Patreon, R&P Q&A #246
Added 2023-11-15 17:25:51 +0000 UTC
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I'm starting to see that people are more persuaded by social perceptions of status, power, & usefulness, using logic as an alibi. I guess in this case, if I'm not able to influence my team to follow a particular direction, I need to work on building up my status within the team, by delivering high-quality work and developing authority on topics of interest within the team.
Ban Mido
2023-11-16 19:03:47 +0000 UTCI can relate to the feeling of loneliness; but here's how I see it. As a man, you get many privileges in life but being commended for "opening up" isn't one of them. Cultivate close male friendships, do regular stuff without your girl with guy friends, get a dog, journal, but don't expect to get sympathies from anyone for whatever shit you're going through in life. Regarding simplifying your life, do you want to simplify your life or live a minimalist life in your new house?
Ban Mido
2023-11-16 18:57:36 +0000 UTC35 building a social group, soft power, and how this is all attractive. Completed film this week. Ramped up from 4 people on the last film to 8 people on this one. Soft power vs hard power The 6 other guys on the production fell into positions easily. The new cinematographer we brought in (happened to be a girl) took some time to fall into the hierarchy chain. We butted heads right off the bat. We had different goals: I needed to get a film made within a time limit (48 hrs.) She was hyper focused on getting the perfect shot and other long form procedural issues. She laid hard boundaries: this is how we are going to do it… I could not let the production turn into a fight. It would tank everything. There is no hard power: bosses, money, protocol. I was laid back. Ya, sure… At a certain point I remarked (amused mastery;) “we spent an hour on 1 shot, 32 more to go in the next 8 hours.” She eventually saw the other 6 guys falling in line to my direction. As I am the director, producer, and writer. And the other guys believed in the vision. We joked and had fun. She eventually realized we were not on a big budget movie and did not have the man power to do things her way. She caved, we did things my way and got the movie done. No hard feelings. Gold fish memory. Everything is good. Red pill: Soft power- not being reactive, not taking things to seriously, amused mastery and having the social approval of the rest of the cast allowed me to turn a conflict into a good experience for all. She basically accepted my frame. Red pill, I created a framework for people to get together and accomplish something. We all went through a gamut of emotions together; excitement, fun, creativity, exhaustion… We will all meet up again for the showing or two. Our social medias aligned for a minute. Now I have a reason to contact them at anytime for future projects or update them on where this film goes. The project is intense, and it created conversation nodes. Meaning, the eight of us now have an experience to talk about in different settings, such as at your tipical bar b q. Red pill, creating attraction - Wife: I did not do this project with these goals in mind. I did the project because I wanted to and these things happened: wife saw me in a leadership role. Saw me around a social group. And saw a passion project. All of these are attractive. And it was a small nod, but she treated me differently for a little bit. Keep in mind I have been in healing mode for a long time, which is not attractive. this is also true for the other casts wifes as well. The crew and cast have a premier in a few weeks and maybe and award show. We are scheduling and making the next short film in January. Not only do I get to reach out to them more, but they are talking to each other more.
Cousin Eddie
2023-11-16 18:54:42 +0000 UTCGood to see someone got the reference :D. And I'm guessing you're One Piece fan I second Op Sec's point; focus on enjoying yourself on your date and not worry about getting laid
Ban Mido
2023-11-16 18:51:42 +0000 UTCOh no, your ex hired a legal specialist to handle a legal matter without telling you (like you probably should have). Getting emotional about it and having a mini temper tamper for yourself is definitely the right call.
CovertContractAttorney
2023-11-16 18:49:54 +0000 UTCFor arguments, consider this as a mental model: You take everyone else too seriously because you want their validation. Arguments are worthless because you cannot convince someone of something with logic, which is likely what you use to argue. You believe if you use your logic then they will agree, accept your position (confirming your a prior's and giving you a gold star), do as you want, and you'll live a problem free life. The human condition doesn't work that way. People make decisions based on feelings/emotions. It's not more complicated than that. You can't control another person's emotions. But, you desperately want to it because you believe that it will confirm you are a good person.
CovertContractAttorney
2023-11-16 18:46:56 +0000 UTCLove to see a fellow get backers enjoyer;) Thanks yeah that does make sense, that's why I also chose to focus on job and great life first. I do find her attractive but not in a way that makes me nervous. I also am not nervous about the date so that's a plus👍
Joyboy
2023-11-16 18:42:00 +0000 UTCAbout the last sentence: Couch doesn't like New Years resolutions, but if I come to the end of a field report and realize my priorities are wrong, I am going to write it down.
