(ARTICLE) Masculine Man Commandments (PART 1): Holding Frame

Holding Frame is not about being an asshole. 

It’s not about “oppressing” her or forcing her to bid your will. 

It’s about recognising her tests and responding accordingly.

Know that women, especially hot women with many orbiters, will oftentimes relentlessly test your Frame to see if you’re legitimate.

There is no formula, no “Five tests and you’re done”. No. 

Holding Frame is a permanent and all-encompassing act. You have to understand that it’s a biological need that makes her test you. 

When thinking about these questions and their answers, I like to imagine life as it was back in the stone age:

If you were faking your confidence, or your skills and abilities, she would literally be risking her life if she failed her filtering process and chose you as her mate. 

That’s why the testing never stops. Many men think that once they’re in a relationship, they are “safe”. 

Wrong. You are never safe from basic evolutionary instincts. 

Even in a relationship, your woman will constantly test your Frame to see if you still have it.

And if you fail too much, she will feel unsafe around you, loose attraction which would cause her to eventually leave. 

FRAME: What you SHOULD always do

Your Frame comes from a mental position of power. 

You are the prize. You have an abundance of choices. The girl you’re dealing with is a cute little baby that doesn’t need nor want to be taken seriously.

Deflect

Deflecting is simple. You flip whatever allegation she makes back on her. You deflect her shit test onto her.

Scenario 

Her: “You’re an asshole, you know that?”

You: “Why, is that what you like?”

Her: “No, I just always attract them.”

In this situation, a guy with weak Frame would probably intercept and qualify to her, by saying something along the lines of:

“No haha, I’m not an asshole, I’m actually a really nice guy!!”

He would, of course, completely fail the shit test

Amusedly agree and amplify

A girl throws you some shit to test your reaction and your Frame. 

She wants to see if you will be hurt by it. 

A typical shit test.

You’ve been talking to a girl at a club and are close to your goal. Before she kisses you, she throws you one last shit test:

Her: “You’re so short, I bet you can’t even kiss me without getting on tippy toes.”

You: “Yeah, I always put on stilts when I kiss girls. Here, let me prove it to you."

If you had weak Frame, you would have gotten emotional at this apparent insult and maybe even insulted her back. 

That’s what low-value men do.

By agreeing with her statement and amplifying it to absurdity, you communicate that what she said doesn’t faze you. 

Remember, she doesn’t want to be taken seriously. She wants to submit.

If you had reacted emotionally, you’d have shown her that you’re not as tough as you thought you were and her pussy would dry up.

Amplifying her statement to absurdity turns her shit test into a fun, playful interaction.

Repeat

Do not waver when repeatedly pressed on something.

Her: “What bar are we going to?”

You: “You’ll know when we’re there.”

Her: “But what if I don’t like it?”

You: “We’ll see and find out.”

Her: “Okay.”

By repeating a statement without feeling the need to explain yourself, you establish that the woman you’re talking to should respect you. 

You give the commands, she follows.

She learns to trust your judgement and respect your decisions without nagging or second-guessing you

FRAME: What should NEVER do

Argue

Arguing is an inherently emotional act. Men aren’t emotional, we are rational beings.

Never argue with a woman. 

You cannot win arguments with women. 

Typically, you just end up losing Frame and she loses her respect for you. If she did something wrong, calmly tell her and if she persists, let her feel the consequences through your actions.

Withdraw your attention. It’s the best weapon you have. If she follows what you said, good. If she doesn’t, good. You know that you don’t need to waste your time with her anymore.

Never entertain her drama. You are a calm man who’s in control of the relationship and his emotions. 

Never argue.

Explain

By explaining your decision(s) or choices, you put yourself into a position where you have to answer to your woman. This feeling you evoke in her will grow and grow. 

That’s how nagging wives are created.

She is like a bubbly, cute child. You wouldn’t explain yourself to your five-year-old nephew, so you shouldn’t explain yourself to your woman either. The only exception is if what she’s asking you about is based in actual curiosity, not a covert accusation. 

Make excuses

By making excuses and not owning up to the fact that you messed up, you show that you cannot handle the pressure of being responsible for something bad.

How is she going to trust your leadership if you can’t even be truthful to yourself when you mess up?

By making excuses, you present yourself like a son would to his mother. 

She’s not your mother, she is a submissive, bubbly girl who just wants to have fun. Treat her as such.

Never get emotional with women

Love, romance and laughter are okay. 

Crying, bickering or arguing are No-Goes

Till next time.