting reassurance and tips enough! Then she went back to being the easiest kid again at 5 and has stayed that way until now, she’s currently a foreign exchange student in Colombia. My son was a bit harder has a baby, super easy toddler, and a super sweet but very messy 13 year old. We did everything the same with them both, but kids really are their own people, which I think is lovely!
Shari Hanneman
2025-05-20 07:23:01 +0000 UTCFuture-tripping is my favorite word now
Emily
2025-04-25 11:10:17 +0000 UTCI’m listening to this sitting in a chair in my 3 and 5 year old’s room as I attempt to get them to learn how to fall asleep independently. Wish me luck 😅
Maria J.
2025-04-25 01:52:57 +0000 UTCMy schizoid personality disorder was caused by sleep training from my mother. Be careful
Wannabe Normie
2025-04-23 06:22:13 +0000 UTCPS would be so interested to hear your thoughts on the Montessori Method. Is there actually research that this leads to independence, or is it all talk?
Elyse
2025-04-22 17:45:10 +0000 UTCThank you so much for this! We’re experiencing a big sleep transition right now as my daughter adjusts to daycare (and gets sickness after sickness) and I just came out of an Easter Weekend of grandparents sharing their thoughts on how our approach of listening to and trusting our daughter’s signals (ie, needing to coseep when sick) was going to put stress on our marriage and fail to teach her independent sleeping. This came at such a welcome time and has really given me confidence that we’re on the right track! Thank you!
Elyse
2025-04-22 17:39:17 +0000 UTCI double that!
Marie Preußer
2025-04-22 09:42:08 +0000 UTCThis is what I have been waiting for! :) Please do more episodes on parenting and attunement!
Marie Preußer
2025-04-22 09:41:49 +0000 UTCI found this very helpful. This topic was one of our biggest parenting stresses, and I'm sure we approched it all wrong. It came to a satisfactory conclusion, but I think this advice would be helpful for anyone going through it now.
Emma Regan
2025-04-22 08:19:44 +0000 UTCThis was fantastic Dr Kirk! I would have loved to have heard it when my son was first born. I actually wondered a lot at that time about what your thoughts would be on the topic. I was lucky to find Lyndsey Hookway and her book "Let's Talk About Your New Family's Sleep." Her Instagram is really helpful too. She's very aligned with what you talk about here. My son is 2.5 now and sleeps great, and I was able to stay attuned to him throughout most of the process!
Sylvia Soule
2025-04-22 07:50:37 +0000 UTCI would love more content about parenting and early childhood. As a new parent, this episode is like mana from heaven! Particularly as I’m navigating some parenting issues around sleep training.
Mary L
2025-04-22 04:45:16 +0000 UTC“The notion that you can’t spoil a child is harmful” I’m really looking forward to hearing more about this!
CJ
2025-04-21 17:54:02 +0000 UTCLoved this! Would love more content about parenting especially very young kids. I've heard you talk in a lot of your LIB videos about how not so great attachment styles develop at under 3 years old and with so much conflicting information and kids at such a young age being super chaotic I feel like it's so hard to do the right thing or even know what the right thing is
Anna
2025-04-21 12:55:56 +0000 UTCOmg this is exactly what I need! Thanks so much!
Tereza
2025-04-21 11:44:50 +0000 UTC
