LBZ Blog #2 - Polygamy and Open Relationships

Societal Issues (Controversial)

[When I refer to westerns, I am not accusing them as being the only ones to behave as described - I am merely focusing on the west primarily because that is where I am located and most familiar with.]

Why is the idea of having multiple romantic relationships looked down upon in the west? Well, putting it bluntly, it is due to how much influence Christianity has had on western culture. I prefer to avoid referencing religion at all, but historically, this information is strongly connected to the current topic, so I will briefly touch on it.

If it weren’t for the church’s influence on morality, polygamy would have likely avoided being demonized by western society, as well as homosexuality, incest, masturbation, adultery, premarital sex, prostitution, and sexuality in general. Of course, this idea of "sexual immorality" is spread much broader than the west, but listing every country influenced by the church would be redundant. In most cases, maybe even all cases, the stigma for sexuality stems from religion. That’s all I will say directly regarding religion in this blogpost - if you are interested in specifically how societal morality has been influenced, I recommend doing some historical research.

More recently, western society has learned to accept homosexuality and masturbation as natural. There may still be some who still discriminate against LGBTQ+, but the general consensus is acceptance.

Now the same question with a post-programmed breakdown: Why is the idea of having multiple romantic relationships looked down upon in the west? Why are the concepts of “cheating” and “disloyalty” even a thing? I believe modern monogamous expectations are generally rooted in insecurity.

When one is self-secure, they don’t need to impose limitations on their partner. Without insecurity, why does it matter if they spend time with, or have sex, with another person of the opposite gender?

Am I suggesting that people “cheat”? Absolutely not, however, I would strongly recommend only entering open relationships if you’re the type that wants to have fun. Don’t sign up for what’s not in your best interest. Deception is as much of an issue as insecurity, even if it was another’s insecurity that led to the choice to deceive.

In my opinion, relationships should exist to allow all people involved to become more of themselves, not to be shoved into a box created by their partner’s expectations and insecurities. Expectations only create issues.

The divorce rate in the west is nearly 50%, and many who never get divorced have the mindset that they’re stuck in a relationship they hate for the rest of their life, whether that is due to child support difficulties, money, religious expectations, or because they believe they just have no choice.

Westerns often ridicule those who practice open relationships, accusing them of being less trustworthy, less committed, unhealthy, unstable, and often still refer to them as “cheaters”. These accusations are based from a subjective monogamy-superiority perspective rather than facts.

I believe open relationships are often healthier and more likely to be stable because they are less restrictive than monogamous relationships. Those in open relationships can also be very trustworthy and committed - the anime "The 100 Girlfriends Who Really, Really, Really, Really, REALLY Love You" isn’t so farfetched when you’re operating out of love.

On the bright side, open relationship predominance is slowly growing. Maybe one day it will be acknowledged by the mainstream. I am not invalidating the idea of monogamous relationships, as they may be of many people’s preference in a healthy, constructive way - I am merely aiming to defend polygamy as a valid relationship structure.

I am not suggesting that widespread polygamy would solve the bad-relationship problem on this planet - it wouldn't. For more people to have stronger relationships, they need to let go of their insecurity and expectations, and also be themselves to reduce the probability of attracting people who are incompatible.

My Dream Relationship / Levels of Love

On a different planet, I envision everyone being, in a way, married to everyone. With an endless supply of love, there’d be no lack, and everyone can freely interact with others and be themselves to the fullest.

In my dreams, whenever I see a loli, I am immediately filled with an intense love. I want to give them everything and be with them forever. If I was on a world with lolis, I’d want to marry everyone.

Let’s say that one’s emotions are a scale of 1 to 10, ten being the most happy and excited they’ve ever been. A while back, I tried magic mushrooms therapeutically, and then the bar rose significantly. That experience taught me that when you have never experienced a state, it is impossible to comprehend it at all. You may conceptually understand that, sure, 20/10 must be twice as good as 10/10, but trust me, if you’ve never experienced it, you can’t even begin to comprehend what it truly feels like.

If you think I am overhyping my love for lolis, I’m not. I absolutely love them more than anything I’ve ever experienced, far more than I can put into words. In a world where everyone is filled with that level of love, or even greater, I can 100% guarantee there would be absolutely no chance of any sort of conflict from ever arising.