Love in the Big City Ep. 3 & 4
Added 2024-10-29 13:12:03 +0000 UTCComments
can’t enjoy more to rewatch with you💪go through all your drama reactions you really share a lots of thoughts instead of just “react” . love that! Can’t wait for the following episodes👏 actually I enjoyed all 4 chapters of this story but ep3/4 just feels different, maybe because main character fell more in this relationship, so as an viewer i think the emotional are 10x stronger in this chapter 🤔
hana D
2024-10-31 14:25:43 +0000 UTCYesss Zb1 is one the funniest groups out there
Cato
2024-10-31 11:54:07 +0000 UTCcould u finish boys planet plz plz plz :,(
sv
2024-10-30 02:16:04 +0000 UTCI can't wait to see your reaction to the next two eps but I think my fav ep overall was ep 4 even though everthing we discovered was hurtful.
Saeng
2024-10-30 01:49:23 +0000 UTCThank you for your reactions! I always enjoy hearing your perspective. I'm probably gonna rant so nw if no one reads this :>. For these two episodes, I had a different opinion about Yoonsoo, particularly the part where you said that as a philosopher, he concentrates on the grander 'concepts' but misses the smaller ones. The way I saw it is that Yoonsoo in particular struggles with internalised homophobia (as you noted too), and he is not only well aware of it but it is the root of every one of his conscious decisions. To be more specific, when we first get introduced to him, the show signals to us that Yoonsoo is a very charismatic and observant person: he tells us later, but he basically observed from the get go that Go Young is gay, and was correct. So during their first meeting, every one of his actions are intentional ways to get Go Young's attention, starting from how he drinks from his cup, to using that as an excuse to "make up" for it and take him to a café. I think his apparent 'clumsiness' is more like an amusing act for him, and I don't mean this in a particularly negative or ill-intentioned way. Just that it solidifies how aware he is of the circumstances, and is excellent at then directing the situation in any way he wants. We see this notably when he starts 'trauma dumping'. I don't think you ever realised actually, but he wasn't talking about himself in that moment. He was reciting Stephen King's novel called 'On Writing', and was waiting to see if Go Young would notice. That's why we see the shift from Go Young's behaviour, from calling Yoonsoo a "narcissist he has no intention of getting involved with" and looking extremely fed up when he thinks Yoonsoo is trauma dumping, to having an epiphany, when he realises that Yoonsoo is stating lines from a book. That's when Go Young himself mentions "Stephen King", and starts smiling and playing along with Yoonsoo, and is why he starts to think of him as super attractive, not because of his appearance but because of his smoothness basically. Another aspect that proves Yoonsoo's awareness in this scene, is that, when you think about, Yoonsoo invited Go Young to the café, yet intentionally doesn't say anything, whilst Go Young tries to make polite conversation for an interaction he didn't even want to have. Then Yoonsoo plays the trick on him, and that catches Go Young's attention. You can only do that if you have a strong understanding of how people think and behave. And this carries onto different aspects of their relationship. From my understanding, it is heavily implied that Yoonsoo came from a homophobic household (with how he often mentions that, in contrast, Go Young, seems to have been raised with "love" /has the face of someone who has been loved, because Yoonsoo wasn't). Moreover, about the research thing, which is tied to the colleagues he runs into in the parc, it's implied that the "activist" group he's a part of, is actually an actively homophobic activist group (the type that organises protests against Pride events in South Korea). So it's not that he was in a relationship with Go Young because he was studying him, as an outsider, but because his work revolves around homophobic rhetoric, and that is why Go Young has the flashback to his mum, who shares similarities with Yoonsoo. Otherwise, Go Young would have addressed the idea that Yoonsoo only dated him for research, but i don't believe that is the case. To me, this whole episode is about the emotional violence of having people you care about, spew out hatred, essentially (homophobia is a form of violence), to you. That is what is hurtful. That's why, to me, the most violent exchange between Go Young and Yoonsoo isn't even the fight scene or the other cruelities he said/did, it's the sentence where Yoonsoo says "I hope you meet a good man...or should i say, woman?", because although he is indeed playing the 'bad guy' to break things up, he's doing it in the most violent way: the cutting pain of subjecting someone who is queer to the most vile rhetoric that a queer person is indirectly exposed to in their every day life, but which is now personified as a direct, resurfacing, stabbing wound. I think that's why I thought the suicide was perfectly placed right after this altercation, because as you said, it's due to everything Go Young has gone through, but more subtly, it shows you just how vulnerable queer people can be, and how much strength it takes subconsciously and consciously, to live in an inherently heteronormative society, even if there is "progress" along the way. I see Yoonsoo as someone who is very aware of this violence, as we see