venting 😕
Added 2024-08-03 00:01:01 +0000 UTCI guess that's the life lesson right there, eh? Dang.
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I’m sorry that things didn’t go to plan and that they aren’t letting you change to a 1room apartment ant. And please don’t apologise or worry that you are annoying anyone. Some may be here for only the reactions but I and many more support you for being yourself. I know that sometimes it feels better to talk to someone so please never feel bad for talking about your feelings/thoughts here. I hope that everything gets better soon and that this is like a setback for many steps forward in the future! I wish you the best ant! 💜💜
Caroline esho
2024-08-09 18:51:01 +0000 UTCDefinitely feel comfortable to keep sharing your frustrations! Sometimes things just suck for a period of time and having these outlets are part of how to persevere through. When I have times like this I usually try to be a 'light at the end of the tunnel' type of person and even if you don't know exactly when things might get better set mini goals. That way you have something to focus in on one step at a time and you're not overthinking but just making steady progress.
mssmercedes
2024-08-04 21:14:28 +0000 UTCI've been living alone for a while now. But I had a friend roommate before that that I lived with for a few years. She was part of reason I left. That transition was hard. I didn't like sleeping alone for the 1st week or 2. Rent was cheaper then, $950 for 1 bedroom, but I was making $13 an hour then. So I was barely scraping by. I didn't have a car at the time either. The stress of paying everything was through the roof. But everything in the long run worked out. And it turned out, I love living alone, even though money can be tight some months. Sometimes it gets lonely, but that when I try to do things out the apartment. Now I'm doing my best to not have a roommate, for when my lease is up.
Starr
2024-08-03 10:24:47 +0000 UTCSounds good dude! Lmk
Frankie
2024-08-03 03:52:30 +0000 UTCHonestly it just sucks that whatever plans you had fell through it and it really was not in your hands. Sometimes we just have to pick ourselves back up and deal with the hand thats given to us. And its fucking hard and brutal and tiring and it feels like no one's on your side. Don't feel bad about venting here or explaining your situation especially if its helpful for your mental health. I always think when I'm in a situation like this talking about it always helps and talking about it with supportive people whether thats family/friends or even nice strangers. Anytime I've isolated myself during hardships it never really helped all that much. Its very easy to sit there and get stuck in your head. I think the best you can do right now is remind yourself that nothing was your fault, you're doing the best that you can do at this moment. If you can find a roommate that will help you out financially until this lease is up and hopefully in the near future you'll be more comfortable financially to move or maybe you'll want to stay where you're at. Your grandmother is right, you can do it!
pr37
2024-08-03 03:44:06 +0000 UTCdon't apologize or feel guilty at all for venting!! i really hate it for you that all this has happened. i've never really been in a situation like yours... but as someone who has very bad anxiety, i'm sure some of the things you're feeling are things i deal with often (sometimes for no real reason at all ☹️). try not to dwell on things out of your control & take it day by day, easier said than done i know. when i get into a bad place i tend to allow myself to just wallow in regrets then start to feel helpless or fear things not getting better. so i have to keep telling myself: "this is how things are right now, but this isn't how things will be forever." that seems obvious or cliche lol, but i guess that's just my way of accepting the present so i can focus on getting to where i want to be in the future.
chelsey
2024-08-03 03:38:19 +0000 UTCMe too, thank you! I hope you're doing well!
anthonytoo
2024-08-03 03:35:07 +0000 UTCBruh I was literally feeling hopeful for actually mustering up the courage to walk to the leasing office, then having 3 agents and the manager all ask why and yell to "just find a roommate" at me like I got friends down here really irked me LMAO. 😭😭 I appreciate it, you stay safe too!!
anthonytoo
2024-08-03 03:34:50 +0000 UTCNooo, I'm super sorry to hear it. It sucks that all of this is the norm, it's ridiculous. How did you adjust to living alone (if it's your first time)? Bearing the stress with friends last time made it easy, did not realize it would feel like this much, alone yo. Def sucks 😭
anthonytoo
2024-08-03 03:33:23 +0000 UTCTruly does man. I appreciate you man, I'd actually love that. Will work on the positivity aspect and I might end up hitting you up one of these days to hop on the game or something if I set my consoles up soon.
anthonytoo
2024-08-03 03:31:08 +0000 UTCI believe in you hun. Just make sure to vet roommates well! The most important thing is that they are respectful and reliable! Best random roommates I have found were traveling nurses.
