April Bonus: "Sex, Love & Goop"
Added 2023-04-28 09:00:03 +0000 UTCFor this month's bonus episode we watched Gwyneth's sex show and it seemed ... fine? We're as mystified as you are.
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Aw man Aubrey should really shout out whenever she guests on other things. I would love to follow. XD signed me, not really following social media ever, but still obsess over this podcast
Nancy
2024-04-02 06:18:52 +0000 UTCI didn't read through ALL of the comments so I don't know if someone already mentioned this, but a lot of straight women have sex issues related to early-life sex trauma, either incest, rape, or other unwanted sexual contact as a child or young adult. In adult relationships, these women may desire physical contact but find intercourse to be frightening or painful. Additionally, they might find it extremely difficult to talk about it as they don't want to make their partners feel bad/guilty or feel as though they are continuing the abuse... or they find intercourse triggering... or they have been made to believe that expressing sexual desire means that they are a "whore/slut" or that they had not "really" been assaulted. No amount of sex play is going to make these women feel safe or increase sexual desire. They really need an experienced therapist to help them find safety in their bodies again.
Carolynne Lewis-Arevalo
2024-01-08 14:54:12 +0000 UTCThis is my new favorite way to confirm reality TV š
Nika
2023-12-20 17:38:57 +0000 UTCReiki but third base omgggg
Lydthekidmaybenowmid
2023-10-03 22:11:01 +0000 UTCI will say, I feel like when I talk openly about sex with my straight female friends, they clearly think I'm too crass and giving TMI. I'm like...this is part of life, how can we not talk about it?
Lydthekidmaybenowmid
2023-10-03 21:57:33 +0000 UTCThereās a show called couples therapy on showtime that kind of is what Michael described as wanting to see!
Elisa I
2023-07-26 19:21:01 +0000 UTCMy brothers had gerbils and they always ate the babies.
Elaine E
2023-07-02 16:14:46 +0000 UTCA lot of herbivores will eat meat on occasion for the extra nutrients--deer are known to eat baby birds if they find them while grazing and to chew on bones they find for the calcium, for example. But yeah, it's really important for people know whether their pets are safe to cohabitate or not. We have reptiles and while the information that most reptiles should not cohabitate with each other is available, there's a surprising amount of misinformation out there. I remember one reptile person losing it over a care info pamphlet from a pet store that told people they could have male leopard geckos living together, which will guaranteed end in one of the geckos killing the other (you might be able to get away with housing a couple female leopard geckos together because they aren't as territorial, but it's still not a good idea).
Anna O.
2023-06-01 17:19:22 +0000 UTCWe had hamsters that just SNAPPED one day and one of them ate the other two. We had no idea that could happen as when we adopted the three of them together, we weren't warned about it
Kristen Culberson
2023-05-30 11:47:10 +0000 UTCi never saw this with my gerbils so im surprised about that! but i read a study recently indicating 75% of female golden hamsters (out of 157 observed) would eat at least some of their offspring. my cousin had some dwarf hamsters growing up and one attacked the other, because this wasnt common info when i was growing up!
OtterofLore
2023-05-29 22:15:11 +0000 UTCI'm listening to Apocalypse Cow now and as a former pet care worker I just have to say (maybe tune out Aubrey?)...hamsters default state is cannibalism. The vast majority of adult hamsters and some younger hamsters cannot be safely housed together. They will eat each other. I personally witnessed it more with the gerbils (they can be house together sometimes, but not all get along), but the dwarf and robo hamsters definitely did it occasionally too. Hamsters are also naturally omnivores, unlike every animal except humans mentioned in this episode. It's not unnatural for them to eat meat.
Loyal
2023-05-28 21:38:18 +0000 UTCš¶o o O OZEMPICš¶
Kellen
2023-05-25 15:06:43 +0000 UTCWhen I was in UK there was this "5 a day" thing and they would say "counts as 1 of your 5 a day" on frozen margarita pizza...
Meh
2023-05-23 17:53:37 +0000 UTComg there is nowhere to comment on stitcher but michael just said TRIPLEFRIVOULOUS
Jared Allen
2023-05-23 13:31:14 +0000 UTCI just moved to Germany and I was wondering if Mike had context for the weird ānutri-scoreā on EVERYTHING at the grocery store (or at least at Edeka)? Itās super obviously color-coded as ābad or goodā along with āA B C D Eā but there is absolutely no context! Itās just there. So weird. It just feels like a weird way to make people āeat healthierā when they start labelling walnuts as a B-rated. Freaking raw walnuts. Edit: grammar
Sophia Giattina
2023-05-23 11:25:00 +0000 UTCNot Goop, but "fat shaming cause airplanes" https://www.tiktok.com/@boberryvip/video/7235507435237215534?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc&web_id=6912851264091375109
yolanda goodwin
2023-05-22 00:35:07 +0000 UTCI also just heard you on Science Friday in my car and you kicked ass and sounded brilliant! Ive already binged every episode and my brain gave me a little dopamine hit when I realized "omg I get to hear Aubrey talk more! BONUS!" Thank you <3
Macon Reed
2023-05-21 18:37:14 +0000 UTCI just read the book, The Wellness Trap, and felt so informed as I knew most of the info because of this podcast (would still recommend as itās a good read)! Thank you both for hosting my all time favorite podcastāI look forward to it every week. I wonder if you could do an episode on Walter Willet and the Harvard Guide for Healthy Eating??
