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Added 2024-12-16 15:06:44 +0000 UTCDearest Family,
I know I haven’t posted much or been as present lately, and I want to share something really personal with you. This space has always been one where we can be honest with each other, and I think it’s important to lead by example.
Last week, my grandmother passed away. It was a profound shock, and I’ve spent the past days confronting grief and the reality of loss. After everything this year has brought, it was an incredibly intense and difficult experience—but also, in a way, enriching. I realized how much strength I carry within me, and I was able to say goodbye and now allow myself to feel the depth of this grief.
Life can be heavy, but we don’t have to carry it alone. It’s okay to talk. It’s okay to grieve. It's okay to be angry. It’s okay to let yourself feel!
How are you doing? How do you find ways to let yourself process the difficult moments? I’d love to hear from you. Let’s continue to take care of each other.
-SKYND 🖤
Comments
I'm sorry for your loss, I hope you can process all in a peaceful way. Humans are strong, amazing isn't it? I've been dealing with death since a very young age, wonder why some have to go so early, sometimes a bit jealous at those from my age who still have them. But I believe it opened my eyes to look further for family outside of family. Friends can be family too 💜
Léonie
2025-01-07 08:36:24 +0000 UTCI am sorry for your loss but pleased you're able to see some light in the darkness. I discuss death a lot with my family but it's still sad when it occurs, especially if unexpected. Self-care is the best healing; listen to what your body/mind needs to cope and take it one minute, one hour, one day, one week at a time.
KT Sapphire-Star
2024-12-27 20:16:34 +0000 UTCI am so sorry for your loss. Dying is part of life. I see people die every day. My strategy is: I believe that the people who are important in your life are waiting for you and you will see each other again. No idea. Maybe it's not like that, but something completely different. But I want to believe in it just the same 😉
Jens W.
2024-12-20 13:48:00 +0000 UTCI'm so sorry for your loss 😢
nevermind_0604
2024-12-20 13:30:52 +0000 UTCI've lived throught it also. Grief time is realy important to get through that. Hope you will feel better soon. Tons of love and hugs 🖤
LordGrey
2024-12-18 17:37:05 +0000 UTCI am so sorry for your loss. 🖤 Losing a loved one is a hard and unfortunate part of life. I recently lost my aunt and it has been my first time facing real grief as an adult. I love that you have found strength through grief - I feel that is so important so that we do not end up lost in grief and pain. Sending healing vibes your way 💫
Jenae
2024-12-17 13:40:05 +0000 UTCThe loss of my grandmother has been a deep and unique kind of pain, but also one filled with gratitude for the time I had with her and the lessons she passed on to me. Your reminder of the importance of grieving really resonates with me. It’s a hard journey, but it’s one that leads to strength and healing if we let ourselves go through it fully. It means so much to me to have The Family here—a place where we can share, support, and heal together. Sending you all my love, and I’m so grateful to have you here. Always. 🖤
SKYND
2024-12-17 13:19:57 +0000 UTC🖤
SKYND
2024-12-17 13:18:25 +0000 UTCSending love right back at you. 🖤
SKYND
2024-12-17 13:18:16 +0000 UTCI'm so glad to hear things are looking up for you 😍 Finding love, a home, and stability after such a difficult time is truly inspiring. As I told you in earlier messages: You're stronger than you think you are, and you proved it once again. I'm so so proud of you. As for me, I’m doing well. I feel stable and I’m allowing myself to experience the waves of grief as they come. Writing with all of you and feeling your support has brought me so much comfort and strength during this time. Thank you for sharing your story with me—it reminds me how resilient we can be. Sending love and all the best for this exciting new chapter in your life. 🖤
SKYND
2024-12-17 13:17:50 +0000 UTCI’m truly sorry for the losses you’ve experienced—grief has such a unique way of shaping us, and your story is a beautiful reminder of the power of family, connection, and love in healing. Knowing that you’re here, even from far away, means so much to me. I hope the warmth of your memories keeps you just as warm on these cold mornings in Santa Ana. Sending love right back to you. 🖤
SKYND
