Lessons I'd Teach My Daughter: Never Marry Just For 'Love'

*If you are a man reading, these points can be applied to you aswell *

Make sure the person you will choose for marriage, long term relationship or making children with, ticks your boxes.

• Make sure he treats you well

• Make sure his family treats you well.

• He makes your financial status better and he is not a financial burden on you.

• He is not a burden on you (Exception if he has disabilities)

• He is someone who has the capacity to grow and evolve.

Love does not affect these things I have just mentioned.

You loving him, and him loving you, will not make his toxic family to like you.

You loving him and him loving you, will not change his broke unambitious mindset into an abundant and wealthy mindset

Love does not pay the bills

Love can't pay for your therapy if he ever ends up being toxic

Love can't teach someone who's not willing to grow, to do all of these things.

Love is an emotion that comes when you spend a lot of time with anybody.

You can pick up a dog of the street today, let it live in your house everyday and grow to love it so much in 6 months.

You must find someone who ticks your boxes or ticks all of the MAIN boxes (because no-one is absolutely perfect) and then grow to love him after the boxes are ticked.

Don't do it the other way around.

The reverse was created to brainwash women to make them gullible and make them choose partners that are below standard.

Love is useless if that man ends up being a bum and the kids need food, clothes, shelter, no education, shit house...

Love does not fix things like this.

I like to live and operate in REALITY

In reality there are many forces that affect your quality of life and your health. You don't want to add choosing the wrong partner to this equation.

All the romantic movies push the idea of a fairytale love story but if you pay attention to the elite people of society who are thriving, there is order and structure.

Notice how it's usually the people from the bad neighbourhoods who come from broken families.

People from these types of environments usually date and brings life into this world because of 'love'

It's not always their fault, some of them just was never taught any better.

But you can be the first to break those generational traumatic cycles.

You hardly ever hear about dysfunctional households / families in the upper echelon neighbourhoods. Those people operate of LOGIC first, then love later.

Everything is done with order and intention, whereas the other people are operating simply of emotions and 'vibes'

People who are thriving in life and come from great family backgrounds do not build futures with each other JUST because of love.

They do it the opposite way, like i've mentioned today.

They match with people who come from similar social economic backgrounds

They match with people who match similar education level

They match with people who have similar ambition

They match with people who are walking in the same direction as them in life

They match with people who are on a similar level financially (optional)

And then they fall in love with that person as they get to spend more time around them and know them better.

• They chose the person LOGICALLY.

• They chose the person after analysing them thoroughly

• They chose them based of compatibility, sharing similar values, and similar lifestyle aspirations.

This is why arranged marriages is a big thing in most cultures outside of the west.

Drop this 'Love' BS.

Don't make life altering decisions based on love.

Till next time.