Helicopter Parenting (2016 Rerun)
Added 2025-04-10 11:00:05 +0000 UTC[Rerun] Dr. Kirk Honda and Rebecca Bloom talk about helicopter parenting.
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May 9, 2016
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As someone who had helicopter parents it’s interesting to me how you say you’re seeing the benefits of it when you’re not even a parent or seemingly a kid of such parents. It did NOT help me. What would have helped me is extremely simple though. Taking interest in what I liked or wanted to do in life. Not keeping me trapped in the house. My parents only wanted me to do what they wanted. I didn’t bother making friends because they needed to meet each one and know everything about them. School was the only escape from home. They would try to catch me lying and go nuts if I did. If I had an A- we would go through all my assignments on skyward and then I’d be told that I need to ask my teacher if I can make it up. They were also always going in my room and through all my stuff. Taken my journal once and read it :/ All of it pushed me away from them. Maybe you misunderstood what helicopter parents are.
Dylan Griffin
2025-06-12 18:51:38 +0000 UTCI’m not a parent, and like everybody, I have ideas about this. Maybe I didn’t listen well enough to this episode but the research that was intended didn’t come through I have the feeling. I think it is mostly advice coming from an older generation. I am seeing the benefits of helicopter parenting while sometimes scratching my head thinking, is this going too far, but then I realise that I am kind of envious about the attention children get nowadays. I would have liked it and I think it would helped me too being more independent if I could break away instead of being forced away by my parents. Maybe I am an outlier but anyway, I think realizing that balance is the key, as in everything. And indeed you will not be a bad parent if you’re not there all the time but if your mostly there, I think it is better than mostly not. So I personally am seeing a positive evolution, although the healthiness of the children will have to prove it too.
Elke
2025-04-11 06:31:36 +0000 UTCOne thing to consider is whether the child has siblings or not, especially older siblings. Sounds like in a lot of cases when Kirk remembers being on his own (without parents), he was with his siblings which is different from being entirely on your own. I’m saying this as a former wild child who roamed the streets sunrise to sunset. I was rarely alone though - either with a sibling or with a group of friends. There is strength in numbers and while I feel ok seeing a kindergartener being walked to school by her 10 year old sister, I wouldn’t feel comfortable sending the same aged only child on their own to walk 15 minutes to school. A compromise I see sometimes is gradual training of walking home/school. Let’s say in K, you walk your child all the way to school. Then, in first grade, you let them walk to the edge of school ground and meet them there. Then, in second, maybe halfway home. And fully independent by third or fourth. I think this is a more comfortable approach for parents who are prone to anxiety.
Anna
2025-04-10 12:19:44 +0000 UTC
