Why Successful Men Need To Learn How To Reject Women

Disclaimer: This post is not intended to bash or criticise women.

The purpose is to inform men about the importance of turning down women who are not the best match for the type of relationship he is seeking.

The goal is to help men make better decisions in their relationships by recognising the value of their own time, energy, and resources. Especially as they become more successful.

This is about fostering healthier, more balanced relationships where both partners are a good fit for each other.

Wanting something is free. 

It costs nothing to desire something. 

But it will cost you when it's time to give.

Wanting is free and giving is costly

Women are usually encouraged to want as much as possible out of a man and Men are taught that their role in a relationship is to be a provider 

Men are often punished, shamed and guilt tripped for not giving women what they want.

As a man, when you are successful, most people (especially women) will never stop wanting things from you.

The more successful you become, the more people will want things from you. People will request you for loans and all kinds of donations. 

You’re going to be the go-to person for everyone’s needs and wants. If you don’t draw a line, you’ll be stuck in a cycle of constantly giving until you have nothing left.

My father died when I was 6 years old.

From the stories my mother told me, he was an over-giver. He had a kind heart and was always there to help people, but no one ever helped him when he needed it.

He gave so much that he had nothing left to leave his own children.

I learned a lesson from his mistake.

As a man, especially in love and relationships, the more desirable and successful you are, the more people and women will want things from you.

There’s nothing wrong with this because relationships are transactional, but you must learn to decline some women.

Why?

Your 'giving and providing' energy will cost you:

• Your time

• Your energy

•  Your money

• You could also miss out on potential life opportunities because you can't say no to women. Learn to reject some, to protect yourself and your future.

This is why it is important to learn how to reject women (I will explain how to do it at the end)

If you give away your time, money, energy so freely, you will eventually find yourself left with not much, or worse, nothing.

Apart from health, time is the most important thing you have in this world. Just because someone wants your time doesn’t mean you should give it away to them.

Sometimes I will approach a girl in the gym, get her number but then I never follow up to make further plans with her.

Why?

I am not looking for a relationship, most women are, so I just don’t see myself investing all of that time and energy to:

• Going on multiple dates

• Spending all the time texting 

• Spending time on phone calls 

• Etc..

Just for me to end up telling her I don't want a relationship.

And most importantly, I don’t want to waste HER time either, especially if she will go into it thinking of a relationship even if she agreed to something casual to begin with.

It's very common for women to stay and waste their time in a relationship with the hope of something serious happening long term.

I'm just not trying to be involved in causing that level of pain or trauma to someone.

(I am boyfriend material, even if most women say they are open to something ‘casual’ they usually end up wanting something long term because I have the traits and qualities to be a great long term partner and women know this very hard to find nowadays)

This has happened to me quite a few times. So when I can tell I don’t see myself with a girl long term, I won’t even bother to date her even ‘casually’ due to not wanting to waste her time and most importantly, my time.

As men, we often just want something casual with no flings with women, but thats not how it ends, even if it starts like that.

The woman will usually develop feelings and it can make the situation TRICKY if YOU don’t want anything long term.

You do not want to awaken the love of a woman if you are not prepared to do anything with it. 

The hardest person to get rid of is someone who has developed really deep and strong emotions for you, that you are not really into like that.

You have to value and prioritise your time. 

The same way you are not outside freely giving away your money to people on the street, is the same way you cannot give your time to everyone who asks for it. 

This does not just apply to women, but it also applies to friendships where you always have pointless and waste of time hangouts.

Scarcity Is Why Men Are Afraid To Reject Women, But Why?

Most men do not have an abundance of options with women which puts them in a tough position to reject women. Even when those women are clearly not good for them.

It's similar to when you only have 1 client in business, It will be hard to say no to them even if their requests goes against what you do as a business.

Its similar to when you you don’t have much options in the job market and you are tight on money, you will find it very hard to stick up for yourself and leave the job if you are getting unfair treatment from the boss.

You will get caught between your values and something that provides for your living and it can be a very difficult place to be in.

You may need that client or the job much more than that client or job needs you which will put you in a high disempowered position.

And many men can’t imagine turning down a woman because that woman is his only ‘client’

There are even successful men who are afraid to turn a woman down because they fear her emotional response.

They are afraid that If they NO, it will make her angry or they fear that they may lose their only source of consistent 🐱 if they say no to her requests.

This can and usually does happen when you turn some women down lol.

This is because for most women, they are used to things going their way and always getting what they want so they develop an entitled attitude of always getting what they want in dating and have never been rejected or turned down by men.

(Most women have never been rejected. This so wild)

Therefore they have not developed the emotional strength and maturity that will allow her to process being told ’NO’ as information and not a personal attack.

Some Men Fear This Negative Reaction Because Of How They Were Raised

Some guys grew up with mothers and sisters who had anger problems and was emotionally manipulative.

Even if they had a father in the household, he was too afraid or unable to stand up to the emotionally and mentally manipulative mother.

And spending the first 18 - 21 years of life in this type of environment will train a man to believe that a relationship with woman is all about being her personal hard working donkey and prioritising her desires over whatever he wants or needs….. or else, she will get angry 😮!!

This is a terrible dynamic for a healthy or fulfilling relationships.

Not just for the man, but for the woman too.

Rejection Does Not Have To Be brutal And Harsh

You can turn women down politely.

Notice how sometimes when you approach a woman and they lie about having a boyfriend. 

“Omg you’re soo sweet and you seem like a really great guy but I have a b0yFrIeNd” 🥺🥺🥺

They say it in a very friendly and kind way to a point you feel really good about yourself even though you just got rejected 🤣🤣🤣

It’s all about being polite in the way you turn a woman down, which makes them feel better as a result.

Rejection is a skill.

The more successful a man becomes, the more women he will attract which means he will have to turn down more women in order to protect his time, energy and money because he cannot be giving it away to every woman soooo freely, especially if he's are not that into them.

-Till Next Time