Tamara
2023-05-21 17:02:18 +0000 UTCAubrey! I just flipped on the radio in my car and it was Science Friday, and when they said they were going to be talking about weight loss and health I was like, "Oh no, here we go again ...." But no! Beautifully done interview to a perhaps largely new audience. Brava!
Lisa Scheff
2023-05-19 20:00:29 +0000 UTCHey would you do an episode on Noom? I keep getting ads for it (I've already tried it and didn't stick with it so no thanks). Noom claims to help you keep weight off but considering basically every diet fails I'm very dubious about their claim.
Leah Wiseman
2023-05-17 20:25:37 +0000 UTCI'm not particularly surprised by this but of course sweetener industry opposes. Unlike agriculture, I doubt there will be special protections provided to sweetener companies https://www.nytimes.com/2023/05/15/well/eat/sweeteners-weight-loss-who.html
Meh
2023-05-16 10:58:36 +0000 UTCChiming in to mention how I didn't think I would ever hear about the Alar Scare on MP! This was a very big moment in my early childhood being from a Central Washington agriculture family. My dad has never forgiven Meryl Streep (but probably for various reasons at this point).
Krystal
2023-05-15 06:25:48 +0000 UTCRe: The Rise of Veggie Libel Mike should have said Gwyneth killed people *with her vagina* ... then it's just a cultural firestorm!
Loyal
2023-05-14 18:57:46 +0000 UTCI kind of understand why people do caught up in stuff promoted by doctors or scientists, but i find it hard to understand why someone would believe a guy that claims a Spirit is sending him messages about celery.
Meh
2023-05-13 00:03:36 +0000 UTCOff topic but Iām wondering if Mike/Aubrey saw the recent Vanity Fair article on the āmedical mediumā (the celery juice guy). Very disturbing and maybe worth a bonus episode on sometimes disturbing consequences of people actually believing these hacks
Julie Ehlers
2023-05-12 20:33:54 +0000 UTCI just watched the first episode and the whole time Rama was describing what he likes about felicitas i felt physical pain ahtriaefdjadjklfas
Micaela
2023-05-12 01:59:01 +0000 UTCWhat a bonus!
Heather Snitch (Feraloidies)
2023-05-11 02:26:30 +0000 UTCDo you think the therapy helped you break up in a more positive way?
Heather Snitch (Feraloidies)
2023-05-11 02:19:55 +0000 UTCThat sounds so entirely creepy
Heather Snitch (Feraloidies)
2023-05-11 02:18:52 +0000 UTCJust popping in here after listening to Mad Cow ep to request a content warning for "you may not want to do this one while you're eating" š š„“ I'm scrolling through this feed for a palette cleanser so I can finish dinner
Kathleen Horrell
2023-05-09 23:15:16 +0000 UTCListening to the Mad Cow episode, and itās fascinating because if you asked me what Mad Cow disease is, I would say exactly what Oprahās guest said - it comes from cows eating cows. What a sticky idea. Now I wonder if Oprahās segment on it - whether directly or indirectly - is where that comes from. Also Aubrey, I had a big laugh when you talked about the local barbecue place that has an adorable pig trying to sell you pork meat. Iām from Alabama originally, and thatās such a common thing there that a local comedian from my hometown did a whole bit on how the more the pig mascot makes you feel upset that heās selling his own meat to eat, the better the barbecue there is. š
Shannon
2023-05-09 20:25:33 +0000 UTCI really loved this episode- the ending rang so true for me. My husband and I attempted couples therapy and it ultimately did not help us. This is reality for a lot of couples, but youāre right that itās not portrayed often. Iām all for more portrayal of positive breakups. Not that itās not devastating, but that people can do it amicably.
Stephanie Miller
2023-05-08 19:56:15 +0000 UTCI wish the quiz didnāt cost money!! š©š I wanted to know haha
Elizabeth Arens
2023-05-08 15:10:54 +0000 UTCEnjoyed this one as always, Mike & Aubrey! I was thinking, a great episode might be a deep dive into the lawsuits against Meta/Instagram regarding the appās promotion of disordered eating/ED content. Could be combined with the perpetual diet culture displayed on Tik Tok and the potential implications of that!
Shelbey Deegan
2023-05-07 23:12:02 +0000 UTCSo when can we expect beanie baby vulva merch?