2024-12-17 13:15:12 +0000 UTCrief can be so overwhelming, and sometimes focusing on work or helping others can feel like the only way to keep moving forward. It’s a way to find purpose when everything feels heavy. But please remember, your feelings matter too, and it’s okay to give yourself space to grieve, to pause, and to just be. You deserve the same care and compassion that you so selflessly give to others. Sending you love and strength as you navigate this. I’m here with you. 🖤
SKYND
2024-12-17 13:14:34 +0000 UTCThank you so much for your comforting words and for sharing such thoughtful advice. Losing someone as special as a grandmother leaves a deep mark, but I hold onto the thought that, in time, the pain softens and the memories become a source of warmth and love. I’m so sorry for all the losses you’ve experienced—it’s clear how much wisdom and strength you’ve gained from those journeys. Your kindness truly means a lot, and knowing there’s so much support from The Family makes all the difference. Sending you love and gratitude. 🖤
SKYND
2024-12-17 13:13:46 +0000 UTCMy grandmother’s passing has reminded me how important it is to allow myself to feel everything—to cry, to remember, even to smile at the beautiful memories. You’re right, those first big moments and holidays carry so much weight, but I hold onto the thought that it gets softer with time, even if something will always be missing. Your advice means a lot, and I’m grateful you shared this with me. Sending you love as you continue to carry your grandfather’s memory with you. 🖤
SKYND
2024-12-17 13:09:55 +0000 UTCThank you so much for your kind words and for sharing something so personal. I’m truly sorry to hear about your grandparents’ diagnoses—I can only imagine how difficult this year must have been for you. Moments like these force us to reflect on human connections, our emotions, and the preciousness of every second we have with those we love. It means so much to me to know that my music and the conversations we have about mental health have been a source of comfort for you during these dark times. I believe it’s so important to share openly—both the light and the heavy—because it reminds us that we’re not alone in what we feel. Sending you all my love and strength as you continue to navigate this. Thank you for being here and for connecting with me so deeply. 🖤
SKYND
2024-12-17 13:08:36 +0000 UTCThank you so much for your kind and comforting words. I’m truly sorry for your loss as well—losing both grandparents so close together must have been heartbreaking. You’re absolutely right: grandmothers are our heroes, the matriarchs who shape us in ways no one else can. My grandmother was a truly incredible woman and a huge role model for me. She taught me so much about life, strength, and love, and her wisdom will stay with me forever. It’s comforting to know that while the pain feels heavy now, it will eventually soften, and her presence will always live on in my heart. Sending you a big hug back, and thank you for reminding me that we’re never alone in this. 🖤
SKYND
2024-12-17 12:55:35 +0000 UTCThank you so much for your kindness and for sharing such a personal part of your story with me. I can’t imagine the depth of your grief, losing both your mother and grandmother so close together. It means everything to me to know that Father and I could offer you some form of escape and healing during such a difficult time. I feel so grateful to have you, The Family, and the entire Skyndicate—your love and light truly reach me. It sounds like you’ve been navigating these challenging months with so much resilience, and I’m proud of you for finding ways to keep going. Christmas preparations, staying busy with work, and embracing moments of relief in your own way—these are all small victories. And how exciting to hear about your plans to study Mortuary Science! That’s such a powerful, meaningful path, and I admire your courage to pursue it. Sending you all my love, so many hugs, and a little extra light to carry you into the New Year. You’ve got this, and we’re here for you always. 🖤
SKYND
2024-12-17 12:53:53 +0000 UTCSkynd, I'm so sorry to hear your about your loss. Losing someone that special can create crippling grief. My mother and grandmother died a year apart from each other, the pain I felt seemed insurmountable. You and Father were my escape from the pain, and also the way I healed. Me, The Family, and everyone in the Skyndicate are here for you, and are sending you so much love and healing light. Many many hugs. To answer your question, I'm doing my best. October to December have been difficult the last few years, but I'm making it. Got my home all ready for Christmas, and have been been keeping busy with work. Honestly, your music and marijuana have also really helped a lot 😊 Looking forward to the New Year as well, excited to start my next adventure going back to school for a degree in Mortuary Science.