Gearo's Journey
2023-11-16 18:27:54 +0000 UTCI used to download and delete apps because they weren't giving good results until I went on a few good road trips with close guy friends and took a bunch of good, stylish photos. Before that I focused on getting a better job and moving to a bigger city. So basically, work hard w/o distraction -> get good job -> travel a bit -> get good photos -> settle in new city with a good bachelor pad -> learn basic game/pua -> dating app success My top 3 dating advice to keep in mind: eye contact, cocky-funny, kino escalation Also, do you find the girl attractive? If not, push for sex. If yes, you'll probably be nervous and escalate in a creepy way instead of being smooth. In that case I recommend a 2-date approach where you're just having fun and getting her invested in you through good game and kino on first date. Take her out in the night and bring her home on the second date. (Full disclosure I'm still figuring out my dating strategies so I could be completely wrong here. I'm at the stage where I can bring a girl home on the first date based purely off my looks and running basic game)
Ban Mido
2023-11-16 18:27:22 +0000 UTCFR: * Went on a date with a 35y/HB5 last Thursday night. Made mistakes like letting her hijack the conversation and talk about her sick grandma. But after all that she came home with me, got comfortable taking off her stockings, and I still blew it. I waited too long before I escalated and she got tired and wanted to go home as it was getting late for her. Ngl, knowing where I fucked up pissed me off more than not knowing why the date failed. * The 6-ft chick from previous post started avoiding meeting up again and ignored my last text message asking if she wanted to hangout this weekend. Lesson learnt; don't confuse "showing vulnerability" as "emotional availability". Found this post (https://www.forums.red/p/TheRedPill/100001/trp_and_buyer_s_remorse) and explains what you said last week; I stopped being perceived as "alpha"/attractive after opening my mouth, even though I gave a good dicking. The attraction wasn't lost immediately but after a few days it seems have evaporated Thoughts/questions: * You said something along the lines of "chemistry doesn't matter until you've slept with her". But I've slept with girls where there's no verbal chemistry (aka good girl game) and I get bored very easily. I'm becoming less interested in going further with chicks I'm not enjoying myself with just for game practice or the notch * How to not get ego-invested when arguing, whether at work or with your girl? Almost raised my voice and get emotional during heated exchange with a female colleague and a possibly biased manager. I just pulled back and conceded the point before I "broke frame"
Ban Mido
2023-11-16 18:21:20 +0000 UTCYour instincts are correct on the lie. She is asking you a loaded question. You have the write to say nothing. “I have been busy. Stfu. “.
Cousin Eddie
2023-11-16 18:06:39 +0000 UTCBars: are red oceans (general population) It is going to be harder to be attractive. One exception: if you are at the bar with allot of friends, or it is a sports crowd (all philly fans watching the game…). I focus on blue oceans. Especially As you get older. it is easier to build repor. Easier to strike up conversation without having to try to hard…. Your last sentence was vague. What do you mean by provide leadership. What did you specifically do to do this? If it is number 1, why is your report about seducing wife, cand r, step mom shit test. Step mom: when did you get old. You:”I just can’t wait for tomorrow!” Her: why?” You: every day after tomorrow, I get a little younger. Wife doldrums: build an exiting life for yourself. Dread will follow. … easier said than done… 😂
Cousin Eddie
2023-11-16 17:55:47 +0000 UTCFitness – Feeling good. Back on my 30 day clean eating and no drinking diet, which will take me to the Holidays. I’m going to do the Starting Strength exercises as a base again, 3 days a week. Divorce – In August, I sent my ex-wife a draft Divorce Agreement after we had a verbal discussion. In October, I got a letter from her lawyer saying they have been engaged on their behalf. I was pissed off that she wouldn’t give me a heads up that she was taking this route. I called her a few times afterwards to discuss it and she didn’t answer. I have since cut off my communications with her more or less. My strategy right now is cutting her off financially and dragging it out to show her the legal system moves slowly. She needs to feel some pressure to settle out of court. She’s not working and has no income (I’m still paying for the houses), so she’ll run out of money soon and will need to borrow from family, which will add a layer of stress. I haven’t engaged a lawyer yet, partly because I want to drag it out. The second reason is I don’t really like any of the three I’ve met so far. That said, I’m not going to be an easy client because ‘a little bit of knowledge is dangerous’. I work a lot with the top lawyers in the City via my clientele and I have been through the legal wringer at the highest levels in my past. I’ve had fucking phenomenal lawyers, so they’ve set the bar high. I work in professional services so I know what a competent person looks like. Part of me thinks I should hire a shitty lawyer to turn the whole thing into a shit show and frustrate her lawyer. Negotiating with an incompetent person can be just as challenging and frustrating as with a competent one. My ex-wife’s advantage is precedent and turning this into a logical discussion of assets and income. If I hire a typical lawyer, they’ll play into that game. But if I hire a nutter, they can muddy the waters. My hardest negotiations in business have always been with the nutters (Madman theory). I think it’s to my advantage because the legal system is very timely and costly to sort through bullshit. I will dust of 48 laws of power to think this all through. Girlfriend – All good on the girlfriend front. A few weeks ago I had a bit of a shit test. She went to dinner with her former personal trainer who is a friend of hers. He’s half her age. He talked a lot about his existing girlfriend and both of their psychological troubles, including their sex life. I told her that type of discussion is out of bounds for me. She agreed and said she’ll tell him that if it ever comes up again. They rarely talk or meet. She lives an hour away, so I mostly just see her on weekends which is perfect because I like my personal time too. Sex life with her is good. She’s very horny and it’s easy for me to get her off. My sex drive is lower. I get burnt out by the end of the weekend and need the week to recharge.