Lauren Freeman
2024-08-03 03:29:15 +0000 UTCI appreciate you sharing your experience, I had a pretty similar situation like that when I tried going to college, it was so stupid. People just preferred not being around each other and it's crazy because you all were once cool, but then they say you never know how someone truly is until ya live with them. Crazy. It's unfortunate because that's literally how I'm feeling, like bruh, I wasn't ready/wanting to be alone yet, but now it's cooked lol. Thank you for the encouragement to hold out, I will try to. No need for you to apologize, but I appreciate you listening and sharing. Love going right back your way 🖤
anthonytoo
2024-08-03 03:28:32 +0000 UTCOkay, thank you. I will look more into the roommate thing and see what I can find. I appreciate the encouragement Lauren!
anthonytoo
2024-08-03 03:26:24 +0000 UTCNothing much to say that hasn't been said already but we believe in you, you've made other things work for you and you've gotten this far, you got this!!
Daniela V.
2024-08-03 03:10:06 +0000 UTCpls don’t feel bad for sharing things about your life! you’ve mentioned before how you really want this to be a community here so those who are here (not solely for specific reactions) will appreciate your willingness to be open and communicate with us, regardless if it’s bad news, good news, or just random tidbits of information. plus if we’re being realistic, the people only here for certain content can (and would likely) just scroll past to the content of their choice.. anyways, i am glad to hear that your grandma is being nice and supportive about this move. being alone in this kind of situation, especially seeing as it was NOT planned for, would be daunting for anyone. unfortunately, i have no advice on that aspect bc i’ve always either been at home or had roommates when i wasn’t at home :/ it also is so shitty that the rental company won’t allow you to switch to a 1 bedroom unit, especially because you’d still be a tenant in one of their apartment vacancies?! does your contract have anything in it regarding an apartment switch within the same complex? or a grace period after signing the lease, or any sort of clause that could work to your advantage? i’m sorry that this whole situation just kinda fell on you though :/ having all your plans and choices fall through, completely out of your control, definitely can feel like the world is against you ngl. it’s easier said than done, but trying to not focus as much on the hypotheticals is the only way to kind of push forward in the moment.. which ik is hard af to do.. like personally, i have to force myself to stop doing it a lot. my brain starts thinking “see if i had ___ or if it had ___ then ___ would’ve already..” but you gotta stop the train of thought right there like “ok yes. but you didn’t ___ /it didn’t happen and this is where you’re currently at” and you just gotta go from there. just kind of forcing yourself to accept the reality and ignore what could’ve been, so that you can eventually move past it fr. idk if that made sense at all but we’re always here for you, if you ever need to talk, i’m sure any of us in the comments section here would lend you a listening ear~ tldr; i’m bad with advice but rooting for you always and hoping everything works out in your favor in the end
jam
2024-08-03 02:42:43 +0000 UTCfirst off, never feel bad about ranting. i know there are some people here strictly for reactions and that's cool! but you have so many supporters and friends here that genuinely care about you and these rant and vent sessions are totally valid. i have been where you are and i know the stress and pain you are feeling rn. the first time i ever moved out on my own was with my best friend and my SO and it didn't last but a few months. my bestie and SO butted heads all the time and it was so toxic at our spot that all 3 of us were never there at the same time. after about 3 months my bestie literally texted me one day saying they were leaving and when i got home from work all their stuff was gone. then shortly after i split with my ex and i was stuck in a 2bd by myself in FL and that shit is not affordable for anyone, especially me who was 20 at the time. honestly made me terrified to ever get my own place again bc you really can't do it with an average income without roommates and that bites. i truly am sorry that you're going through this and i know words only mean so much when it comes to financial issues, but maybe knowing that there are other people who have gone through similar situations will help you feel not so alone or take some of that guilt and frustration off your shoulders. some things just are completely out of your control and there is nothing you can do but overcome it. whether that be pushing through until your lease is up or you are in the position to afford breaking it. it may not seem funny now, but down the road when you are in a better situation in life you'll look back on this and think "damn i was really did that and i'm here now". sorry this is so long but i just wanted to give my 2 cents if you'll have it. don't be so hard on yourself and just take it one day at a time. and if one of those days is damn near unbearable, hold out onto the next day bc it will be so much better. i'm right behind you on this and whatever else comes your way in the future. i know you will make something good out of this shitty situation. much love 🖤
chloe 🖤
2024-08-03 01:58:05 +0000 UTCI have absolutely gone through similar things. When I was young and dealing with someone flaking and dumping everything on me I was just waiting tables. Look around for a roommate. Try Facebook and any other apps you can think of. You will get through this. If there is one thing I have learned in life it's that we are only able to grow when we are uncomfortable. Just keep working hard and don't be afraid to reach out for help.