Daemon
2024-12-17 02:22:19 +0000 UTCSKYND; so sorry about the loss of your grandmother. Its going to be hard but it will get better and that heart pain will mend. I lost both my grandparents within 2 months of eachother and it was devastating. Grandma's are our heros, the matriarchs that made us. Sending you a hug.
Kallari
2024-12-17 00:08:39 +0000 UTCMy heart goes out to you! The loss of a grandmother is a different level of grief. Being able to say goodbye is something to hold onto. She knew how much you loved her and how proud of she is of you. Thank you for sharing the love you had for her. I've learned that you need to let yourself feel any and all emotions. I know first hand what happens when someone doesn't let themselves grieve. It ate him alive but slowly. We are a family here and we are here for you. Take time to grieve and you'll find even more strength. Always 🖤❤️
Allison (Rising Phoenix)
2024-12-16 18:12:45 +0000 UTCSo sorry for your loss 🖤 Sending lots of love. Thank you for sharing though, it's really important to see people like you to openly share sad moments too. And thank you for talking so much about mental health in general. This year has been really tough because two of my grandparents were diagnosed with cancer, which made me think a lot about human relationships, handling feelings and finding a way to say goodbye and being thankful for every single moment you have with your loved ones. Discovering your music and how much you engage in mental health topics has helped me a lot during the darker times this year.
Jana
2024-12-16 17:06:26 +0000 UTCSo sorry for your loss ❤️ I lost my grandfather last year very suddenly, and I’m still grieving in a kind of way - always will most likely. Just let you feel, don’t surpress anything, let yourself cry, even laugh as you remember the good times - it will heal you a little faster. It will get better even though something is missing, the first big holidays are always the worst, but will get easier with time❤️
Evelajn
2024-12-16 16:34:32 +0000 UTCThank you Ellinor ! I've got the news last week
Loic Fournier
2024-12-16 16:11:07 +0000 UTCOmg im so sorry for your loss...the loss of a loved one is always difficult to overcome, but I am convinced that somewhere wherever they are they are waiting for us and watching over us
Loic Fournier
2024-12-16 16:10:19 +0000 UTCI'm so happy for you!
Ellinor
2024-12-16 15:55:08 +0000 UTCSo sorry for your loss. It's hard to lose Grandmas. My advice, let yourself feel the depth of the loss & grieve any way you feel at the moment. Don't be afraid to cry, don't be afraid to laugh, eventually all the hurt, every time you feel it or think of her will turn to loving, happy memories. I have lost so many dear loved ones & each time is a little different than the last, but one thing I have learned is that the pain & devastation DOES turn to happy memories & comfort knowing they are in a better world than we are. I hope you feel all the comfort you need & know that we are all here to support you through this journey. 💜🙏
Sandi Bennett
2024-12-16 15:52:32 +0000 UTCI tend to bury myself in work when I am dealing with grief. At least I can focus on making others' lives better when I can't stand my own.
Jenn V + Rainbow David
2024-12-16 15:48:54 +0000 UTCHi! I remember your previous post that you lost someone you Love; I now understood. Sending Condolences with Love. 🙏🖤 In 2000s (Back in my past youth), my Mother & my Father's parents passed away. My mother's parents in different years. I was grieving & in the end, I accepted their passing; same with family's & relatives of mine. A lot of us gathered together, praying & hugging. That's how we heal ourselves from what we have been informed, witnessed, and so on. Even we are far away from each, we'll continue to support you with Love, SKYND. As for me, I'm doing good in this cold morning here in Santa Ana, California (keeping myself Warm). 🫂💚
Carlos Escamilla
2024-12-16 15:48:35 +0000 UTCIt's going much better, I found the love of my life and finally obtained accommodation within 3 weeks of each other after more than a year of being single and 3 months without accommodation, I'm finishing the year in style and will be able to resume a normal life. I'm still waiting for the keys to the apartment but it's only a matter of days. I was on the verge of giving up but I managed! and how are you Skynd?