Dave
2023-11-16 17:52:33 +0000 UTCYou reply was perfect. Devorcies should be on the divorce text apps. Those can be brought in front of a judge. Record all insults and give them to your lawyer.
Cousin Eddie
2023-11-16 17:36:50 +0000 UTCI read this as “door to door sales”. Vs luxury brand. Your fr sounds like door to door. Which absolutely creates resentment over time. The solution is in your last paragraph. Being an attractive man (luxury brand.) Going out with other guys, having good friends is very attractive. Of course there is more.. looking good.. being fun to talk to, engaging, having a passion…
Cousin Eddie
2023-11-16 17:30:36 +0000 UTCIt sounds like you are still in the honeymoon phase to me. If you want to speed up the relation you can stress test it. Travel, doing things where people get tired and hungry. Hard rule… don’t let her move in.
Cousin Eddie
2023-11-16 17:22:24 +0000 UTCOpSec: Why the response to OMS's bait. OMS: Make sure you're not ignoring the issues with obligated compliance and how that is unattractive too. Regardless, this situation seems to be the hamster maze situation and OpSec needs to continue to work on helping lead the hamster out of the maze--if that is what he wants, which is up to him.
CovertContractAttorney
2023-11-16 15:06:56 +0000 UTCWhat do you want? Why are you not satisfied? Check your ego. Make sure you’re not falling for “I want her to want to fuck me” bullshit.
Owning My Shit
2023-11-15 22:17:15 +0000 UTCWhat's making you think I got mad?
Op Sec
2023-11-15 22:13:56 +0000 UTCWhy are you lying? Are you afraid of her judgement? Either tell the truth or say “It’s none of your fucking business”. Why the fuck are you tempted to share personal info with an ex-bitch? Jesus christ, just shut your mouth, stop looking for closure.
Owning My Shit
2023-11-15 22:11:15 +0000 UTCYou want your wife to suck your dick. She sucks your dick. You get mad at your wife for sucking your dick but with no “genuine desire”.
Owning My Shit
2023-11-15 22:07:51 +0000 UTCThe honeymoon phase might take up to a year to end. Of course you want to feel like it ended because you’ve built this illusion of what she is and how great she she she…even though you’ve only been with her for a few months. You feel alone, poor boy. You are alone. You were born alone and will die alone, no matter how many people you got around you. You’re still wearing the red-pill like a suit. You don’t cultivate an “alpha exterior”. You actually become more alpha. You’re like the PUAs who once they got a girl wanted to completely change how they act because the act they put on was not themselves. Of course it wasn’t. Social interactions are made of masks. Maybe your family has got a point. How long did you date this girl? I bet 6 months max. Don’t DEER to your family, but reflect if they do have a point, even though you’re so happy now.
