How Women Can Spot Potential Abusers

Self esteem & Self trust are the two most important factors to preventing being stuck in relationships with abusers.

A lot of women see RED FLAGS but they don't have the self esteem or trust themselves enough to say...

"I deserve better than this, I deserve to be safe"

They don't believe they deserve to be safe so they don't leave and will try to make things work instead.

They also don't have any trust in their ability to make a big decision to where they can trust themselves in leaving a person.

This post is mainly for men, but the same concepts can apply to women too: https://www.patreon.com/posts/84500452?utm_campaign=postshare_creator

If a woman does not have self trust, she will always find herself stuck in bad relationship situations for a very long time.

A healthy self esteems helps a woman to stop tolerating certain behaviours from certain types of people and depending on here self esteem levels, she may not even be able to recognise what a red flag is.

This world will abuse you for having a low self esteem. People with low self esteem are targeted by abusers and toxic people.

They are targeted because they see red flags as a joke and take it light heartedly.

It's the small things you allow to slide, that make you a delicious meal for abusers.

You must change the mannerisms you do that give abusers the green light to play around with you.

Discovering Red Flags

Ask yourself:

"If i cared for this person and the way they feel, would i treat them the same way they are treating me right now"

If the answer is no, you should be careful because you should not be entertaining people that don't care about how they're making you feel.

You must remove anyone from your life who is disrespectful because your brain will normalise whatever you see, hear and experience on a frequent basis.

This is why people who grow up in abusive families and households don't realise when they have abusive partners. Their brain has normalised what it was experiencing everyday.

They grow up seeing abuse and associating it with love and normalised it in their brain.

• This will show you what a peaceful person is really like

• This will show you what a loving person is truly like

• This will show you what a healthy person really is

• This will show you what a person who who really cares for you is like

Abusers have a great way of discovering low self esteem people. One of the ways they do this is by testing you with disrespectful 'Jokes' when they first meet you.

It would not be a crazy level disrespect, it will always start small.

It would be small enough to make you look like you're 'overreacting' for bringing it up.

It won't be obvious and if you don't speak up, they will take it as a sign that you are someone to be played around with.

Whenever you call these people out on their BS, you will notice a flash of RAGE on their face for a split second and it will disappear, almost instantly.

Robert Greene explains it PERFECTLY in this video: https://www.tiktok.com/@robertgreene/video/7325861741064211755

When you notice people have flashes of rages, do not stick around because they're showing you they are capable of turning into a monster.

You need to watch out for micro-aggressions in people's behaviours when you mention certain things because it will tell you A LOT about who they are.

Don't laugh with abusers, if they say things that are not funny, keep a straight face.

Not giving into their 'light hearted' BS will repel them as these kinds of people are usually attracted to easy targets. It's like a predator hunting a hurt and weak prey.

Rejection breeds obsession.

When you come across these kinds of people, you need to make yourself undesirable to them

You need to make sure they think you are not their type.

Till next time.