Sad Boyz Nightz #129 - "Jarvis's London Confrontation"
Added 2025-09-05 21:36:28 +0000 UTCPlus, an in-depth discussion on dealing with passive-aggressive texters.
Also, a rant about airport behavior.
Comments
also love that the “actual” nights of this is exactly one hour
Alicia Polley
2025-10-18 23:20:56 +0000 UTChad to end my sad boyz subscription for a min because i was low on cash ( :( ) but now i’m back and omg i forgot how refreshing it was to hear just normal empathetic takes on the internet. like if everyone was just nice to each other the airport would be so smooth.
Alicia Polley
2025-10-18 23:20:25 +0000 UTCI relate so hard to Jarvis anger towards mean people. Like I’m nice because it’s good for society not because it gets me anywhere! It’s so hard being a nice person too because people take advantage of the fact that I won’t fight back because to me part of being nice is not causing unnecessary issues, but when you let people act however they want without consequence then they learn to take more and more and it moves the bar of what is considered an “unnecessary issue” I wish I had the spine Jarvis has but unfortunately I’ve got eldest daughter, autistic, and dysfunctional family all stacking like status affects
Vynnie
2025-10-10 04:19:04 +0000 UTCThat'd be the justice sensitivity, my dudes :) As late-diagnosis ADHDer, it finally explains flip-of-a-switch rage I experience when other people are being mistreated in public, when I am an otherwise very chill, non-confrontational guy. P.S. - so glad Sad Boyz is back (I know it's been a while, but I'm just now returning to it), you guys got me through a lot of rough times in college. And thanks to Jarvis for responding to me on Instagram with tech career advice many moons ago. Y'all are the realest
Julian Dorsey
2025-09-22 14:29:49 +0000 UTCI Q11. Q I Q I I am a Little. I Q 1 Q
Ailen Marie
2025-09-20 07:20:02 +0000 UTCThis is just linguistics politeness maxims the ep
Eloisa Fox
2025-09-08 23:00:50 +0000 UTCwhen I am reminding people about a hangout date when they havent responded to my first message I do have some anxiety about coming across as passive aggressive. so i usually respond to the handout message with a gif of someone peeping in as a reminder on the day before. in my opinion, it's funny and hard to take seriously, so there's no room for the assumption that i'm being passive aggressive.
Calea J
2025-09-08 13:40:34 +0000 UTCWhy is question marking your own text passive aggressive? Am I toxic? pls explain
Keo Cinnamon
2025-09-07 04:42:45 +0000 UTCas someone who tends to be the planning friend: check in with them and make sure they’re not getting burnt out on it! i love to make plans but sometimes it gets tiring, and if it’s not really reciprocated at all it can feel like you care more than the others. love how you guys talk about friendship dynamics like this :)
Alexis W
2025-09-07 02:33:45 +0000 UTCThe only think with the TSA bit lol is that it feels like every airport has a different system. Like that’s why I almost always fuck it up XD
Tobias Resnick
2025-09-07 01:05:54 +0000 UTCJarvis being a teaching assistant makes so much sense, he is teaching assistant coded (good thing)
Spoder Thing
2025-09-06 20:01:31 +0000 UTCI will fight for my 2 inches of airplane recline, Im a large person and I want to saw my legs off lol
Jaye Hawkorvan
2025-09-06 18:55:05 +0000 UTC“We are all trying not to be selfish” MAN I WISH THAT WERE TRUE
Isaac Pensky
2025-09-06 09:56:34 +0000 UTCHis hidian floridian
Isaac Pensky
2025-09-06 09:54:45 +0000 UTCJarvis encounters an average “israeli”-attitude runner (aside from being unarmed) Cowardly arrogance is exactly right. “Let’s not do nationalism as a response to YOU being rude” sound international advice “It’s eerie” Jordan my angel of music “The IOF just offered me this huge brand deal-“ ey we got there 💀 MIND THE BIG RECTANGLE “Los Angeles Costco fails the shopping cart society litmus test” Jordan’s feelings about this sort of shit being fucking creepy are very correct. That shit is a sickness When I do society things for people my general thoughts amount to “haha, people 🥰”
Isaac Pensky
2025-09-06 09:54:25 +0000 UTCThey say to leave the bins at the airport because they stack themselves at the end of the thing lowkey, at least in ATL they even have a sign that says not to stack them.
