I enjoy debunking nonsense statements that people throw around about BDSM. One of them (that people toss around far too proudly) is that kinks come from trauma and that kinksters are just traumatised individuals who need therapy. I canβt count how many times Iβve been on the receiving end of the βyou need therapyβ comment!
So letβs address this question: do all kinks come from trauma?
The answer is no.
BDSM is incredible and complex - it affects participants psychologically and physiologically. I will make another post that goes more in-depth about this when Iβm back home.
In this Tiktok video, I list three origins of kinks:
Please share some of your kinks and their origins in the comments π