Leah Anderson
2023-05-07 17:47:13 +0000 UTCThis got me thinking about this energy work thing I went to with a couple friends and it was pretty much a room full of people hyperventilating for 45 minutes. The guy running it was pretty good looking and most of the people there were really good looking women. The "orgasms" in the room were off the rails. I was crying because I felt nauseous and dizzy. He only talked to the loudest energy orgasmers and they all decided to do a private session later lol
heathermama7
2023-05-05 17:38:14 +0000 UTCThere are already many many podcasts, articles etc that address sex work. There's only so much they can fit in an episode.
Meh
2023-05-05 14:18:04 +0000 UTCHappy to see fellow aces in these comments. Episodes like this always make me feel uncomfy for some reason.
Bishini
2023-05-04 07:27:36 +0000 UTCLiked most of the episode but I wish you had been more critical and discussed risks w sex work etc.
Ellie
2023-05-03 22:08:53 +0000 UTCEvangelical purity culture is deeply embedded in the US, and makes talking about sex deeply taboo and difficult. Women aren't supposed to want sex or even think about it until marriage, and even then it's supposed to be vanilla positions and penetration only, nothing else. And of course Evangelicals are also the ones pushing abstinence-only sex ed, banning sex work, banning any book that talks honestly about sex as "porn," banning actual porn... it's a culture of deep dysfunction and shame around sex and it makes having these conversations really difficult even if you're not directly part of that belief system.
Beth Zyglowicz
2023-05-03 15:22:33 +0000 UTCThis was interesting! I am aroace myself so doesnt directly apply to me, but it's shocking how *little* conversation people have on this topic, vs queer communities, which as you say, are pretty upfront about "hey what are you looking for? What makes you feel good?" The ace community talks a lot about different kinds of intimacy precisely because a lot of aces don't want sex or are indifferent towards it, and what alternatives you can do that still make you feel good and close to your partner.
Beth Zyglowicz
2023-05-03 15:15:59 +0000 UTCScared/excited to listen to this, and hoping for another Caprice shoutout. Let's not let the Cheshire Housewives disappear from our collective memories.
Krystal
2023-05-02 19:31:19 +0000 UTCGreat episode guys, really loved it! I havenāt looked in the rest of the comments but speaking of Goop adjacent things, have you seen the recent Vanity Fair article about the medical medium and his assistant who died of cancer?!?
Sarah Armstrong-Crumb
2023-05-02 16:20:12 +0000 UTCThis. Is. Amazing.
Loyal
2023-05-02 08:11:04 +0000 UTCNooooo
cr0nes
2023-05-02 07:10:48 +0000 UTCyay! Also queer tran engaged to a straight cis over here! the life!
cr0nes
2023-05-02 06:53:32 +0000 UTCI asked ChatGPT to write a poem for the beanie baby tag of the beanie baby vulva that will be distributed across the US and this is what it wrote: Introducing Vee, the beanie baby bold, A shape that some might find quite untold, But don't be shy, let's all unfold, And learn together, as we're told. Vee is a vulva, there's no doubt, And with her, we can all figure out, The wonders of sex and what it's about, And how to keep ourselves from any clout. In America, where sex ed can be taboo, Vee is here to help us through, To learn the facts, the myths, the who's who, And all the things we need to pursue. So let's all welcome Vee with open arms, And take on this new way to disarm, The stigma and shame that's caused us harm, And learn about our bodies with great charm. Thank you, Vee, for being so brave, And helping us all to learn and pave, A path to knowledge that we can save, And share with others, to help and rave.
Sarah Paulson
2023-05-02 06:02:41 +0000 UTCMichael: I love you so much but you need to know about Caprice! 90s underwear model and general C list celebrity
R
2023-05-02 03:14:31 +0000 UTCYes! Sex-therapist-in-training here, and I have similar thoughts around therapists advising kegels without pelvic floor therapist input, for example, when pelvic floor therapists have differing schools of thought around them: either they can increase already-there tension, or they can build interoception/greater body awareness. I wonder if a jade egg and vaginal massage could be similarly damaging. ALSO! in the US, sex therapy never involves sexual touch of therapist-client (it's against board regulations/ethics and is considered reportable abuse), and sex therapy is differentiated from sexology in that way. ALSO, I am a big fan of the Wheel of Consent over here too :)
Abby aka Boom Boom
2023-05-02 00:21:55 +0000 UTCI came here to comment this!