Lauren Freeman
2024-08-03 01:38:12 +0000 UTCahh it sucks to see everything fumbled:,) i never experienced anything like this but i don’t get how they won’t let you switch and stuff…normally i would say its best to find a roommate but again i don’t want you to experience anything else that could hurt you again…i would try to survive on my own but again i never been in this situation, so i just hope and pray that it would all work out for you:///🫂
sey
2024-08-03 01:07:39 +0000 UTCLife be crazy man and them not letting you change to a 1 bd unit is crazy af petty. If you need to talk or some bro on dc I got you. Maybe one weekend I could do a Houston trip and we could hangout and watch some anime lmao but I hope your doing good dude! Stay positive and keep pushing it’ll work out
Frankie
2024-08-03 00:36:26 +0000 UTCalso dont feel bad abt venting, I personally can feel your effort and passion about content creation when you make these little updates for us:)
Soulsocietyz
2024-08-03 00:28:38 +0000 UTCOkay, I have never had this exact experience but as someone who generally plans my whole life, even years away from now, when you finally decide to do something that you have spent copius amounts of time planning, and life just doesn't go your way, it is the worst feeling in the world because it was out of your control and you have already invested so much into your plan. Also living directly in that space where said plan didn't work out can also mess with your mental and cause more stress. My personal advice would be to look for a roomate like you mentioned to help you make ends meet. From there once you feel stable enough you can begin to plan your next move, whether to stay there or find a new 1 bedroom within your budget. Sorry if this doesn't make sense LMAO but yea and hmu anytime if u need to talk:)!!
Soulsocietyz
2024-08-03 00:27:01 +0000 UTCThough I'm not going through the same exact problem. But I feel you, the contemplation of roommate or no roommate, to save money. Shit not going to way you planned it. Shit sucks. I don't live with anyone now but my lease is up soon, I'm not resigning because they suck. Money is tight. Moving, to me, is literally one of the most stressful things I've gone through
Starr
2024-08-03 00:26:16 +0000 UTCI was thinking that maybe you could try looking for a roommate too. it sucks that it’s not the ideal situation but if you can find one, I rlly rlly hope it makes things easier for you. it must be lonely living alone and far from home :( I’ve also been going through a rough time and just trying to accept things for what they are right now but it’s so difficult, especially when you know what you want and where you wanna be but the circumstances just don’t allow it. and it’s devastating and frustrating when things don’t work out the way we planned but I do also believe that the universe has a way of coming back around so let’s try to hang in there. and I appreciate these updates as always, it’s nice to hear how you’re doing whether it’s good or bad. you’re human after all, just like us, so try not to feel too bad about venting or ranting. enjoy your matcha !!
imani
2024-08-03 00:24:56 +0000 UTCBye the apartment not letting u change units is crazy work like,,, you would still be a tenant??? It's not like they were losing business?? I'm sorry you feel like you don't have anyone to vent to fr. Also if u get a stranger as a roommate i hope u stay safe bruh 😭😭
nick!!
2024-08-03 00:17:01 +0000 UTCI’m sorry you’re going through this type of situation… and I hope things can get better soon 🙏🏻🤞🏻
Karalei
2024-08-03 00:10:10 +0000 UTC
