(ARTICLE) 10 things a man should avoid doing on the first date

10. Do Not Be A Creep

This goes without saying but there are too many men out there that lack social skills and may come off as creepy.

Do Not stare at her breasts

Hold eye contact but don’t constantly gaze deep into her eyes… that’s mad creepy… it’s okay to break eye contact every few moments or so.

Inappropriate touching will also get you into the (No way in hell will I see him again) category.

Do Not rub on her back or thigh without first receiving signals.

9. Do Not Lie about your accomplishments

There is no reason to lie on the first date.

Those lies will only come back to bite you later on.

If she asks about what you do in life, tell her what you are working towards.

Or if you are already doing big stuff, keep it brief.

You don’t need to bring out your tax returns and show her how much you are making.

8. Do Not choose a loud or noisy spot for the 1st date

The date is all about getting to know each other and finding out if there is any chemistry.

It’s very hard to do this in a very loud environment.

7. Do Not wait to tell her about your stance on paying for the date

If you ask a woman out. You pay

The worst thing is when a man tells a woman that he isn’t paying for her as the staff is bringing out the cheque.

Let the woman decide if that’s something she is comfortable with.

Or find a date that is free like going to a museum or some kind of art gallery.

If you believe in going halfs on your date, that’s fine. However, make sure you tell her this before asking her out.

6. Do Not Go on and on about your ex

Don’t even bring up your past relationships without being prompted.

It’s okay to briefly mention your ex as it relates to your current status. If she asks specific questions about your ex, answer them honestly but avoid speaking negatively about them if possible.

You don’t want to come across as bitter or angry. Instead, talk about the growth and learning experiences that have been gained from your last relationship.

“That bitch was fucking toxic, I couldn’t stand her man ! “ ❌

“Me and her seperated because we outgrew each other and came to a decision it’s best to wish each other well and go on our seperate ways” ✅

5. Be a good conversationalist

This is something that everyone should practice in conversations.

You should actively listen to what the other is saying and then give your perspective or branch of the speaking point she was talking on.

The conversational threads will weave together in harmony when this is being used by both parties.

Talk about fun light hearted subjects.

Avoid serious conversations like religion, politics and stuff like that.

It’s a date, not a debate.

4. Do Not forget to be a man

Take the lead on your date. There are many ways a man can show his masculine qualities and leading the date is one of the best.

Choose the venue where you will meet, pick the table to sit at a restaurant, and lead the conversations you have.

She will be receptive as long as you decide decisively and with confidence.

Also, there’s nothing wrong in opening doors for a woman

There’s nothing wrong in being polite to a woman.

All those red pill channels most of you guys watch, project toxic advice due to their past experiences with bad women.

If you wana open doors, do it

If you don’t wana open doors, then dont.

An Alpha male is a man who unapologetically does whatever the fuck he wants.

3. Do Not ignore hints

A woman will not outright say to you:

“Hey I’m ready for sex now”

“Hey I’m ready for you to kiss me now”

Taking risks is an important part of life and is a great way to have success.

However, this doesn’t apply to dating.

A woman will give you plenty of hints and your actions should be based on these signals.

Do Not go in for a kiss when your date has barely spoken to you the entire night.

Do kiss her after a successful date in which other forms of physical contact have been received pleasantly by her.

If you are unsure of the signs, tread lightly. Taking things slowly will be better in the long run than moving too quickly.

There are videos and articles I’ve previously created on here that dive deeper into breaking down the signs in depth. If you scroll down on the patreon, you’ll see them.

2. Do Not lack proper hygiene

Hygiene is a big thing for many women.

- keep your breath fresh

- keep your nails trimmed

- keep your lips moisturised

Make sure you have showered, brushed your teeth, and have on clean clothes for your date.

Whatever your hairstyle is, make sure it is neat and groomed. This goes for your facial hair as well.

Oh yeah, please don’t go on a date without putting on deodorant.

A nervous man will sweat profusely on a first date and a good deodorant can be your saving grace.

1. Do Not be late

A lot of those red pill ‘game’ channels will tell you to show up 5 -10 mins after she arrives from the agreed time you have set.

But this actually works against you.

Why?

A) It shows you are not a man of your word, which can make it harder for her to trust you thus raising her guard up.

B) Women are followers, so if they see YOU not taking your own time seriously, then why should they? This is what will lead to her not taking your time seriously and start showing up 5-10 mins late on future dates.

This rule is excellent for business interactions but also can be true for dating.

Being early or on time is showing respect to your date.

It shows that you value and respect her time.

If for any reason you will be late, call her and let her know what time you will be arriving.

She will probably be nervous, and you don’t want her to think she is being stood up.

Till next time.