Parent Child Estrangement
Added 2024-09-06 11:00:08 +0000 UTCDr Kirk interviews Christy Forrester who was contemplating contacting her father after 18 years. www.forrestertherapy.com
00:00 Introducing Christy Forrester
04:34 The family sculpture
15:48 Christy's father & estrangement
17:20 SA trigger warning
21:01 End of trigger warning
26:59 The lead up to reaching out
32:58 Were there reasons not to reach out?
45:04 How did the reunion go?
1:33:05 Nomadic therapy
1:35:45 Christy's experience with Dr. Ann Blake, shadow work & masculine energy
1:51:02 Christy's career & future
2:15:47 Where to find Christy
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September 6, 2024
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Comments
It took me a bit to be able to listen to this, since it is a difficult topic for me, but thank you so much for this episode! I'm not at a place where I am standing on the ground yet, but it still felt like Christy's story untangled something in me. It is exactly as you said towards the end, I was so caught between the longing for connection with my mom but also needing the estrangement to protect myself. It never occurred to me that there is this third option open to me, whenever I am ready for it.
Sarah
2024-09-22 10:29:22 +0000 UTCI love this discussion. Thank you Christy for being so open and vulnerable!
N Raptor
2024-09-13 11:17:14 +0000 UTCI agree— I was thinking this would make an amazing book before you even mentioned it— you have such a way with words that it really moved me
juliana reider
2024-09-12 14:55:32 +0000 UTCChristy thank you for sharing. This episode was important to me, a lot to chew on.
Kate Hawk
2024-09-10 16:01:48 +0000 UTCThank you for sharing your story Christy. It was like listening to myself. Your father sounds like my father, his parents sound like my grandparents, your mother sounds like my mother, your experiences could describe my experiences. All the similarities are incredibly eery. Even my name is Kristie, although I don’t go by that name anymore because it’s too triggering. This entire thing was surreal. Just wow! Thank you so much for sharing. I have so much more hope for myself and my situation. I kinda feel now like what ever happens I am going to be OK. I cried so many times listening to you speaking about your experience because I want to get to the place you are. Listening to you I have a little more love for myself, and a little more compassion for my father. We haven’t spoken in about 18 months now. I don’t know how long our estrangement will last, but I feel like when we do talk finally talk, if we talk, I have a better road map now. I feel like I can set better expectations now. Honestly, please write a book. I want to hear everything you have to say and to explore this third option deeper. Hope this doesn’t come across as creepy 😅
Kaylee M
2024-09-09 08:30:06 +0000 UTCThank you Christy and Kirk, this was truly humbling and inspiring to listen to. I really mean that. I will take away a lot of useful things for my own healing journey. 🩵
Waylon Waddell
2024-09-08 20:12:20 +0000 UTCThis Jungian Life podcast is good for people looking for more Jungian content including dream work, fairytales, mythology.
Lauren King
2024-09-08 00:20:01 +0000 UTCI feel so seen right now.
Allie
2024-09-07 19:43:36 +0000 UTCBeautiful story 🩷🌿
Dóra Matthíasdóttir
2024-09-07 15:13:42 +0000 UTCOh wow. I haven't listened yet but I am definitely interested. I was estranged from my dad, I heard via my brother that he was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer 7 years ago. It took me a couple months to reach out but when I did I was so grateful for the things I learned. I learned that we were incredibly similar. It also made choices my mom made as a child so much clearer (she discouraged/unallowed things that reminded her of him but I did not know why as a child but just learned to assume I was just always doing something wrong). Like I was obsessed with music and craved piano lessons and practiced incessantly, she was like I don't get why you would want this and even held me back from getting lessons at first. Turns out he was a musician. This is one example of many. We only had a few conversations weekly until he died, he did not last long on chemo as he was incredibly unhealthy otherwise. When he died I went into a very deep mourning process for months, because I was mourning the loss of never having a parent and never having the opportunity to build that bridge.
Elspeth Ochs
2024-09-07 11:50:57 +0000 UTC