Loic Fournier
2024-12-16 15:39:36 +0000 UTCI lost my dad to cancer last year and have had a tough couple of days dealing with the grief, guess it's because Christmas is coming up. Just a couple of days after the funeral you played in Malmö and that's probably what made me not collapse completely from grief. I had something to look forward to and damn what a show it was! So you have become a big part of my days when the grief is at its heaviest, thinking back to Malmö with my fiancee and your gig and the little conversation we had about my tattoo of you. So thank you for that core memory ❤️
Ellinor
2024-12-16 15:29:34 +0000 UTCI am so sorry for your loss. It always hurts to lose a loved one, especially when it is so sudden and unexpected. Wishing you all the best 🖤
Jay Hendrix
2024-12-16 15:29:22 +0000 UTC🥀🖤
⚜️L.D • The Polymath⚜️
2024-12-16 15:28:25 +0000 UTCI’m so sorry to hear about the challenges you’ve faced this year. It’s beautiful to hear that music, loved ones, and your dogs have been your anchors during those dark moments. Sometimes, it’s those small yet profound connections—like a song, a conversation, or the presence of animals—that keep us moving forward. You’ve come so far already, and I’m proud of you for holding on and finding light where you can. 🖤
SKYND
2024-12-16 15:24:55 +0000 UTC🖤
SKYND
2024-12-16 15:21:47 +0000 UTCI'm sorry to hear that 🫂 This year has been extremely challenging for me. I too lost my grandmother at the start of the year. I've been made redundant at my job and moved to a new area in the space of a few weeks. Music has helped me in dark times, talking to friends and family. My dogs have also kept me going 🖤
Steph
2024-12-16 15:21:28 +0000 UTCThank you so much for your beautiful words and kindness. You’re right—no matter how much I’ve explored heavy topics through my art, loss that close to home is something entirely different. Your support and understanding mean the world to me, truly. And you’re right—creativity can be such a powerful way to heal, and I’m grateful to have it as a part of my life. 🖤
SKYND
2024-12-16 15:21:07 +0000 UTCIt sounds like you’re navigating this season of life with so much strength and intention, and I’m incredibly proud of you. Stress—whether positive or not—can feel overwhelming, but the way you honor your routines, take care of yourself, and connect with your support system is inspiring. It’s beautiful to hear that music, mine included, plays a part in that. You’re doing amazing, and I hope you take a moment to acknowledge how far you’ve come. Adulthood is no small journey, but you’re handling it with grace. Sending you all my love.
SKYND
2024-12-16 15:20:59 +0000 UTCWhile life is quite alright for me at the moment, there's still a lot of stress this month, even when some of it is positive stress. I tend to stick my routines, nourish myself well, prioritize what I need and have to and want to do, allow myself to feel, listen to (your) music & talk to my support system or on Instagram. I'm glad I found my ways so it's way easier to manage the beginning of adulthood as a 22 year old woman 💕
Diana • miss swyftiecate
2024-12-16 15:16:36 +0000 UTCSkynd, I'm so sorry and yet so incredibly proud of you for sharing this with us and feeling your feelings. While dealing with heavy topics throughout your music, it still feels different when there's a loss that's so close to you. I hope you can take time for yourself and use your creativity to heal from this. You're incredible and she'll always live in your heart. Bet she cherished the wonderful human being that you are. Take care of yourself dear 🖤
Diana • miss swyftiecate
2024-12-16 15:14:04 +0000 UTCI'm so sorry for your loss ❤️🩹
Ellinor
2024-12-16 15:08:43 +0000 UTC