Ashley Remillard
2023-05-01 23:29:16 +0000 UTCI'll have to try the test out! Hubby and I have been together for 36 years. And we've had some ups and downs within out sexual relationship. I have to say as we've gotten older and I don't know I guess began to just really trust each other and be open about whatever it is we are into at the moment, sex has only gotten better. All of my "kinky" stuff I'm into seems crazy only because no one I know (straight people) either do it or if they do do it they do not talk about it. When I was seeing a therapist before COVID hit I found out that all those things I liked were not actually terribly weird. I was ok, oh ok and felt better talking to my husband about the stuff I really wanted. It has been relationship changing
heathermama7
2023-05-01 20:11:49 +0000 UTCOk now that youāve dabbled in the good side of this therapy, would love to hear your deep dive on the āOrgasm Cultā called One Taste that I came across in my recent cult podcast binging š (unless of course youād get sued)
Katie Hounslow
2023-05-01 19:59:43 +0000 UTCMike and Aubrey, I love that you can be equally entertaining whether you are dunking on stuff or enjoying it. Maybe there should be more bonus episodes about good/fun stuff, especially as we continue to live in a bleak, bleak world. Also, I enjoy and appreciate your curiosity about straight dating/relationships and your articulate observations about them. I'm a married straight woman and it's nice to hear a view of these unspoken conventions and dynamics from an outside perspective, especially one that feels like it is sort of rooting for us :P. I have a couple queer friends who will react to stuff about dysfunctional relationships online by going "What is wrong with all these straight women?" or "Why are all straight couples like this, lmao?", sometimes in sort of a mean spirited way. It's never been directed at me personally, but it makes me feel like they aren't people I could go to with problems or concerns about my relationship. I'm sure this is how a lot of queer people feel all the time, and probably how a lot of fat people feel around their straight-sized peers (of which I am one). My goal is to never make people feel like that and always be curious and supportive, something I think this podcast is helping with (along with my own history of bad eating/exercise/body nonsense).
Allie L.
2023-05-01 19:40:25 +0000 UTCGlad to see this episode topic! I havenāt watched the whole show but I have gone through the erotic blueprint program with a coach and my partner (weāre a queer couple) if anyone has questions. In summary: Overall a good experience, and I find the blueprint applies to more than sex, but overall how you experience pleasure. Thereās a lot of talk about consent and communication, and how each person/couple is different and can change over time. Most of the participants are straight, but there was content for solo participants and at least one video in the course specifically towards queer partnered ones. I do agree about the shapeshifter comment though, it seemed a bit undefined to me. And there was some woo-woo influence as well like with energetic orgasms, but they didnāt force those views at all. If anyoneās wondering my blueprint was energetic/sensual and my partnerās was kinky. Weāre both on the aro/ace spectrum to different degrees.
Rachel Stern
2023-05-01 17:36:04 +0000 UTCYes! I loved that show
Sarah M
2023-05-01 15:44:53 +0000 UTCNot to be tmi but as a queer trans person married to a straight man, this episode gave me all the feels. š©·
MB
2023-05-01 13:32:06 +0000 UTCIf you need any other sex-positive, couple-focused shows to watch, I can really recommend "How To Build A Sex Room"! Diverse, fun and not Gwyneth-related š
frost
2023-05-01 11:28:35 +0000 UTCSo tired of Gwyneth, maybe time to move past her. I have a very long commute 2 days a week and have gone back over earlier episodes, in many of which you made reference to ghoulish companies or products and suggested entire episodes could be made on them. There's gotta be more in the tank than more Gwyneth. Please, tell me there's more. Also, full disclosure: this is my response to seeing the title, I'm just about to listen to it, but this is the response I have when I see 'Goop' or 'Gwyneth'. I may need to recant later (question mark)
Alanna OConnell
2023-05-01 06:43:37 +0000 UTCThis wasn't it for me. Not stuff I'm interested in at all. Bit I jist love u guys together. Especially Michael. I LOVED "you're wrong about" and tried to keep watching when he left. And just couldn't. The dynamic between Mike and Sarah was amazing and I loved it. So Mike, I'm sorry but u have to go back to Sarah, keep doing this and keep doing "if books could kill " then we would live happily ever after.
Carly Brindley
2023-05-01 03:50:45 +0000 UTCI am surprised by all of the surprised comments!
Emily Baker
2023-04-30 21:13:56 +0000 UTCInteresting.. In the 90s and maybe early 2000s, there was a sumo wrestler that died from a heart attack when they were 30ish. There was a lot of criticism of sumo practices at that time.
Meh
2023-04-30 20:59:41 +0000 UTCthis reminds me a lot of the showtime show called couples therapy, theyre real couples but the show is so real and honest about relationship struggles! it's also very diverse in the types and compositions of the couples. highly recommend
Delaney and Willa (Room 607)
2023-04-30 20:51:29 +0000 UTCI both want to know and absolutely respect their choice to not share that with thousands of strangers. :)
Alexis Logsdon
2023-04-30 19:58:51 +0000 UTCI so appreciate that about Mike and Aubrey, too. They donāt just dunk on people to dunk on them. They genuinely get into the nuance of āthis person believes/peddles some really harmful shit AND also, they did this other thing that was like actually okay or even good.ā - We love to see these shades of grey and not just black & white extremism in journalism and science and all the things! šš½šš½šš½
Ember
2023-04-30 19:03:49 +0000 UTCI was thinking the same thing! Would love to know. That was a super interesting If Books Could Kill episode!