Owning My Shit
2023-11-15 21:59:50 +0000 UTCRuben just now Hi Rian, I kind of posted something similar a few weeks ago regarding a chick with which I had a relationship (we were a couple for over a year). I ended thing with her about two weeks ago, but we still saw each other and did the same thing that we use to do as a couple but without the tag or title. Two Sundays ago, she asked me what I did I one day on the same week, I lied about going for drinks with my friends, but I was out with other chick that I been seeing for over 3 months now. The Girl in question find out that I was lying because she went to the friend house where I told her I will be at and did not see my car. I lied and managed to dodge the bullet and told her over the past 1-2 moths the thing that we had felt like a job and was not as enjoyable as before. Ever since that day the day that I ended things I been feeling down, not sure if depress since that is a strong word. In short she want full commitment, when we were together the fact that she was the only girl that I saw was a commitment for my part, I think that I am not ready to commit fully to a girl, since I do not she my daughter on a regular basis and I want to have that part of my life in place so I can integrate a woman to my life, that is the part the this girl does not get. Lastly, I never told this girl that I do not see my daughter freely yet that will happen until my divorce is finalized, I keep this part from her because if I told her that my ex put in the divorce paper that I was violent and other lies I may put thoughts on her head. I am tempted to share this information with her and leave the decision to stick around to her and see if thinks can work out once I am able to see my daughter on a regular basis which will happen in 6-8 months from now, but I have a feeling that I am over complicated things and the best route is keep things the way they are and if she reach out to me fine if no such is life Stay Frosty
Ruben
2023-11-15 21:02:54 +0000 UTCI almost forgot, when you’re dealing with your ex wife (texting, emailing, etc.), remember the Jumbotron rule.
ErikTheRed
2023-11-15 20:50:55 +0000 UTCWhy do you have to respond to her shitty texts? Just ignore it, you’re better than that anyways. Also remember once the parenting plan is sign, there’s still nothing stopping her from taking the kids, alienating you, etc. (nothing immediately anyways). When everything is signed, there’s no one to police that the two of you follow these plans in the moment, yeah you can take her back to court if she’s not following the plan, but how long would that take… something to consider. I’ve just had to swallow my ego and kill her with kindness, I know it sucks, but it makes the divorce and co-parenting so much easier, but don’t be a doormat and stick to what you’ve learned so far. Also don’t sweat the “trouble getting hard” thing, it’s just nerves, everything is new again, it happens.
ErikTheRed
2023-11-15 20:36:02 +0000 UTC"You're a dick, and a small one." Shrug, "Big enough to get me off." My thought is you don't want to act angry, so don't be angry. The best way to not be angry is to play the amused mastery role. Then again, nothing wrong with enforcing boundaries.
Gearo's Journey
2023-11-15 20:27:17 +0000 UTCFriday night, I was back in town after being away for a couple of days, like I am every week. We had dinner at home, and then I watched one of my favorite TV shows with the wife. We do this often on Friday nights. I told her I was heading for the shower, went into the bedroom, and got ready for bed. She stayed in the living room, doing whatever chicks do. After I finished, I briefly considered going back out and trying to initiate, but decided against it. The next morning, she was up early reading some job related book on the couch. I was thinking how fun a tit-fuck would be as I quietly drank my coffee. I was thinking if I just asked her with no build-up, she would almost certainly say no. Then I thought, "Well, I really want to, and it is more about not being afraid of her reaction than the outcome." So when she came to the end of a chapter, I walked over, took her hand and said, "Come let me fuck those beautiful boobs." I saw a look on her face that was a mix between exasperation and dread. She said nothing for a couple of beats. I thought, "Should I push for the hard no?" Then, " That look is the 'every wife is a struggle-hugging victim' look." So I kissed her on the fore-head and said, "Next time, champ." It did not feel like a smooth transition, but it was all I could think of. I got my shoes on and took the dog for a walk. When I got back, she wanted to talk to me about our oldest child. She brought up an on-going situation where we disagree on how to handle it. She basically told me that she was going to do what she was going to do, even though she knew I did not approve. She mentioned the therapist she was talking to and that I should consider therapy also. I thought the timing of this conversation, if not the content, was a hostile response to the blunt approach I made earlier. I said little during the short conversation. I then went for a long bike ride. I was gone for over 4 hours. Halfway through, she texted that she was taking the kids and the dogs to her Mom's house to help with some chores. When I got back from the ride and got cleaned up, it was almost dinner time. I texted her to ask if she was having dinner at her Mom's. She said yes. I didn't know when she would come back, but I knew I needed to not be there. I went to a local sporting event, and then hit one of my brewery spots. One of the young dudes behind the bar asked me why I wasn't wearing my conversation-starter hat. One of the female bartenders went by and I said, "Hey Miss Frizzle!" She had dressed as the cartoon character for Halloween, and had been pleased that I recognized the costume. "He's the hat guy!" Said the dude, "but no hat today." Miss Frizzle said, "I almost missed you