(ARTICLE) 8 TRAITS THAT MAKE A WOMAN “HIGH VALUE”

In today’s article, I am going to dissect the high value woman myth for you and give you the top 8 high value woman traits so that you can start your journey of becoming a high value woman.

So what is the meaning of a high value woman?

Let’s get this straight, people are not born high or low value…being a High value person is usually characteristics and traits you develop which shape you into a high value person.

What are the top traits of a high value woman?

1. A strong self-esteem from the inside

A high value woman knows her worth, plain and simple.

Not a delusional sense of self worth but she radiates confidence and self-esteem and people get drawn to her by an invisible force that comes from the inside.

She does not derive her sense of self from external things like her social media or her relationship status nor her success, but rather from how she feels about herself inside and the value she bring to herself and the people around her.

For example, she can lose her job in a top tier company but still be a good friend, a good daughter and feel great about herself…the job is an external thing that she never relied on to define who she is as a person.

She welcomes criticism as it does not hurt her feelings but rather gives her an opportunity to grow and improve.

So my number one advice for you ladies to begin your transformation into a high value woman is to work on your self-esteem from the inside.

• Know your worth: The first thing to start from is be clear on your worth, most of people do not give themselves enough credit for who they are and what they have accomplished.

When you do not know your worth, you are always selling yourself at a discount, and guess what? It only attracts discount hunters, so know your worth and attract the person you deserve.

• Ignore people who undermine you, have the courage to get rid of them, because you really do not need them in your life. You need to realise that they are a real obstacle on your quest for a better self-esteem…so get rid of them (toxics friends and exes)

• Celebrate even the small wins. Learn how to praise yourself every time you accomplish something. Trust me every accomplishment is worth celebrating and you should never underestimate its value.

• Take care of yourself…you deserve it just for the person you are. Take care of your health, your well being and your appearance.

• Stop the negative self-talk and self criticism, One of the worst habits that seriously damages your self-esteem is negative self-talk.

You can assess your actions and your results but you should separate your identity as a person from the things you did wrong. These things do not define who you are, because you can always work on them and change for the better.

Practice positive affirmations whenever you say to yourself that you are not worthy or not enough.

• Practice gratitude every day, remind yourself how lucky you are to be alive and of all the good things in your life and the great people you have around you.

2. Self Love

You can only be a high value woman if you overflow yourself with love.

So many women have no idea that they suffer from a love deficiency…not realising that it is the source of a lot of their trouble.

They are constantly looking for love on other people’s eyes when the answer lies within themselves.

Loving one-self in a healthy way is not selfish but is absolutely necessary.

So how do you love yourself?

• Put yourself first at all times and treat yourself with care and kindness. There is nothing wrong with that. So how do you do that?

By listening to your internal voice and what you really want. Most of people who don’t love themselves dismiss the internal voice and are only left with other people voices to guide them. Naturally, they end up putting themselves last because most of other people work on their best interest, not yours.

• Make your health and well being a priority and look after your body and appearance, because if you feel good about yourself, people will feel good around you.

eat healthy, exercise, study your body shape and choose the outfits that show you at your best, take care of your skin and your hair.

• Accept yourself unconditionally with your successes and your failures and practice forgiving yourself for past mistakes.

People will treat you the way you treat yourself, so if you treat yourself well, people have no other choice but to do the same, because they will be out of your life otherwise.

3. She has a life

A high value woman is not waiting for a man to have a life….In fact she is not waiting for him for anything really.

She has her own ambitions and dreams and is working towards them.

She is always busy planning things to do, or spending time with friends and family, or just time on her own taking care of herself.

Do not fake it as it is not a long term solution…do the inner work…know yourself and what passionates you and go create a life for yourself.

4. She has standards and does not settle for less than what she deserves

A high value woman has REALISTIC standards and she sticks to them.

Having standards and going by them is essential for your self-esteem because you are really putting yourself first when you set standards.

It is in human nature to take advantage of people who can accept anything.

The reason so many women either do not have standards or drop them very quickly as soon as they find someone is simply because they do not love themselves enough.

They are so in need of the man’s love that they are willing to accept anything in order to get it.

So the key to stick to your standards and find someone who truly meets them is to love yourself first.

In practice, you should set your standards before entering any relationship and let them be known early.

You should also have clear boundaries that you are ready to enforce or leave if these boundaries are not respected.

Be ready to walk away if standards are not met (I mean really ready to walk away, not just warning to walk away but staying there….you will just lose all credibility).

You should really only let in your life people who respect you and your standards.

And do not make the mistake of trying to change people to meet your standards.

You will only get frustration and bitterness out of it because no one changes unless they really want to, you will save yourself a lot of time and energy.

5. She does not look for a guy to complete Her

A high value woman does not need a man to complete her whether she is in a relationship or single.

She is complete by herself and is looking for a partner to complement her.

That is why she is not in a rush or desperately looking for someone, because she does not fear to be alone.

She enjoys being single as she finds it ideal to connect with herself, reflect on her mistakes and experience new things…. And she becomes even more attractive to men in the process.

Now, when a high value woman gets in a relationship with a man who complements her.

She makes him feel needed ( that is not to say she needs him and she would not survive without him, but she knows that one way to express her love to him is to make him feel needed and useful).

6. Femininity

To be a high value woman, you need to be feminine when you are with your man.

and note I am saying “When you are with your man”.

That is because most women, especially western women have some feminine and masculine, so you do not need to suppress all your masculine side in order to be a high value woman.

In fact you need your masculine energy in order to survive in a increasingly competitive world, but in your relationship, you need to learn how to switch to your feminine side.

In a relationship, a masculine man is looking for his opposite which is a feminine woman.

A man wants a soft, caring and nurturing woman. He is also looking for the woman he can protect and take care of because it makes him feel like a man.

When you surrender to your feminine side, you become naturally irresistible to men, and that’s a key characteristic of a high value woman.

7. She does not chase a man

A key trait of high value woman is that she never chases a man if he walks away from her, and this rule does not only apply to men, but to anyone in her life.

8. She is a decent human being who cares for others

A high value woman is a high value human being in general.

She is a decent person who cares for other and treats them like she treats herself.

She is kind and generous with her time and energy.

She shows empathy towards people around her, and offers her help when she can.

Naturally she will care for her man, and will expect the same from him.

So learn how to be more empathetic towards others. There is nothing uglier than a selfish self-centered woman.

A final note

If you want to be high value women, you will need to start from your self-esteem and love for yourself.

It’s only after you get this right that you will be able to develop the other traits of the high value woman.

Besides having a rock solid self-esteem, a high value woman has a life she is madly in love with.

That is how she does not settle for less than what she deserve, because she already has an awesome life. She does not look for a man to complete her

That does not mean she is a powerful masculine woman, quiet the contrary, she is a powerful feminine woman.

Till next time :)