Ember
2023-04-30 19:02:24 +0000 UTCAs a queer nonbinary person, their discussion helped me realize that my worst relationship was so bad because that guy thought we were a straight couple lol
Rebecca Riley
2023-04-30 18:57:21 +0000 UTCmy aunt was in episode five about the family constellations! our family had no idea this is what she does lmfao. also those arenāt strangers in the background - theyāre definitely friends and family and maybe paid actors, her nephew is in the background š„“ sheās very woo woo and no one really likes her lolol
zoe
2023-04-30 17:25:03 +0000 UTCYES I really loved this episode and ended up watching the series. I need more guidance on discussing sex with a partner.
Brie Melton
2023-04-30 08:29:24 +0000 UTCSuch a good show!
Kimitri Wright
2023-04-30 03:23:06 +0000 UTCHello, new patreon person here. Binging all the bonuses I missed. Wanted to make a request for a bonus on Sumo wrestlers I remember seeing a video on how a sumo wrestler eats and stays fit and it was interesting because the normal fatphobia just didn't appear to apply in this context even in a country which seems to really uphold thinness.
Kimitri Wright
2023-04-30 03:19:55 +0000 UTCGreat show
Amanda
2023-04-30 02:36:25 +0000 UTCSo glad this is being discussed! Having moved in American Evangelical spaces for two decades (thank god I'm out) I can tell you MANY women who have been married to a man for decades have never had an orgasm with their husband. I know one woman who was married for over a year before either of them even know a woman could have an orgasm! Evangelical books written for women explicitly tell women that sex is a need for men and that he also needs to see your see you enjoy it. In so many words, they tell women to fake orgasm. So nothing ever changes. It's wild.
Lisa Manske
2023-04-30 01:11:29 +0000 UTCaubrey and mike watch ācouples therapyā on showtime pleeeaase!šš
Shelby Pogue
2023-04-30 00:53:04 +0000 UTCThinking about Rama and Felisitasāsometimes people just donāt love each other anymore
Kathryn Johnson
2023-04-29 22:38:29 +0000 UTCMe at approximately the 9 minute mark: "This sounds tragically heterosexual."
Seymore Sinn
2023-04-29 18:38:58 +0000 UTCāWe donāt have a lot of cultural templates for healthy breakups.ā All I could think was *conscious uncoupling* š¤£ I skeptically watched this show and itās about time we addressed how women are often defined sexually by the desires and ego of their (male) partners. Appreciated that they had queer couples on the show too!
Julie Carlson
2023-04-29 17:40:17 +0000 UTCI'm curious as to whether Michael recorded this before or after reading The Five Love Languages for If Books Could Kill.
Regina Randolph
2023-04-29 17:10:31 +0000 UTCI really respect that this episode views Goop in a positive light. Iām not a Goop fan by any means, I just think this is a great example of how Maintenance Phase critically looks at media instead of just reporting on their already established biases. In other words, this is a great example of responsible journalism.
Gwennie Richards
2023-04-29 16:55:00 +0000 UTCI love love love you all platforming something positively - I didnāt expect to but just love also hearing why you love things just as much as when you debunk unhelpful things. Also, more positive sex content. What a dearth Iād love you all to fill. Having positive sexual health is totally wellness!
Ashley Morel
2023-04-29 15:42:25 +0000 UTCBonus episode where Aubrey and Michael plan the chart of Gwyneth Paltrow's influence on the world from worst to kind of OK?
Amanda M Jantzi
2023-04-29 15:33:28 +0000 UTCThe sex therapy reminded me of the pelvic floor PT I had after having a baby (highly recommend). I was mostly there for some lingering nerve pain/muscle tension but they can definitely help with sexual function. I donāt see how itās that different.
KMB24
2023-04-29 14:34:13 +0000 UTCThe experience of being pleasantly surprised by anything Goop was not something I anticipated. š
Sarah Cottrell
2023-04-29 13:29:11 +0000 UTC"I don't want to smell anything" = FACTS.
Melissa Elgersma
2023-04-29 12:59:32 +0000 UTCthe stiltedness and caution of straight dating is unfortunately very real but it's still mystifying to me how little many people in relationships communicate. I can understand it when you're still getting to know each other, but when you've been together for years??
Nemo
2023-04-29 11:54:29 +0000 UTCIām sorry that happened to you. Iāve had similar experiences. It sucks. The echoes of that violence still impacts my ability to trust and communicate around sex with my current partner (who Iāve been with for 17 years and is wonderful). Listening to these kinds of conversations and seeing your comment are validating; they help me feel motivated to keep striving for uncomplicated trust in conversations around sexual desires. Unfortunately, trust feels like itās only half of the challenge (in my situation); as someone who was raised/socialized as a girl in North America, it can be so frickinā hard to identify those actual specific desires.