without the hat!" She was still stoked about being recognized as Miss Frizzle. "I will be here next Saturday with the hat." I said. I sat down at the bar, next to where the line forms to order. Miss Frizzle stopped by to chat a few times. I asked her about one of her tattoos. She is young; otherwise, the only thing not average about her is that she is not fat. And of course I would do her. But I remembered that Rian said take it easy on chicks who are working. One chick who came up to the line was young and hot, and had a chubby friend in tow. I told Miss Hottie I liked her boots. She said thanks. I said she maybe shouldn't be buying beer when she couldn't afford to fix the holes in her jeans. Friend said, "Yeah, I told her the same thing. People will do anything to be fashionable." I kept the conversation going for at least a couple of minutes, talking about the movie "Can't Buy Me Love" where the kid does a dance from National Geographic and everybody thinks it is the latest thing from Soul Train. Then I said maybe we should bring back iron-on patches, and both chicks said that was a great idea. I guess if I wanted to keep it rolling, the thing to do would have been to wander by their table a few minutes later and start up the conversation again. I had an Army buddy tell me many years ago that I knew how to get a girl's attention, but had no idea what to do with it. I don't seem to have progressed beyond that. When I got home, the wife was asleep. The next day, I had a brief conversation with my oldest about getting an after-school job. I told him to talk to people his age who have cracked the code on finding a job, and that small wins give you the right mental frame to get bigger and bigger wins, and it would make him feel good. I tried to shake off the previous day's failures and worked on building rapport with the wife. I gave her a few kisses here and there. At one point, I held out my hand and said "twirl." And she took my hand and did a twirl. Later we watched another episode of our favorite show. The situation with the wife has regressed over the last few weeks. It has been a couple of weeks since we had sex, and it was "Excuse Me Sex." I was wondering today if she thinks the disagreement over dealing with our oldest is a deal-breaker for us, and she is checked out. I saw her Mom the day after she had gone to spend the day over there, and the Mom asked me when I got so old. Something about more gray in my hair. She is usually a very nice, and socially adept, lady. I thought this might be the Sisterhood trying to convince me my options are not as good as they really are. I mentioned in my last field report that there was an issue going on with my kid, and that I was hiding the badness by not telling my father about it. I called my father on Monday night and talked about it with both my parents for almost two hours. I felt better afterwards, and got a little advice that might prove helpful. Monday morning, the wife got up early, as usual. I got out of bed and came up to her, put my arms around her waist and asked her to come back to bed. She said, "No." I rubbed her hip and said, "You sure?" She said, "I don't want to." I counted that as a hard no, and went back to snooze for another ten minutes. Then I got up and walked the dog. Then started my work day. The number one priority right now is to provide better leadership for my whole family.
Gearo's Journey
2023-11-15 20:25:20 +0000 UTCHad a second date - she drove 30 mins and parked her car at my place, showed her my dog, then we got coffee and walked back to my place, invited her in and sat on my couch. She started rubbing my arm and I started kissing her. I had some trouble getting hard, which I wasn't expecting, nerves maybe. Got there eventually, caveman'd and came in her mouth. Ex-wife never used to want me to come in her mouth, this chick did it voluntarily. I texted her two days later and she said the chemistry wasn't there. She's right. Chalk it up as a good slump-buster. I am working on being more direct in my game and replicating this through more online dating matches. SSRI's - feeling less withdrawal symptoms, over the hump Divorce - Ex texted me out of the blue: "You're a dick, and a small one" I thought about replying, "Yes, and??" - I don't want to start agree amplify with her and have some fun with her shit until we get the divorce signed. I told her "we do kids and their logistics here and I'm not here to take your shit" then blocked her. I do realize this comes off as butt hurt, my only intention with our comms is to make sure the court sees me as being the reasonable one. I don't talk about ANYTHING other than the kids and their logistics with her. She proceeded to block me on email which is primary method we coordinate about the kids.... not good. I texted her a link to a co-parenting app and told her to let me know when she's ready to sign up since we don't have email anymore. Ex also stated she has been talking to lawyers so I expect to be served her answer from my divorce application soon. I'm in a strange place where I'm focused on being the "better beta" but also have a crazy urge to tell her to STFU. I've got a lot of nasty messages from her over the last 6 months. Parenting plan is not signed so there is nothing stopping her from taking the kids, alienating me, etc
4thMostImportant
2023-11-15 19:55:33 +0000 UTCDating apps: I found them taking too much mental bandwidth for the little results they gave. I also need better photos but first gotta fix my income before I spend more time on them. On that now, works quite well, signed on 2 new clients:)
Joyboy
2023-11-15 19:39:13 +0000 UTCWhat was the purpose in deleting dating apps? > Any advice on what to keep in mind during the date? Eye contact, body language and enjoying yourself. > should I push for sex first date or rather not do it? Take her back to your place and try to fuck her. A girl will never hold it against you that you tried to have sex with her.
