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SNG EP 510

SNG EP 510

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Rain on Me is the Ashanti song! I would listen to this on repeat almost every day when it first came out.

Shakira Herbert

ellis playing sabrina carpenter to J and F is like a son playing his fav song to his parents and them just sitting there existing

idk man u tell me

I'm 30, I lost my dad 10 years ago, I don't remember his voice. I am doing great now as time does truly heal all. Love this episode and the respect for you guys is high

Wotadin

♥️

Richea M.

Parents getting old is soooo hard. Nobody warns you.

Richea M.

I lost my father a couple of weeks ago, he was only 52. Nothing could've ever prepared me for this. I'm 29 but damn, I'm not ready to live without having a dad

Kateryna Svitlychna

Fuhad, what you like about that Ashanti song is the music which is a sample from the late great Isaac Hayes. 'The look of love' which has also been sampled by Snoop. Those siblings that did the DNA test had to have doubts about their relation, maybe they didn't resemble the man who raised them and always questioned it.

Dionne

The talking about loosing someone super close and how it’s gunna take them from there knees or something makes me bring back my emotions of how i felt when i got the call about my nan dam it broke me I wouldn’t like to think about parents though xx

Rebz06

Ellis knows ball when it comes to music 🙂‍↕️

Nicolas Arenas

I feeel for James. I’m also competitive by nature. Not so much for like competitions but for life. Like within my work and my age group I want to be doing the best. Then by the time I reach a certain age I want to surpass everyone I know and what they were doing at that age. It’s not possible to keep up with because I don’t recognise the achievements I already have achieved I just go searching for the next success instantly.Good for keeping me motivated but not great for the mind.

Demi

The fact that James likes American country songs is crazy

Nya Bil

The way i almost came THROUGH my screen when Ellis tried to stop the song before the chorus 😭😭😭🤣🤣🤣🤣

Leo G

This shouldn’t have made me scream but I’m creasing rn 😆😆😆😆😆 why you say it like that lmaooo

JNN

Okay it wasn’t just me I thought I was just too high 😂😂 I blamed the 💨

JNN

Nope

JNN

Consider yourselves extremely fortunate to have not yet experienced loss. Experienced it deeply for the first time when I was 24, it changes how you see the world. It changes YOU.

JNN

I loved the mental health chat on this episode 🫶🏾🫶🏾

JNN

You guys are a team, remind each other DURING the good times that you’re in it. Say it.

Trevor Cate

Is daddy fantasy in this ep?

Chels

Complaining about your schedule when you get you get paid to play video games and kick it with your homie all day is crazy, stand up men

DeVaughn Burton

I personally think James has a lot of OCD traits. People with autism can also struggle with “failure” and losing. Hope this helps

Lia Devenney

James have you ever looked into OCD? That could be where the perfectionism comes from

Lia Devenney

Can’t wait for song of the week to phase out.

Tylor Malcolm

Lol yeah I thought the same thing

Kiana

Am I losing my mind? Because I swear this exact 'dilemma' has been brought up in a previous episode. I'm new to the Patreon subscriptions, please let me know if I'm out of the know here.

KimK

I had my first real loss 2 years ago at the age of 30 and when I tell you, not a single day goes by that she doesn't cross my mind. My dads mum, we all lived on one street and I saw her every day from childhood till her death. I have only one surviving grandparent left (my dads dad) who I'm REALLY close to and he's in his late 80s. I can't even think about his death let alone my parents or my siblings. The worst part is that my grandma died suddenly. This woman was the life of the party and then one day, cardiac arrest. It still got me fuckedddd up.

HS

Came here to laugh, got an existential crisis instead

Elissa Vankirk

As someone who lost both parents as a grown woman, with her own family, in the space of 7 months IT IS THE HARDEST THING to go through. Dont wish it on anyone.

Cha P.

Sometimes these things stem from childhood, comparison, the need to prove ourselves. What Fuhad said was absolutely right: these are habits we have to unlearn. You got this, James! Being content with what is, while still striving for what’s ahead <3

moonflower

I really enjoyed this episode and watching you guys getting deep. We can all relate to the fear of losing someone we love.

TEE T

It took me until I was a mom…and a lot of intense therapy… to realize my parents are just humans. They are flawed humans. And when you realize that, it’s easy to have empathy for them. Loved this talk ❤️

Katherine Acker

I put my daughter to bed a couple months ago, she was in tears. Asked her what was wrong. She said I don’t want you to go (meaning die), she was 7 at the time. Absolutely rocked me! 🥺

Keadian Anderson

WOW, a lot of people learn to deal with loss before they are grown…I have never realized that if I lose someone it’s going to rock my world because it’s never happened before. I have bills to pay 😭😭😭

iBriMarie

I beg somebody tetll Fuhad to move the mic closer, I'm up/downing my volume constantly it's jaaarrring

Leroy400

Ellis’ music selection fall off needs to be studied.