Dana Elaine
2023-04-29 11:20:37 +0000 UTCI had the same challenge. If you scroll to the bottom and keep looking for a free option, I believe you can find it. Trust me that it (at least when I took it a few weeks ago) is there.
Dana Elaine
2023-04-29 11:09:32 +0000 UTC*continues crocheting sexual and reproductive organs*ā¦ what?
Sarah
2023-04-29 08:21:11 +0000 UTCMy partner and I were thinking about that show too! We loved it and it sounds like, as nice as some of this goop show was, the sex room show lady was more effective in helping the couples she worked with. Especially the ones who weren't connecting sexually the way they wanted to be. And the polycule sex room coverage was so good and so wholesome!
Loyal
2023-04-29 08:04:24 +0000 UTCOne thing I saw differently is the scene where Aubrey is describing Rama and Fellicitas coming up with the sexy names for each other. For a moment, they both let their baggage and guard down and there was obvious sexual energy between them. He was expressing that his name meant king and that he wanted to be king of everything. And she said she would like that. You could feel the D/s role reversal desires. It was momentary but it was there. Just had to pop in to say that because I was so upset when I was listening. Like hey give them a little credit š
Cara
2023-04-29 06:49:54 +0000 UTCMichael coming in with the low key cosmo headline: āto get the sex you want, coddle his EGO!ā
Grace
2023-04-29 04:39:34 +0000 UTCTrying to do this quiz and they want to charge me $17 USD absolutely not
Orla Spurr
2023-04-29 03:42:22 +0000 UTCAck. I got the ad video for that, McC enthusiastically inviting us for vaguely described talky event with that list of McGuru grifters like Tony Robbins. Yecch. (Michael or Aubrey may want to log in to it for research, but yecch.)
Jeanne H-B
2023-04-29 03:27:36 +0000 UTCHard same. Cohabitation is complicated enough without having a whole 'nother set of things.
Kuro
2023-04-29 01:27:44 +0000 UTCYāall should give the show ācouples therapyā on showtime a go! Each season follows various couples inā¦ couples therapy! As a psych phd studentā¦ I have someā¦ questions about the ethics of therapy being televised like that but my overall impression is that itās pretty good. Itās so interesting watching all the dynamics and ways people work on their relationship
Stephanie Estrera
2023-04-29 01:22:04 +0000 UTCI appreciated this conversation. Over the past couple years I've started talking to the guys I have sex with about our sex and it's kind of mind-blowing how they've never done that with a partner before and at first they're confused about why we'd talk about it.
Sarah S
2023-04-29 00:49:01 +0000 UTCI wanted them to talk about the Love Languages connection more. š
Laura Cullen
2023-04-29 00:41:30 +0000 UTCDevastated that we donāt get to know Mike and Aubreyās sexual types.
Carly Gove
2023-04-28 23:02:44 +0000 UTCI'm glad y'all talked about the fears of women (maybe--just talking as a lady here) of not being like "oh, you big wonderful lover!" I had a boyfriend in college who asked if I had an orgasm. I said no, but I really liked it. He slapped me. I don't think that's the norm, but also nobody wants to risk even having someone that you really like being upset with you, let alone violence.
WOOD, MORGAN
2023-04-28 22:47:18 +0000 UTCI can now die happy having heard Aubrey say the words ābeanie baby vulvaā
Gabrielle Montgomery
2023-04-28 22:43:59 +0000 UTCI'm bisexual and my husband is straight, and we tend to communicate a lot about sex and what we do and don't like. I'm not sure if this is because we just find the het models inadequate, or if it's because we're both neurodivergent and are very aware that we can't read each other's minds. But the way a lot of North American straight couples seem to just never talk to each other about sex (and if they're not talking about sex, are they not talking about other stuff too?) really baffles me.
Anna O.
2023-04-28 22:22:18 +0000 UTCThe beanie baby closer š¤£š¤£š¤£
ML Tafoya
2023-04-28 22:00:58 +0000 UTCLoved this episode!! I donāt think Iāve heard a conversation about heterosexual relationships from the perspective of queer people before. At least not in this way. Iām a woman in a hetero relationship and this was really a refreshing and validating listen about het relationship gender dynamics.
Ainsley
2023-04-28 21:15:54 +0000 UTCWho are this people and what have they done to Michael and Aubrey? Hahaha just kidding! I love how how you are super consistent with your objectivity. Even if that means admitting sometimes Goop is right.
Adriana Ortega
2023-04-28 20:56:42 +0000 UTCAubrey make I suggest adding nostril waxing videos to your pimple poppin/earwax playlist? So satisfying!!! š
Lauren
2023-04-28 20:22:00 +0000 UTCMichael I'm with you on the sex stuff. Do whatever consenting thing you want, just get a room please! š Also l'm looking the other way when I get my blood drawn. And I don't even want to hear the words "p----e p-----g." š¤¢
Monica M
2023-04-28 20:00:21 +0000 UTCLoved this bonus ep!!!