Op Sec
2023-11-15 19:30:34 +0000 UTCIn bed, I wasn’t getting turned on so I got dressed and then I left the house to work at a coffee shop. Wife was trying to talk to me before I left, it was a bunch of emotion. I fogged or disengaged, but didn’t break stride, I was leaving. But Then, her: “Is there something I’m doing or I’m not doing?” me: “There are things you aren’t doing”. her: “Like what?”, I wasn’t sure if how or if I wanted to reply here. me: “Blowjobs for one”. her: “What other things?”. me: “I don’t know right now”. her: “What sort of frequency do you want, how often do you want them?”. me: “I don’t see how this conversation is going to be productive.” and I left. her: “well, I appreciate you opening up to me” trying not to cry I wanted to validate her whenever she does something right in bed. Got a blow job when I got back. I tried to validate into silent treatment, but nothing wrong with giving me a blow job and then fucking off. Next time we had sex, there was enthusiasm. me: “I enjoyed it very much”. her: “really? I’m glad”. Next time we had sex, there was a lack of enthusiasm, but still I got my dick sucked, decently. me: “That was nice”. Silent treatment, so I got back to work. I get the sense that she feels like she has to suck my dick and resents it. Over the weekend I hang out with some guys from Judo class for a couple of beers. This was good and I’ll continue to build male friendships.
Op Sec
2023-11-15 19:27:22 +0000 UTCFR 19 It’s been a few months since my last field repot. I’ve been in an exclusive relationship now for a couple months, I feel the “honeymoon” phase has ended and things are still going very well, I really like this girl and we spend most nights together. We work out together, she helps me with the kids, and is a huge value to my life in many ways, I can really see myself being with her long term. But it’s different now, I’m different now, and maybe that’s a good thing. She’s very submissive and I’m the leader. I’ve spent so much time cultivating this hard, tough, “alpha” exterior that now I find it difficult to be vulnerable, to the point where if I drift too “beta” I’m disappointed in myself. I don’t want to go back to the old “nice guy” that I used to be, she wouldn’t be attracted to that, but sometimes I just feel alone when I’m not actually alone, like I could never truly open up or share everything. Maybe that comes from my old codependent habits and it’s just something I still need to get past, we’re all alone in the world after all. My ex wife has been next level nice to me lately, I’m still trying to keep conversations to child logistic, but she has really been trying to open up and steer the conversation to, “are you happy?” (She’s asking me). I feel like her pattern is restarting and maybe she is going to try to rekindle something again. I still struggle with this, as I have a pattern of only remembering the good times when our family was together, and I know my kids do this too. My family (parents and sister), has been very judgemental lately and this is really a new pressure on my frame. I know that I’m the ultimate judge of myself, but they seem to feel like I’ve moved too quickly into a relationship. Living in a toxic relationship over the past ten years plus being single for a year, I know what I want. I was single long enough in my eyes and I know that I’m happier now than I’ve ever been, is it even worth explaining this to my family? or do I just carry on with my life and they can see through my actions that I’m truly happy. I recently had to move to a smaller place in order to save money, child and spousal supports are a bitch, add that to the fact that I feel like I’m going backwards in life in my mid 30s, it’s a tough pill to swallow right now. Rian I have noticed in a couple of your videos that you briefly mentioned minimizing/simplifying your life, any tips on how to really minimize my possessions? I have a huge issue with keeping things, just in case.
ErikTheRed
2023-11-15 19:14:54 +0000 UTCTraining: Was to thy gym every other day Unmatched the girl from last week ( and no didn’t answer all her messages, she even complained how slow and rarely I respond ;)) Deleted all dating apps, but took 1 girl offline, Date is in 2 weeks. We text here and there, little banter, but I keep it rare. I do like her humor a lot though. First date location is a cafe near me and I planned to first coffeedate and if I like her a little walk ( before quick stop to my place to “feed the cat”). Any advice on what to keep in mind during the date? Which questions are okay, which ones are not? How long should it last, should I push for sex first date or rather not do it? Thanks:)
Joyboy
2023-11-15 19:14:06 +0000 UTC
