Borderline Abuse (Chapters 7-9)
Added 2024-04-24 11:00:05 +0000 UTCDr Kirk Honda discusses borderline personality and partner abuse while reacting to the reality TV show, Love Is Blind.
00:00 Chapter 7 - Comparing and contrasting Love is Blind couples
50:12 Chapter 8 - Subtle parts of abuse
1:25:27 Chapter 9 - Jealousy
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April 24, 2024
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Comments
The last sentences sounded like all avoidant folks are narcissistic. Schizoid women here and I have a talent to find Borderline partners all the time. 😅 They give you this vivid feeling and totally fascinating irrational at the same time. Love my partner but it needs so much patience and waiting.
Maren
2024-05-30 18:04:58 +0000 UTCThis series is amazing, I cannot thank you enough for sharing and putting in this level of effort! It speaks volumes. I’ve been listening to you for some years now and have learned how to become healthier for myself and my lovely partner. I don’t comment often but maybe I will! The appreciation I have for this channel and all the guests/hosts is vast ✨
Miranda Garza
2024-04-27 15:55:37 +0000 UTCI'll check it out!
Psychology In Seattle
2024-04-26 22:55:19 +0000 UTCYeah, love it. I guess there's a few ways to frame it. I frame this as: "don't discount or trivialize others' suffering by suggesting that they can easily 'get over it' ".
Psychology In Seattle
2024-04-26 22:54:57 +0000 UTCI see people recommend Baby Reindeer. I am up for it too. I think there were two elements: pain in the actions of someone abusive, and distortions trauma creates. I related to Donny as a character in the sense that, it was as if he was looking for something about himself in Martha(his stalker). Part of him was fascinated by her, and it seemed like he was trying to understand himself in his interactions with her. He seemed to have found something about Martha soothing. I thought perhaps it was the self reflection, or it's his need for drama. According to what the character says about himself, it's about his need for attention. I suppose the series is about addiction, considering how it ends. The other interesting thing about the show is the impact of trauma on his sexual orientation. I saw a comment that says it's a problematic take, but I thought the series wasn't making that about being what sexual orientation is about, it's just that person's journey. It seems like he can't figure out his sexual orientation, and I thought perphaps that's more about the loss of sense of self around his sexuality. Perhaps those urges are mixed with "the need for attention", and he can't tell the difference. There were moments in the series that felt cringe. Sometimes the main chacter felt fake, but, that might be part of the act. Interestingly, Martha (the stalker) is more sympathetic than the victim. His niceness was irritating. I think I didn't like Donny (victim) very much. One realization for me, towards the end, there was a part he stops his act and talks to the audience, which made me angry because to me that was "begging for love". Then it works in some way for him, and I'm like "That's so unfair!!! If I did that, it would backfire!!", then I realized, in my every action I'm actually begging for love, and I don't think I'm getting much. Looking forward to an episode about it. Not a reaction though. It's nice when you review a series with a co-host ♡
GO!《cɛn
2024-04-26 06:59:12 +0000 UTCAnd one of the main themes Is man on man sexual assault. Which is something rarely talked about never mind shown. I would die to hear you review it! Unless you hated it then I’d be sad, but still. 😂
MK Average
2024-04-26 01:07:21 +0000 UTCUnrelated but PLEASE watch baby reindeer on Netflix. It is the first realistic depiction of a traumatized person I have ever seen. (I’m sure there are more but I haven’t seen them). It’s starts out as one thing & though the first story line goes through out the whole show another one begins around episode 3 or 4. Omg it’s a profound show!
MK Average
2024-04-26 01:06:02 +0000 UTCControversial comment: As a therapist I sometimes feel that clients have a right to suffer. Insisting on them getting better is sometimes serving my needs, and can be counter transference best taken to clinical supervision. Is a “right to suffer” even a thing? And what should my stance to this concept be, as a therapist? Can helping become problematic in certain circumstances? And by being a therapist am I committing myself to the side of helping under all and any circumstances?
Vaughan Dutton
2024-04-24 19:58:36 +0000 UTCAwesome! This dropped while I was reading Fairbairnian object relations theory here in Oxford, UK. The podcast is a great reason to ditch the library and still feel like I’m working 🌞🌞
Vaughan Dutton
2024-04-24 11:04:40 +0000 UTC