Molly
2023-04-28 19:41:37 +0000 UTCIn feels like we have an intrinsic memory of the morality of the Puritan colonialists who settled Massachusetts in the 17th century in our DNA
Cora Bennett
2023-04-28 19:00:47 +0000 UTCThis was truly new information for me to learn straight people dont discuss their sex life. I think it is very US specific. I dont talk about my sex life unless I am thinking about or about to have sex with someone. Then ALWAYS. I just dont have time for bad sex
JĆŗlĆa BirgisdĆ³ttir
2023-04-28 17:57:53 +0000 UTCThe show āCouples Therapyā on Showtime is beginning itās fourth season this month. It provides an honest exploration of relationship dynamics with a diverse set of problems. I cannot recommend this show enough!
Patricia Darling
2023-04-28 17:34:02 +0000 UTCNothing like being an Erudite in the bedroom, lol
Liza
2023-04-28 17:19:02 +0000 UTCPlease make this episode free, then advertise it.
KGB
2023-04-28 17:13:17 +0000 UTCI swear so many straight couples just... don't talk to each other? I never want to fall into the poly/queer is better than mono/straight trap, but damn, people need to TALK.
Emily
2023-04-28 17:00:31 +0000 UTCAs a very kinky, bisexual, polyam woman I found myself chuckling at them describing the reluctance some women have at telling their male partner that they want to orgasm too. One of my current partners was not very experienced prior to dating me and was a little shocked when I told him that yes, I too needed and expected to orgasm during sex. But he learned and he learned fast, which is why I kept him around. If he hadn't gotten on board I would have not seen him anymore because my husband and my other partner adore making women orgasm and I don't have time for a partner who doesn't want to be in a sexually equal relationship. I feel so bad for cishet women (and men). They need to talk to us queers more.
Emily
2023-04-28 16:57:23 +0000 UTCIs it bad that all I could think about when you were talking about the erotic blueprints, all I could think about was the different houses from Divergent?
Cyrus Quartz
2023-04-28 16:22:47 +0000 UTCAmericans really have a weird attitude to sex and sex work. In Australia, you can include sex workers in your publicly funded individualised package for disability support - criteria is "reasonable and necessary supports" This has been unanimously upheld by federal court https://www.theguardian.com/australia-news/2020/may/12/ndis-funds-pay-sex-workers-court-rules
Meh
2023-04-28 15:53:40 +0000 UTCI genuinely love the commentary from both of you on heterosexual relationships as observers. Super interesting listening as a straight woman.
Alysa Villelli
2023-04-28 15:44:36 +0000 UTCAgree. When everything is lumped into "sex", healthy physical engagement with kids or friends becomes suspicious. I am very affectionate with my kids - it is not sexual at all and I deeply resent the suspicion. And as a society, we have a hard time differentiating healthy with unhealthy physical engagement (i.e. ignoring boundaries, changing behavior based on who is in the room, lying, etc), which just aids predators.
Siobhan Green
2023-04-28 15:24:09 +0000 UTCHearing Aubrey and Mike witnessing and processing ~Hetero Hell~ is incredible
breanne
2023-04-28 15:21:51 +0000 UTCCould you *please* do a spin off or make recommendations for podcasts about healthy sex!! Esp with all the conservative bs banning books and calling all lgbtqi people groomers. Gotta counter that narrative!!
Siobhan Green
2023-04-28 15:19:09 +0000 UTCFounded by Joseph Kramer?? Joseph and Kramer are the names of my two cats. Joseph as in Joseph Smith, the mormon prophet (I thought it would be funny and it is) and Kramer like from Seinfeld, because he runs into the room with that look in his eyes as if heās about to tell you about his plan for a restaurant where you make your own pizza. But also now I know that Joseph Kramer was a famous sexologist. Hell yeah
Virginia Smith
2023-04-28 14:52:36 +0000 UTCJust started it and I have to say, I am *just like Michael.* Iām sex-positive but when I start thinking about, like, fluids, I get squicked out. And all the other things heās grossed out by, so am I. The thing that gets me the most is puke scenes in movies/TV. WHHHYYYYY do they have to show that stuff? I have to turn away and cover my ears, like people do with horror scenes.
Rachel Goldberg
2023-04-28 14:45:09 +0000 UTCThis got me thinking about the how to build a sex room show Netflix did that turned out totally wholesome and heartwarming.
Sara Ezzat
2023-04-28 14:39:20 +0000 UTCSame!! I was worried I wouldnāt be able to listen to the episode.
Clarytee
2023-04-28 14:19:35 +0000 UTCSidebar: I know it was as just a movie regerence but youāre not like Matthew McConaughey ā¦ heās become the kind of grifter you cover š He recently had an online course/funnel featuring Tony Robbins and Marie Forleo.
Clarytee
2023-04-28 14:18:34 +0000 UTCOK, where's Michael's Myers-Briggs episode?