throughout their story, with how he calculates everything he does, especially when he's with Go Young. When you think about all the events from his perspective, from the start, Yoonsoo intentionally chooses food places that are associated more so with guy friends / friends hanging out platonically, and actively avoids places with romantic connotations (like fine dining), he also refers to the club they go into during halloween as "barbaric" and a place he wanted to get out of (because the kinds of clubs Go Young goes to have a more liberated and open 'gay culture', and that's no coincidence). I believe the reason why Yoonsoo even followed Go Young there, in the first place, was not random. It was a conscious choice to give into Go Young just a little bit, despite his meticulous approach and homophobia, because he has real feelings for Go Young earlier on. He's too calculative for him to not have realised where Go Young wanted to take him beforehand, and this transpires in other interactions, such as when they're in the parc, and he places his finger on top's of Go Young's hand, despite them being in public. His romantic feelings for Go Young are very real, and it was never just for research, but he has no intention of letting go of his ties to his background, and work. So when it comes to the point where he can only choose one or the other in his life, esp when he realises that if he doesnt it'll only keep hurting Go Young, he picks the former. But most of his actions are him pretty much in full control of where the relationship is headed, and you see this in that one longer sensual scene, where he picks up, places, positions Go Young exactly where he wants him to be, and is also aggressive (revealing a little bit of his conflictedness regarding his identity), but is passionate (reflecting his intense feelings for Go Young). Ouf that was long but hopefully not bothersome and if anyone does read this, that it was somewhat insightful or enjoyable.
LilyLiv
2024-10-29 22:17:46 +0000 UTCYour decision to make 2 episodes per video is great since each 2 episodes are directed by different people ! Regarding go young i feel like he has depression, there's so many action and sentence that make me think that, and even tho it’s not something he acknowledge I feel like it plays a big parts on how he view romantic relationship. Also, about the masculine/feminine queer presentation, I’m a lesbian with a really feminine look, and when straight people learn that, they are always « judging by your look I didn’t think you were a lesbian but I always thought they were something not straight about you » like damn you can sense something but because I’m not what you would expect from a lesbian I can’t be one ? (And tbh even my way of dressing feminine is not what a straight woman would wear), like ofc queer fashion is a thing when you know that it always has been a way between queer people to recognise each other, but the way straight people always thinks of the stereotype « a lesbian is masculine and a gay is feminine » is tiring, I hope someday they will broaden their way of thinking.
Léa
2024-10-29 21:25:44 +0000 UTChis relationship with his mum is so painful. when you've had a parent give you such a traumatic experience but when you're older it's almost like it didn't happen in their minds (they'd never acknowledge it). Its horrible when its your only experience of familal love.
jin
2024-10-29 20:01:14 +0000 UTCThis episodes truly shows the pain of being queer and it captures it perfectly, I’ve never felt this kind of emotions watching a bl 😭
Rii7e
2024-10-29 19:23:10 +0000 UTCi haven't read the novel so i can't speak on this confidently but the way i saw it, the researcher wrote the paper during his relationship w/ young because he was struggling with internalised homophobia and had to find a way to 'justify' keeping the relationship going? so i think his feelings were genuine but they were doomed to go nowhere and he knew that, hence the brutal breakup that he apologised for in the letter. their chemistry was insane but like you said during the reaction, philosophical types usually miss the everyday, important things for larger concepts (or consequences). that rang true for their relationship from the jump RIP god, i've had that song they listened to/ young and his mum hummed at the end on repeat ever since i first watched the ep. the bits with his mum hit me really hard. loving these reactions a lot!!!
Aaron S.
2024-10-29 18:23:43 +0000 UTCI think he found it easy to forgive his mom because her intentions were not to harm. She genuinely thought she was helping in, and there is no doubt that she loves him. General question: If you had to choose between understanding and acceptance. What would you choose? I always pick understanding. Can you accept what you do not understand? Is it real acceptance when you do not understand? I want to know what everyone's opinion is on this.
claireisuche
2024-10-29 17:49:04 +0000 UTCnot gonna lie, ep 3-4 is actually my favorite, because of the anxiety and uncertainty of their relationships... and from the description in the novel, is yes Yeong Soo (the editor guys) had real feeling for Go Young. But his internal homophobic, his religious, and his coward attitude is bigger than his love for Go Young
Aruna Aksa
2024-10-29 16:08:10 +0000 UTCcan't wait for ep 5 and 6. they are my favourite
Quynh Nguyen
2024-10-29 14:26:30 +0000 UTCFIRST
Adebola Olorunfemi
2024-10-29 13:16:09 +0000 UTC
