Ladies, Avoid These Type Of Men (Lessons I’d Teach My Daughter)

These are some more lessons I’d teach my daughter if I had one.

The guy's are going to hate me for this because I'm going to expose some secrets 😂 But I have women in this platform and I gotta game them up as well in order to not allow bad quality men with powerful information to not take advantage of them.

This will be a guide specifically for women ONLY on types of men to avoid, if they desire a healthy relationship.

Nowadays there are many male channels and pages which teach manipulative tactics and strategies in order to get a woman.

As a man, I understand why this things are taught, A lot of men lack traits which appeal to women and this what leads to them really struggling within the dating market place or at the very worse, their naivety leads to them being taken advantage by women who don't have the best intentions.👎

However there is men who use these strategies to take advantage of good quality innocent woman because let's face it, women can be quite gullible when it comes to idea LOVE.

These lessons today aren't just warnings; they're an armour against the emotional battles you as a woman might not even know you're fighting.

In a world where manipulation can be disguised as romance, it's vital to stay vigilant. The truth is, some men have turned the art of seduction into a game of deceit, using strategies picked up from the online male-centric channels and pages that are more about conquest than connection and healthy / long term relationships.

The things some of them teach is to exploit vulnerability and use affection as a weapon, making promises as easily as they break them.

Use this as a guide to know how to weed out these types of men.

Lesson 1 : Knowing the words, subjects, phrases that they talk about and use

"Modern women"

This term is often used to criticise women who prioritise career, education, independence, and personal choices over the traditional roles. It's becomes red flag when it is mainly used to undermine a woman's ambition and her independence.

Feminist / Feminism

Feminism was originally introduced to help women to be treated fairly within society. 

When the word ‘feminist/feminism’ is used negatively, it's a tactic to belittle the movement for women's rights, implying that seeking equality is problematic or unattractive.

Simp

This is when men shame other men who are attentive and caring to women, it's often used to shame men for respecting a woman's needs or her desires.

Submissive / Submission

In a manipulative context, it's used to suggest women should be subservient to men, undermining equality in a relationship.

It’s either his way or the highway and she has no say so, or opinion in the relationship.

The bodycount conversation

When men talk about women’s bodycount, it’s usually to make them feel shameful of their sexual history. 

There is nothing wrong with a man having a preference in a woman’s bodycount, but often when they talk about it, it’s in a shameful way.

Only men who are virgins or save themselves sexually for marriage can ask you questions about your bodycount and previous sexual relationships.

‘It’s OK for a guy to do it, but women can’t do it’

A double standard that reinforces sexist norms, suggesting men have freedoms that women should not.

Example: ‘ I can talk to as many women as I want but you can’t talk to any guy or it is over’

Or when guys love to sleep around but they complain about women and their bodycount, when they are contributing to what their complaining about. 

It's quite hypocritical too and shows an immature mentality. Sleeping around yet making high demands that his woman MUST be a virgin.

A man who sleeps around is no issue, but if you hear these types of men making claims that his wife/GF must be a virgin, then that is a red flag. Be cautious.

Gold Diggers

Usually these types of men are on the shorter end of the stick when it comes to their finances, so they accuse women of being interested in a man only for his wealth, which can be a way to discredit women's legitimate desires for security, stability or compatibility.

What do you bring to the table?

A question that implies a transactional view of relationships, often used to make women feel they must prove their worth.

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Hit the wall

This phrase implies that a woman has reached an age where she's no longer attractive or desirable. 

He talks to YOU about HIM being the prize

It's a red flag for narcissism and a lack of mutual respect in the relationship.

Knowing what these words and ideas mean helps you spot when someone is trying to trick or disrespect you. Remember, good relationships are about treating each other well, being equal, and truly caring for each other, not about controlling or putting someone down.

With social media, many guys will know and use these phrases. If he says these things to you or posts them online a lot, it's a warning sign, especially if you're thinking of him as a long-term partner.

Lesson 2: Know What They Want

Often, these guys aim to upset you emotionally to make you weak. This way, they try to get what they want from you.

How do they do this? By doing all of these things listed below

They will get you to fall in love / attached

They shower you with attention and affection at first, making you feel special and loved, to hook your emotions.

Act interested, then distant

They switch between being loving and cold. This keeps you guessing and desperate for the affectionate side to return.

Never compliment you

By withholding compliments, they make you crave their approval and feel like you're not good enough.

Break down your self esteem in order to get you to chase their validation

They criticise, belittle you, or make light hearted jokes at your insecurities which leads to damaging your self-esteem, so this gets you to work harder to please them.

Pretend to not be into you.

Acting uninterested makes you doubt yourself and try harder to get their attention back.

Mixed signals

Their inconsistent behaviour confuses you, making it hard to understand where you stand with them.

Little effort

They do the bare minimum, making you feel unvalued and prompting you to do more to make the relationship work.

Fake breakup with you to get you crawling back

They threaten or enact breakups to play on your fears of losing them, this is done to keep you on eggshells and aiming to increase your dependency on their approval and attention.

All of these games and strategies falls under emotional manipulation done to control and disempower you.

Closing thoughts

When you first meet a man, don't let your feelings take over.

Don't just listen to what he says; watch how he acts. He needs to act the same way all the time.

It's also good to disagree with him sometimes or have your own opinion to see how he reacts. If he acts very differently when you do this, it shows his true self.

his is important because how a man handles disagreement says a lot about him.

If he respects your views and can discuss them calmly, that's a good sign. But if he gets angry, ignores you, or tries to make you feel bad for having your own thoughts, these are red flags.

Also, pay attention to the little things he does. Does he keep his promises? Is he kind to people around him?

These actions tell you more about his character than his words ever could.

Remember, a healthy relationship is built on trust, respect, and understanding. If his actions don't match his words, or if he can't handle you having your own opinions, it might be time to think about whether he's the right person for you.

Let me know if you have any questions.

- Till next time