War and Love Bombing
Added 2024-11-22 12:00:08 +0000 UTCDr Kirk answers patron emails.
00:00 How Dr. Kirk feels seen
03:45 Acknowledging atrocities and war
15:53 Is a life coach a substitute for a therapist?
20:47 Jealousy and paranoia in a relationship without therapy
30:15 Knowledge deficits in novice clinicians
46:01 Love-bombing deep dive & conceptualizing love
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November 22, 2024
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Comments
That part about being 33 and wanting to have kids or settle down made me wonder about the underepresentation of female love bombers. It made me think of Love Is Blind but I’m sure those are outliers. But still there could be lots of women who are using the fact that they are getting into their thirties or forties to speed up the process of commitment with their partner, and then when the partner says they want to go slow, they say they aren’t serious or are immature.
Taryn Bonner
2025-01-24 13:21:57 +0000 UTCI heard this and I assumed he meant to say sadistic psychopaths. As far as I understand they would both enjoy harming others and not care about others' feelings.
Emma Regan
2024-11-28 17:27:14 +0000 UTCI don't think that's what you meant, but it sounded like you said that sadists don't care about people. That's probably not right. Time code: 56:50-56:56
AutumnCzun
2024-11-26 21:37:33 +0000 UTCYeah, a vacation now and then is good.
Psychology In Seattle
2024-11-25 19:31:02 +0000 UTCThanks, Sofiya! Good to know.
Psychology In Seattle
2024-11-25 19:28:31 +0000 UTCSorry about that. I deleted that live stream. I always delete the live streams eventually, but I deleted that one soon after.
Psychology In Seattle
2024-11-25 19:28:11 +0000 UTCYou know Dr Kirk, you keep referencing the discussion about the election that happened in the Live stream, but I wasn't watching the Live stream and now I can't find it and am really curious about what you had to say 😂 is there any way we can still watch it? I understand it may not be your area of expertise but I was actually hoping to hear your opinion about the election as I try to process it myself, just because you are someone whose thoughts I trust and respect. I'm sorry you got some reactions that threw you off. I think most of us want to hear what you have to say. Let me know if there is any way to access that Live stream 😂
Sylvia Soule
2024-11-24 16:05:53 +0000 UTCI think I speak for most, if not all of your Patreons, when I say we're here to hold space for your different moods and difficult times. After all, in a lot of ways it's thanks to you, Dr. Honda, that we learned how to do it. Hope you're taking care of yourself 🤍
Sofiya
2024-11-23 16:36:06 +0000 UTCYou described me and my suffering with so much compassion. It’s so hard to let go of someone who i feel safe with
Judson Costello
2024-11-23 04:10:42 +0000 UTC"They don't know what they don't know". Very wise. Theory of mind is in short supply. Therapists would do well to live the lives described by John Steinbeck for a decade or two.
Greg vP
2024-11-23 00:23:03 +0000 UTCHello Kirk, and All I hope you’re doing well. I’m writing to you from Poland, as a third-generation survivor of the war. Everything you say resonates deeply with me. My grandparents were political prisoners and regained their freedom long after the war ended and Stalin passed away. However, when they were finally free, they never truly felt that way. Despite being good people, they passed on a legacy of trauma to my parents, which resulted in the awful scars I experienced as a child. Growing up in the '90s, in a time of relative peace and safety, I noticed an inexplicable sense of danger, guilt, and anxiety just about life in general, for example: material possessions in both my home and those of my friends - manifested as an excessive need to hoard “supplies,” as if everything might come in handy someday, alongside a noticeable emotional absence from my parents. They struggled to express their emotions, and there was constant conflict between them—endless arguments and outbursts of anger. As a child, I would often hide in the closet, sitting there for hours, waiting for it all to pass. It wasn’t until I became an adult that I realized they were raised by a generation that directly experienced the war. I then i learned full pictures - Understanding this has helped me forgive them. But I cannot forgive the invaders who caused harm not just to one generation, but to several generations of people. I think my son is truly the first in our family to be free from the shadows of the war. Take care!
Ola Zurawska
2024-11-22 20:15:45 +0000 UTCMyanmar, the Rohingya Muslims, are similar to the Muslims in Palestine, and the Uyghur Turks in China. The Tibetans in China. (I think Dr. Kirk mentioned Myanmar.) Palestinians have been under blockade in Gaza for almost two decades!! Without real access to water, electricity, and placed on a borderline starvation diet long before Oct 7 happened. Oct 7 was basically a boiling over point of apartheid, oppression, and systematic ethnic cleansing for the people in Gaza AND West Bank. I am also very close to Syrian war. (Another war instigated by the US and military industrial complex.) I am a Turkic-Russian-American. I am Muslim. I have my convictions. In fact, I have now turned to the faith of my people more than ever. Palestine was the final straw. You know what is extremely concerning right now is that Ukraine launched a missile deep into Russia, and because Biden instigated this, Russia is now saying it will target US bases in Poland. My son was stationed in Poland not that long ago. Good job Biden. (Sarcasm.) This actually enrages me. The United States has done nothing but cause all of this! This country- my country- which I myself served in it's military- is trash. We are the root of ALL this evil. Let's not pretend otherwise. Our country ignores UN and ICC and ICJ depending on their whim. They were all for Putin's arrest warrant, even though as bad as his crimes were, they did not even hold a candle to Netanyahu's. Yet the US continues to ignore and undermine the ICC and ICJ when it comes to Israel (Netanyahu and Gallant). Kamala, without shame and with a straight face said absurdly during her campaigning, "Iran" is the US's greatest enemy. Why? Because Iran is Israel's greatest enemy?! Pathetic. Also, US is just a bully paper tiger (just like their mini protege Israel). They attempt to attack Russia and China through proxy wars and economic sanctions (which do not work and have never worked), because they can't face them militarily. They have just as powerful military forces. So the US bullies and punks weaker countries with weaker military forces instead- even when those countries have nothing to do with- and want nothing to do with- the US. This arrogance will be the end of the US eventually, unless we purge these neocons and war mongers from our congress. I have now left the Democratic party and identify as an Anarchist now. (I guess I needed to vent. It's been awhile lol.)
Tatyana
2024-11-22 19:51:00 +0000 UTCI appreciate modeling apology for being in a bad mood. I appreciate you modeling bad moods that aren’t attacking anyone. I’ve also been in a bad mood. We all deserve our bad moods. Even podcasters. Podcasters also deserves days off. Even when I love watching your reaction videos as fast as possible. We can wait.
Lauren King
2024-11-22 19:11:55 +0000 UTC
