Why A Man Should NEVER Move Into A Woman’s House

A man (not boy) needs to have his own shit or at the very least get a place together where both of your names are on the paper. (I personally would never do this)

I understand cost of living crisis is making things more and more difficult to find affordable housing, especially in major cities. However as high value man or woman, it’s your responsibility to have ownership over your financial situation so that you don’t have to move in with someone just to survive and get by. 

The answer to affordable housing is not to live with someone else (especially if you’re a man), it’s to find a way to increase your active income. 

For the women reading, a man should have his own place and you should leave your place and move in his place.

If you have your space already, you can sell your home to have money or make it a rental property.

But you and your Bf/husband should buy a new house together or Ideally, you move in with him.

Marriage or no marriage, never and i mean never let a man move in. Let the man provide that for you.

Also, if you guys to take on a lease together, it’s not like you can just kick someone out whenever you wish. You will have to wait for the lease agreement to finish before he or she moves out. If that place of stay happens to be your main residence, it can make your day to day living a complete nightmare.

The only time I’d personally consider living with a woman is if we have kids together. Even then, it’s a maybe. Mainly because living together is the beginning of the death of a relationship. At least in todays generation.

There's Nothing Wrong In Living With A Woman As A man.

However it has to be on your terms, it must be her coming into YOUR life with no bullshit or drama.

A man must always maintain his frame. It’s so common for men to become a total bitch in a relationship when they start living under a woman and overtime this causes the woman to lose attraction for him, unless its a woman who prefers to be more in her masculine.

The moment you move INTO a woman’s house, you go from being her boyfriend to her son and it’s hard for a woman to love a man she has no respect for.

In the vast majority of situations where a man is moving in with a woman, it’s because she’s:

• More established

• More responsible

• More stable

Whilst the man is still trying to find himself and figure things out and this can fuck up the dynamic because once he is in the comfort of a woman’s home, it’s really easy for him to get comfortable and start slacking off.

It’s easy for him to lose the motivation to push harder because he has a warm bed and a woman by his side who is also cooking, cleaning and giving him consistent sex. Some of these women will even give this man a child or 2.

If a woman wants to be married, allowing a man to move in with her could delay a marriage commitment because the guy is already getting all of the benefits of the marriage without that commitment.

If You Do Choose To Live Together And You Want To Be Married, There Has To Be A DEADLINE On When It’s Going To Happen

After the deadline date has passed, if there is no progression to marriage then the relationship should be over because you’ve explored and tried every option. So if it’s still not working then you shouldn’t waste your time in a relationship going nowhere. Thats if one of you wants to be married.

If marriage is a big deal and it’s something you want, don’t try to be nonchalant and act like you don’t care, you have state this and make it a big deal.

If you are both young, there’s also high likelihood that one (or both) of you lack the emotional and mental maturity to handle the challenges that could come with living together. 

If You’re A Woman Reading This, You Should Never (Seriously) Date A Man Who Has Less Than You.

As men, our mental health, confidence and self esteem is tied to our financial situation and if a man is not doing well financially, then you will most likely not get his best self in a relationship and it’s not your responsibility to DO that for him either. 

It’s one thing to be his supporter but you cannot be the one who has to get him to do more with his life.

A man must be self motivated.

For the men reading, you should not move in with a woman unless you have been in a relationship for a very long time together and you plan on having children very soon.

There must be a real reason to moving in together, don’t just move in together for ‘vibes’.

Living With Your Gf/Bf Is Not Like Living With Roommates

A relationship and roommates are two different things. All the little things you don’t like about each other is going to be amplified and you will have to handle this psychologically, emotionally and physically.

When you live with your bf/gf, you will see the REAL them. If you have siblings you will know what I mean by this. 

• You will see her with no makeup

• You will see his beard trimmings all over the sink

• You will consistently smell their morning breath

• You will see the days they skips showers

• You will see tampons in the bathroom 

• You will see hair all over the sink

• You will smell their 💩 when they’re done using the bathroom

This can be annoying, especially if you only have one bathroom.

You’re going to be see their “nasty” side when you live with them full time.

You could be possibly exposed to sides of them that could completely turn you off. 

Most people are not tidy and quite a few people are obsessive hoarders.

This can affect you greatly if you are someone who likes living in a tidy space. On the contrary, this can also be a problem if you are living with some who is extremely OCD. 

Before you fully move in, you would need to gauge the way they currently live and see if that’s compatible for how you want to be living.

However I don’t want to villainies women, there are many women who are living with men and they say it’s like raising a child. Many men are incompetent.

Meaning, these men fail to do simple things in the house like

• Putting clothes in the correct laundry basket

• Leaving mess around

• Not flushing the toilet

• Leaving dirty dishes laying around instead of simply soaking it or putting in the dishwasher

• And a lot of other annoying stuff which is basic

This is also known a s ‘weaponised incompetence’

What Would I Do?

Me personally, I would not even want to live with a woman. I love my own space so much.

If I was to live with a woman, that house or apartment would need to have 2 bathrooms first of all 😹 😂

Or I'd just get her, her own apartment which is a 15-20 minute drive or walk from where I live. It sounds crazy but I believe this amount of space and distance could actually make the relationship super healthy.

where we can spend some time at each others house a few times a week and it would not get overwhelming or grow into a "roommate" vibe because we are not always around each other. So the sexiness and romantic intensity would never die like how it does with couples who live together, usually.

https://www.patreon.com/posts/for-love-to-be-104858853

This is super extra, but its because I really value my own space and I understand nobody is perfect and she would probably do things that would really annoy me.

As a man if you do choose to move in with a woman, you still need to have somewhere you can sleep at.

When things get heated and you’re in an argument she will tell you to: “Get out of MY house" 

In my opinion, I believe woman is supposed to move into a man’s house or a house they buy together. The relationship will eventually suffer if a man moves in under her.

It’s hard for a woman to submit when she knows she has the upper hand which can lead to increased arguments because theres a constant battle for dominancy.

You cannot be the king of the castle and have the leadership position when you are living in a woman’s house and this can cause the relationship to suffer.

Women do not like it when a man is under them, they prefer men that are superior

A man is supposed to have the ability to stand on his own and support himself.

When you live with a woman, you’re in a very weak situation, you are in a powerless position. You are not an alpha male when living under a woman. 

Even if she is not toxic, she will give you occasional little reminders about who REALLY runs that house.

For those of you who live under your mother. Yes I'm sure she's super nice most times, but even she'll bitch you around and show you who's the boss sometimes.

That's what it would be like to live in a woman's house.

You can’t be the man of A house, you can only be the man of YOUR house. 

 Do not think that you can outsmart these dynamics.

There are exceptions to every rule, but for best results, assume its not you.

-Till Next Time