Rebecca Bullock Godwin
2023-04-28 13:47:16 +0000 UTCA show that helps couples become more open and communicative with each other sounds like a healthy idea, but I think when something calls itself "sex positive" and then links everything to sex, fails the sex positivity movement. When that lady called the couple cuddling and opening up to each other "orgasmic" made me so uncomfortable. I think being able to differentiate when things are and are not sexual is a major component to consent and sexual health. And by that I mean "romantic and non-sexual" and also "platonic and non-sexual". It creates a lot of misunderstandings and stunts what platonic relationships can look like. It would take an dissertation to get into it. I guess it also is personal for me, as I am aro/ace and *nothing* I do is either romantic or sexual. It drives me insane how many men assume my platonic interactions are an invitation for something. Edit: Wow, I wasn't expecting any engagement lol but it reminded me of a point I didn't know how to articulate before. I think "sex shaming" and "everything is over-sexualized" is actually the same social issue. If a group of people can convince society that sex is shameful, then they need only keep sexualizing non-sexual acts and attitudes to make those equally as shameful. Which is maybe why I'm highly suspicious of this flavor of sex positivity. Because it misses the point. It isn't just that sex isn't shameful, it's also having to recognize why shame is weaponized and who is being told to keep in line. If you buy into the original framing of the oppressors, then you will inadvertently validate parts of their argument. Which is just another foothold for the next time around.
Duck
2023-04-28 13:42:17 +0000 UTCAs someone in a poly relationship, a couple things really resonated: 1) Aubrey's joking "poly people exist and have a baby!" Loved the casual normalization there. 2) The discussion around the conversations that straight couples often don't have. Being poly, there are a LOT of conversations my partner and I have had around boundaries and such, that have really improved our relationship even irrespective of being poly.
Margaret Downs
2023-04-28 13:30:46 +0000 UTCThey've done some other Goop-centric episodes/segments before! Always a wild time.
Green
2023-04-28 13:23:18 +0000 UTCGreat episode! I feel like Iām going crazy though. Did you post this and the 10,000 steps episodes before? Especially with the 10,000 steps one I had such a strong feeling of deja vu. This one I think might just remind me of another bonus episode that was also about a Goop Netflix show? Not meant as criticism. Both great listens. Just wondering if Iām losing it
Matilde Augusta
2023-04-28 13:06:34 +0000 UTCOof the conversation around flattering male ego as a protective factor in hetero sex is hitting hard.
Kristin Robinson
2023-04-28 13:04:17 +0000 UTCSo glad I am aro/ace after listening to this. It sounds exhausting.
Karen (Renkade)
2023-04-28 12:56:26 +0000 UTCI watched this show back in quarantine and really liked it. I loved your review too, great talk. Michael makes a great point about how weird the dynamic of straight couples sex lives are. Overall I think people are greatly lacking in sexual education. TONS of males do not know how the female body works and have no idea about the difference of orgasms between genders. Theyāre trying (I use the word trying very loosely) to give female orgasms with the male orgasm approach. Great talk guys. Thank you, much love.
Lily Cortellessa
2023-04-28 12:37:36 +0000 UTCI live in the Netherlands and sexology is legal and not uncommon here. My husband and I are currently working with an 'intimacy therapist/coach' who uses Betty Martin's Wheel of Consent and this is one of the main models that is available for couples to frame conversations. There are others but this one is really well known over here. One thing to be wary of in working with a sex therapist or sexologist is that this very legitimate and needed form of help for anyone who needs it has sometimes morphed into unsound and unproven woo woo practices such as 'jade egg', and vaginal massage, which is used in spiritual circles to (supposedly) help women get over sexual abuse trauma. I'm a trauma therapist and I shudder whenever I hear about this shit; not because it definitely doesn't *ever* "work", but because the risks outweigh the benefits and we have other evidence-based and much safer methods we can use that are equally if not more effective. And in the hands of the wrong person (or with the hands I should say) there's a high risk of things going wrong and it gives the whole field a bad taint.
Suzan Lemont
2023-04-28 12:16:42 +0000 UTCYou guys nailed it with the weird baggage us straight people bring to sex through American culture and gender norms. Thanks for that.
Jeff Puckett
2023-04-28 11:59:42 +0000 UTCI am not even 2 minutes in and I am 100% on team squeamish! Same here I hate those videos!!!
Ellen James
2023-04-28 11:41:40 +0000 UTCDoes anyone else love Michaelās sexy voice around 7:50?
Kathryn Martinez
2023-04-28 11:17:14 +0000 UTCLess than 2 minutes in and I have never related to Michael more. The concept of pimple popping videos makes me want to claw my skin off. ...that said, I find surgical videos fascinating. Don't want to think about pimples, but I do want to see what the internal organs are up to.
Mikah
2023-04-28 11:02:24 +0000 UTCMichael you are not alone on the squeamishness about certain bodily fluids ughhh
Lucy Turton
2023-04-28 09:53:36 +0000 UTC
