(ARTICLE) Understanding Women and Emotions (PART 5/6)

This article was mainly written for women. However men are welcome to read if they wish.

Let's assume Decision making is a car and there are two people inside the car.

Emotion and logic.

In the case of men, Logic sits in the driving seat and takes the major decisions accordingly.
In the case of women, logic sits in the driving seat but it does not solely take any decision, most of the time the decision is manipulated by emotions.

So, does it mean for men emotions don't exist ? or for women logic doesn't exist ? 

NO. This is not true.

Men do have emotions, after-all they are human beings. but they are less affected by any emotion as compared to women.

That is due to biological differences and rewiring of the brain via family or society.

On the other hand, women are highly emotional and due to their biology they are less rigid on
anything. It is easy for men to control , escape or hide an emotion due to their rigidness.
but women are flexible in nature that is why they easily get affected by emotions.

Rigidness for men and flexibility for women are important for the enhancing of their
natural self that is masculine and feminine, respectively.

For a woman to live in flow she must learn to play with emotions and for a man to
conquer the world he must learn to play with logic.

Emotions are a part of life for both men and women, the difference is in the expression of
emotions. 

Women are good at expressing what's going on inside them whether men lack this thing. They are straightforward and are less sensitive to emotions.

For a better relationship with each-other, men and women have to come to a common ground that can only be possible when both of them will compromise and understand each other’s state.

Women and emotion

For many years the understanding of women has been problematic . It is generally believed that women are driven by their emotions rather than rational thoughts. 

People believe that they are more emotional than logic and often act irrationally. This is
why women are called drama queens.

Some women are emotionally unstable.

However, emotions keep a woman alive. 

Can you imagine a woman without emotions and how dull, unhappy and unattractive she will appear.

So, a woman should understand that emotions are her strength NOT weakness. it is just
that they have to learn how to play with them and stabilise themselves.

Extreme highs and lows

A roller coaster ride, is what the high and lows of emotions feels like.

The very first thing I would like to say here is - IT IS NORMAL. Most women make it a seem that this is a problem .... it is normal. 

Biological factors along with our daily routine , thought process and surroundings , these are things which predominantly affect our high and lows of emotions.

Yes, it is true that these highs and lows create distress and confusion in our life. 

Accept it.

- Express the emotion - either it is happiness or
sadness , don’t control it. Controlling emotions
never helps.

Note - Express it to only your closed ones or with
yourself only. expressing your high and lows to any
random person can affect your social image + your
personal life will not be personal.

You don't need to go on 100 page snapchat rant about you feeling sad.

- Avoid taking any major decisions at these high
and lows. (long term decision must be taken when
you are not in extreme of emotions )

Should women involve emotions while making a
decision?

The answer is - YES. But everyone has told them that emotions only lead them to the wrong choices. `That is a half truth.

Emotions are a special part of a woman’s life and if she won’t consider that part in her decisions how would those results be satisfying for her?

Here are 2 key points which a woman has to keep in mind while making a decision.

1. Your decision doesn’t solely depend on emotions or logic. it should be a productive combination of both.

2. Your decision should be the best solution in that situation.

What is the best solution - a solution with lesser consequences and more favours.

Write the problem, write down what your emotions want and what your logical mind says.

calculate the consequences of both - you will get the
answer.

In some cases, this can not be possible - your calculations may say to go right but you are highly in your emotions and you want to go left. 

at that moment, tune in to your inner power -Intuition.

(Intution is an inner confident voice which most of the time do not have a rational reason.)

 How to be emotionally stable?

- Have a healthy routine that keeps you fresh and focused.

- Be aware of what you are consuming (in food + from surrounding + by social media)
 

- Keep an eye on your boundaries. The condition of your boundaries directly impacts
your emotional state.

- Avoid Overthinking. Thoughts directly stimulate our emotions and overthinking mostly comes up with negative thoughts that leads outburst of negative emotions.

Balancing Emotions

Emotions are important to everybody’s life. 

Your feelings, needs, reactions, etc. are your personal responsibility, and no other people will make you happy, sad or in any other way. 

Instead of paying attention to the behaviour of another person or the situation it is better to focus on your feelings at that moment and start the process of being healed from that emotion.

Start to understand your emotions.

 How do you feel at the moment when you consider your next step in a relationship?

Most women cannot describe them immediately because they have no connection with their emotions.

Since emotions contain a lot of wisdom, the more a woman connects with them, the more she
connect with the underlying wisdom that guides her decision-making. 

When you are unhappy in a relationship, think about why you are feeling like this, which needs
are met, and which are not met. 

Instead of demanding the other person, you can tell or convince them politely.

Relate to the events of the day. Come back for a bit, how did you feel at that moment?

Connect with past events that mistakenly left traces that could be happy emotions or terrible
emotions.
Also learn from that situation.

NOTE - Don't rely on others, and don't give power to others to make you feel a certain way. Take back your power and take care of your emotional health.

Till next time.