Wyke Reed
2025-09-06 05:45:27 +0000 UTClike im not clueless on the fact that social cues just go way over my head. but after listening to this episode, i genuinely wanted to cry because many of the 'passive aggresssive' things pointed out, are literally things ive been told to do, like checkin in with people to make sure plans were still on, because for some reason, its not 'cool' to remember you made plans with someone and not having an exciting life where all sorts of shit happens to distract from remembering plans is a personal failing on my part, i dont get out enough or i dont have enough friends and rely on the ones i do have to keep their word is being 'too extra' but at the same time, men shouldnt feel insecure about being vulnerable. the doublespeak and contradictions are mind boggling. you gotta be sincere but not care, be genuine but dont give TMI, dont be afraid to show affection but only in these specific scenarios, in these particular ways. anything else means youre insecure, so we'll point and laugh
fleshparty
2025-09-06 05:45:09 +0000 UTCJarvis almost let out his hidden Floridian on the false roadman
Wyke Reed
2025-09-06 05:38:56 +0000 UTCif anything will ever improve, we've got to take anti-social personality disorders seriously, without making fun of people suffering from it. otherwise all we accomplish is teaching the next generation of people with antisocial disorders how to adapt. its crazy to me how we can recognize the manfucatured nature of 'male loneliness' (personally i dont believe for a second it only affects males, theyre just the valuable demographic) yet make fun of male hugging/wrestling workshops. do you want to meet people where theyre at or not? you cant pick and choose, then still try to ride the ethical lane.
fleshparty
2025-09-06 05:33:30 +0000 UTCit’s validating to know that jarvis shared the exact same petty as me
Law
2025-09-06 05:06:22 +0000 UTCAm I nice? Yeah. Am I kind. For sure. But the thing with my adhd is that fighting is FUN. although its rare, when confrontation arises i get to use a part of my brain I don't get to use often. I am anxious, depressed, and borderline nihilistic. Please give me a reason to pop off and have a dopamine explosion. My body CRAVES IT!
Leticia
2025-09-06 04:23:40 +0000 UTCThis episode made me realize I need to see Jarvis go sicko mode and become the joker.
Greg Goober
2025-09-06 04:10:37 +0000 UTCjordans thing about acknowledging the difference between progressive ideas of what social norms *should* be vs what they actually are is something I think about all the time dude. I esp think about it a lot in the context of body positivity/sex positivity in situations where it's like. should women being topless be more sexual and taboo than men? no! that still doesn't mean if a woman is topless it won't be read that way in our culture though, and people need to acknowledge those kind of realities to have realistic conversations about certain things
Sisi 77
2025-09-06 04:01:57 +0000 UTCThis is helping me cope cause my cat is sicky, thank yall 🫡
Kir!
2025-09-06 03:21:13 +0000 UTCunfortunately the confrontation exchange that happened is how an enemies to lovers fanfic that I would absolutely read would begin 💔
Aled
2025-09-06 02:23:44 +0000 UTCLike don’t over offer to help if you can’t. You don’t need to if you genuinely can’t. But don’t offer in that case!!!!
garbobarge
2025-09-06 01:50:08 +0000 UTCOmg I relate so much to what Anastasia said. It’s such a pet peeve of mine.
garbobarge
2025-09-06 01:47:01 +0000 UTC“We’re just gonna put it at the beginning because that might be what people are coming for.” You know your audience so well 🤣
Christine Gilfrich
2025-09-06 00:59:04 +0000 UTC
