TToB: Lesbians have lower expectations for having orgasms than heterosexual women. Tough or Bluff???
Added 2024-11-05 15:00:03 +0000 UTCComments
Ahh. I’ve never thought of it this way… I wish we can all agree that it’s natural for women to enjoy orgasm, it’s also natural when women don’t really need it to happen during (hetero) sex. And sexuality is a rich human experience—it’s never just about pleasures, it’s one of the few things that allow us to swim in the transcendental part of our existence. (Anyway, I think I’m feeling the urgency to be more loud and proud of the right things because of the election result.)
Edith H
2024-11-08 05:09:25 +0000 UTCThey are also more likely to, because, well... women know women! :-p
Heather Dube
2024-11-06 21:22:11 +0000 UTCWell... I dont think men expect less of women because they don't have the same sexual organs 🤷
Viqui
2024-11-06 20:07:33 +0000 UTCIt’s BLUFF! Women with female partners have higher expectations for having an orgasm. (DOI: 10.1177/19485506241235235)
Psychology In Seattle
2024-11-05 22:43:15 +0000 UTCI wonder if there's a difference when you look at expectations for themselves vs for their partners. I imagine they'd have lower expectations on both, but the difference would be more pronounced for expectations for their partners.
Stephen Woo
2024-11-05 21:52:23 +0000 UTCI imagine that hetrosexual women have lower expectations just because they expect the guy to make it happen for them. Guys don't have women's erogenous zones, so how can they possibly know what they're doing? (unless they're advised) Am I wrong?
Fiona
2024-11-05 21:17:18 +0000 UTCKirk, didn't you have a Rebbecasode where she talked about this at some point? Pretty sure the answer is TOUGH. It's less about the end goal and more about playfulness, intimacy, etc.
Waylon Waddell
2024-11-05 17:48:02 +0000 UTCI think you're right on the money. From conversations I've had with lesbian friends, it's less about the end goal and more about the entire experience.
Waylon Waddell
2024-11-05 17:45:59 +0000 UTCI’ll be honest with you I’d rather not studies like this be out there because if the answer to this is yes, it gives people who hate lesbians more ammo and a feeling of justification for their hate. They can say shit like “see it’s unnatural. It’s not as good and that’s your body telling you that” Also I think kind of information is likely to make a lesbian feel insecure too You gotta be careful with this kind of stuff because you also risk overmedicalizing and dehumanizing sexuality
StraightSlayer making the world gayer
2024-11-05 17:18:39 +0000 UTCThis has got to be a bluff, unless the angle is that lesbians understand that sex is so much more than orgasms. At least anecdotally, as a queer woman with a comphet phase early in my dating years
sahana
2024-11-05 15:17:23 +0000 UTC
