Why You FEAR Success (Part 4)

Part 1: https://www.patreon.com/posts/why-you-fear-1-99709103

Part 2: https://www.patreon.com/posts/99785606

Part 3: https://www.patreon.com/posts/why-you-fear-3-99852173

We will all have our own definition of what success looks like with money, career, health, life and relationships.

But generally speaking, success can be defined as:

Success = Achieving significantly MORE than what you’ve done until this point today.

Success = Significantly outperforming your current self.

1. Loss Of Identity

No-one can perform for an extended period of time which is inconsistent with their self image.

Becoming successful requires you to step into a new identity and a new way of seeing yourself in the mirror - IF - you want that success to be sustained.

The way you personally feel and see yourself is the first thing that needs to be changed once you become successful and level up.

If the way YOU view yourself hasn’t changed, then you will pull yourself and sabotage the good things that are happening to you.

You will perform at the level at which you view yourself to be at.

You always get what you expect of yourself and you will always end up living out how you personally see yourself.

Success requires stepping into a new identity to match up the new outcomes that you have.

This is uncomfortable for many people. Not because they don’t want to be successful, but because they are stepping out of their comfort zone of who they’ve always known themselves to be.

Most people would rather not be successful just so they can stay in the comfort zone of being the person they’ve always been, rather than become successful, get out of that comfort zone and step into a new self image.

The change is so uncomfortable that they’d rather not deal with it. This is why most people will NEVER change.

2. Lost Connections

As your success grows and increases, you will lose touch with some people,

One of the main reasons is because natural progression of life.

Some people will chose to intentionally make themselves better whilst others choose to stay in the same place and float through life.

Most people are into entertainment and stress relieving activities. Most people are not into self improvement, growth, wealth, high levels of success and levelling up.

This can result you outgrowing people who are not a similar path and this is one of the reasons why you can lose connections as you create more success because not everyone is willing to do the things required for success, like yourself. Overtime, you and those people will naturally have less in common.

As you become more successful, some people may not be able to see life from the same perspective as yourself due to not having the experiences you have which is why they won’t understand the things you understand.

https://www.patreon.com/posts/ive-outgrown-my-98761797

3. Vulnerability

Successful makes you more ‘visible’ than you previously were. You are seen, known and heard much more.

Even people who already knew you will become more aware of your presence simply because of your success. You have a bigger presence because you’re doing more than you were doing before.

The higher up the success ladder you go, you become visible because there is less of a crowd around you.

So because of all this attention, it can make you to FEEL vulnerable simply because of how visible you are.

- Till next time