(ARTICLE) A Woman's Bodycount

When somebody asks you your body count, especially a woman, you should keep your mouth shut.

Play it off in a playful way....."Jheeze what next? My bank details? 😂''

It’s not a conversation to have, because whatever you tell her when you have a disagreement or a falling out, it’s going to get used against you. And vice versa, if she tells you all of her dirty history, there’s nothing good that’s going to come from that. 

However, If you are someone who wants something serious then you do want to kind of know her dating history, her relationship history, and how she’s interacted with the guys she was with in the past. 

Did she cheat on those boyfriends/husband? 

Also her family background, what were her parents like? 

Were her parents lying and cheating on each other? 

Because really, you’re trying to determine what the character is of the person that you’re with.

You do not want to come across as judgemental, NOBODY likes having conversations with judgemental people. Be chill and playful when you want to know about this part of a woman's life.

Women want to feel heard and understood. And at the end of the day, if you’re dating and trying to determine what a person is really like and what their character is like...

Get them to TALK, because they can tell you everything you need to know. 

Sit there and listen, no judgments.

That gives you data for your analysis, so you can determine whether or not this is somebody you want to be in a serious long term relationship or to marry.

A big thing in the red pill community, they make a big deal out of body count, as if marrying a virgin is going to assure that you’re going to spend your life with somebody who is loyal and faithful to you. 

Well, a lot of guys got married to women with low body counts or no body counts, and they still got cheated on anyway. 

So, what really matters is a person’s level of character and integrity and do their words and actions match. And if their words and their actions don’t match, then pretty much everything they say is suspect. And this is so super important if you are wanting a serious relationship.

That’s really super important. That’s something nobody I’ve not ever seen talked about in the red pill community. They don’t talk about things like this. But the reality is, when a woman has very deep feelings for you and she trusts you, she’s going to tell you about these things.

If you don’t lose your shit and turn into a lunatic, and become totally perturbed, she’ll tell you about every single guy that comes up to her, and hits on her, and tries to get her number, because she wants you to know what’s going on. And she does this because she feels safe and comfortable with you, and she wants you to know that she’s being loyal.

We don’t know what we don’t know. That’s why you date. It’s like test driving a car.

For me personally, I'm not so fussed about a woman's count. I pay more attention to the quality of men she has been with in the past. If she describes all of her previous partners as bum's and low life type of men, then I will definitely not want anything serious. 

If the majority of the guys she has been with were from quick hookups from the club, then why would I view her as anyone to be serious with? 

However if she describes the past guys she has been with and they sound like men with good qualities, then I will know this is a woman who values herself and doesn't just sleep with ANY guy, so I will respect her more and even though I'm not focused on a relationship she will come across as relationships material in MY eyes.

You’ve got to make sure that they have similar goals, similar values, and that they actually have integrity.

 In other words, if she tells you something, will she follow through on it, or will she tell you a bunch of BS and not follow through on any of it?

For me, personally, I like people to say what they mean and mean what they say. Because a lot of people in this world put on a facade and will blow a bunch of BS up your ass, and they won’t mean a single word of it, because their actions never match. 

And too many of people get caught up in all of the promises and “Oh, you’re great. You’re this, you’re that, you’re amazing,” and then, when you look at what the person does, it never matches.

Usually, the guys that get in their feelings about a woman's body count are guys with low body counts themselves and aren’t very successful with women. 

And so, it’s a way to belittle women and make themselves feel better about the fact that they can’t get laid. 

But the only thing that really matters is, what’s her integrity level? Because, like I said, lots of guys had the experience of being in a serious relationship somebody with a low body count, and they got cheated on anyway, multiple times. If you marry a liar, you’re constantly going to be lied to. That’s just who they are.

Integrity meaning: The quality of being honest and having strong moral principles.

Of course, you don't want to be in a serious long term relationship with the local town whore, But women ARE going to have sex with guys whether you like it or not, especially if you live in a western society where women are encouraged to go and be 'free' and to live their lives however they want.  

So stop being be focused on what her count is and be more concerned about her integrity and her character as a person.

The real determinant of a romantic prospect’s ability to be faithful and loyal is their values, goals and actions.

People raised in broken homes with lots of lying and cheating tend to also be liars and cheaters, versus those raised in stable homes based upon loyalty and family values. 

However, it’s a person’s character, integrity and their belief system that really matters. 

Some people from broken homes will often resolve to not be like their parents because of the pain they experienced growing up. 

Others who come from good homes and families can also adopt a bad belief system that causes them to be disloyal and untrustworthy. 

We should always give others the benefit of the doubt and judge them based upon their actions, not who they claim to be or want to be.

Till next time.