Casual Sex the Neanderthal Way
Added 2023-08-14 07:55:49 +0000 UTCWe're all lucky enough to be part of a sex-positive community, which means we get to participate in enough shades of sex to create our own kinky rainbow. Want to be poly? Excellent. Want casual hook ups? Awesomesauce. Want a serious, monogamous relationship? Fantastic.
Shit. I forgot about that consent deal. What a pain in the ass that is. Let me try those lines again. Want casual sex with a consenting partner? Fine. Want to be poly with a bunch of people who know about one another? Fucking A.
Want to orchestrate a casual hook-up by lying to your partner about the kind of relationship you’re seeking? Then you’re an asshole. There are seventy twelve people in the kink community who are into one night stands, so there's no excuse for tricking someone into having sex with you by claiming you want a relationship. Informed consent isn’t a TV series directed by David Cronenberg. It’s the very foundation of the kink scene.
In order to give our partners the power to consent to something, we have to inform them of what they’re consenting to. Since some people can rationalise themselves out of a straightjacket, I'll spell it out. If you have no intention of talking to her again afterwards, you’re supposed to tell her that before you have sex. It's not rocket science.
The world won't turn into a dystopian apocalypse if you tell the guy with the sexy eyes that you have no intention of seeing him on Monday. Ghosting him after you’ve had your way demonstrates the maturity of a 12-year-old Neanderthal. Humans have evolved past hominid status. Please feel free to join us in the 21st century at any stage.
