Lessons I’d Teach My Daughter: Men Will Lie To Not Hurt Your Feelings

Men will come up with every excuse imaginable to avoid telling you the real reason why they didn't choose you.

Many women are left puzzled about why a guy didn't make them his girlfriend or wife, and they'll believe any excuse he offers.

"He’s not ready."

"He has a lot going on."

"He just got out of a relationship."

Here's the brutal truth: the reason he didn't ask you to be his girlfriend or wife is because you're not the one he wants to be with.

This is a tough pill to swallow, but it's better to face reality than to be strung along by half-hearted excuses.

Men don't want to hurt your feelings, so they'll sugarcoat the truth with convenient lies. They think they're sparing you pain, but in reality, they're just prolonging your confusion and heartbreak.

When a man is genuinely interested, he’ll move mountains to be with you. No amount of busyness, emotional baggage, or recent breakups will stand in his way. He’ll make his intentions clear, and you won’t be left second-guessing his feelings.

Or he just won't be dating you.

But why?

A man could see you as "easy." 

Most men will never tell you that sleeping with him on the first night made him second guess your purity. Not all men think this, but some men definitely do and it kinda puts them of wanting anything serious.

He could think you don't have much going on for yourself. 

If he sees you as lacking ambition, hobbies, or interests, he might not find you attractive as a potential partner.

Maybe you have children, 

and he doesn't want that added burden. Some men aren't ready to take on the responsibilities that come with dating a single mother.

Maybe he doesn't think you're cute enough to be seen out in public with him. 

This is shallow, but some men are very concerned about how their partner looks and how that reflects on them.

Maybe he doesn't like how you look physically. 

He might prefer women who are curvier or skinnier, and you might be the opposite of his preference.

Most guys will not straight-up tell you this. They’ll come up with excuses that sound better, like "I’m not ready for a relationship" or "I have a lot going on right now."

 They do this to avoid hurting your feelings or to dodge an uncomfortable conversation. But understanding these truths can help you stop wasting time on someone who isn’t worth it and move on to find someone who truly appreciates you.

Most men are happy to enjoy a woman and get what they want out of the situation but they will think they're being kind by not being 100% truthful to you.

A man could leave a relationship, start actively dating you and then when you start to push for a relationship, he'll say "Im not ready for a relaxing at the moment, I just left one"

When really and truly, that's not the truth because what he was doing with you was a relationship without a title. Otherwise he would not be calling you all the time, texting you everyday and going on dates.

What he REALLY means is "I only wanted to have sex and pass time with you but you are not the type of woman I would ever marry or make my girlfriend"

Guys won't say this because it would break you emotionally and mentally so he would give you another reason to not hurt your feelings and something they could hide their situation with the other girl(s) he REALLY wants to be with for something serious.

Men will say what is socially accepted and what is polite to make you feel better and try to move away from you without telling you the full truth.