My thoughts on how we can make our online communities safer.
Added 2025-08-18 21:13:04 +0000 UTCCome join the conversation, so we can become a healthier community overall.
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I love your stuff shibby!
KojiKayyy_
2025-08-19 22:13:36 +0000 UTCamazing 😈😈😈
Anna Kitty 😸
2025-08-19 01:00:32 +0000 UTCIt's always good to address abuses of power like this and hound down the blindpots that allowed for it to happen.. from an experience gained in an entirely different space than reddit/kink.. great and efficient moderation tools make for even better tools of harassment and abuse.. What sucks for me is that as a trans girlie, finding fulfillment in this space is difficult.. there's not that many of us which makes us small audience, therefore the content for us is few and far between.. your track 'Accepting the Woman You Are' is one of the very few moments i felt held and cared for, it made me glow the entire day when i first heard it, but such moments are rare. Personally, people with a stated cis preference are people who i block on sight, as it is something i am not tolerant to, partially for personal safety reasons. With all that said, the worst thing that can happen to you if you're marginalized is some evil mf trying to defend you.. so while i do happen to agree on this one thing that's dear to me, this moderator and their abuses are simply unacceptable.
Elliesium
2025-08-19 00:13:28 +0000 UTCOne way to strengthen our online communities is to borrow from what works in real-life kink events. At good play parties, there are clear do’s and don’ts… and those translate surprisingly well online: Do’s (for online spaces) • Check in → clarify intentions before DMs or roleplay. • Talk openly about boundaries and expectations → share what you’re comfortable with, what’s off-limits, and what kind of interactions you’re looking for. • Respect disengagement → if someone stops responding, says they’re not interested, or asks you to stop, that boundary is final. Don’ts (for online spaces) • Ignore boundaries. • Pressure people into play. • DM explicit or hypnotic content without clear consent. And of course, online spaces bring their own unique challenges… like anonymity, misread tone, or folks joining at very different experience levels. When those situations arise, the best practice is the same as a dungeon host would use: pause, clarify, and reset expectations before anyone gets hurt. By blending proven kink community standards with flexibility for the quirks of online life, we can build spaces that feel both safe and playful.
Alex Greco
2025-08-18 23:04:34 +0000 UTC