ItsLargeDad

You guys always bring me comfort and I just want to thank you for it, I love you so much 🩷

noemie’s roses

Yall watch the last kingdom yet?

Eli Roberts

The father deserves to know, and the mom deserves to suffer from him knowing, and more than likely the actual father is probably still alive. It's going to be awkward either way, the kids know, so the father who reared them from birth should know

Raphayel

James need to try Jon bellion ft Luke combs- why for his song of the week! No one will be disappointed

Cody Thrasher

we need a review of Aitch's new album!!!!

Mathias

i had to call my parents after this episode and I’ve been dodging their calls for like two weeks now for no reason. My parents are in their 60s and im only 23, they’re gonna have to put me in the ground with them when they go 💯

bubz

That exactly what the pod is about. What's wrong with people today.

Mo

Im not sure he wants to ATP LOL. James is something else I JUST LOVE HIM

Mo

The day my mom dies will be the day I die too. I’m not dealing with all that

Alica

Message rem on discord His user is remskkii

Stephen Ardern

Anybody know how to get on the discord? Im sure i missed it somewhere

Joseph

James ain't beating these allegations lmao

Kxngcoker

Sorry for your loss... Take care

VO357

My first ever significant loss was my dad when I was 39 and it was life changing but it cracked open my new era of becoming….its been 3 years and I’ve excelled tremendously since then and all I keep thinking is he’s helping me from whatever realm he’s transitioned to.

Krystle (Krys)

Random but I would love it if james and fuhad did a competitive cooking show on their pod. 🍳🙏I have seen them do it on another pod and them cooking on this one and it was really good. But by themselves working side by side on a timer would be crazy. Especially since they get so worked up about it.

Jasmine Jennings

I personally like hearing their recs and their comments. I do feel like a part of the ep needs to be made up for it, but this one felt shorter since Rem wasnt there.

Brianna

Fuhad has that Rick Ross beard today😅

Jordan Toliver

Where’d you hear they have kids?!

ComedicEffect47

First time I’ve hated an episode , just lost a close friend, and I’ve been struggling, to then come hear James ranting on for 20 minutes about foolishness, then all this talk about death, then shit songs…thanx for making my weeks significantly worse 🙂

Daadee

The scene you're talking about Fuhad is "The Golden Time of Day". Also....it's the tittle of a song by Frankie Beverly and Maze. FYI...Play the song during The Golden Time of Day.

Lynell Ghant

Can we agree that song of the week needs to stop eating a quarter of the ep 😂 💀

lee

U man is yapping today

Abdi_Panda

Cum Pig is hilarious 😂😂😂

RiRi

Omg I heard that song and my literal first thought was James 😂😂 sorry big man!!

Ashley

Wasnt that dixon dallas do gay stuff?

Jusden Stoner

Thanks for talking about some really difficult things. We are currently dealing with end of life care for my father in law. We only found out yesterday, so hearing about loss/ potential loss on the pod was a tough one to take and made me think and empathise a lot. As others have said, you just cannot prepare for it. Sending love to others going through tough scenarios like us. ❤️❤️

Cheyenne

Man that talk about significant loss hit home. I have just been thinking about this over the last couple of weeks. Comforting to know other people think about this

David Martinez

Also James needs a gratitude journal or a diary. Or put a wins board up in the office and I'm sure everyone will benefit from seeing it.

MillieMangolicious

Strange timing for me on this one. Mom's ill and borrowed time. I'm also her caregiver so... guess, I just need to be whatever it is she needs from me.

MillieMangolicious

Where is the audio only :(

Jake Kirkham

Where’s the audio only episodes gone!!! The last two haven’t had the option 😣

Cameron Horlick

The fact that James keeps looking down at Fuhad wen he talks is mad😂😂😂yall need to sort it...makes fuhad look like a child

David Makh

Loss is funny because you really can’t prepare for it. Regardless of the situation. My first substantial loss was my paternal grandfather (during Covid). 6months later maternal grandmother, a month after than paternal grandmother and a month after that my father. I was 38. Although I handled the grandparents ok, my father’s death (he was very ill so we were aware of the borrowed time) rocked me. All my emotions were tangled and it caused a year worth of trauma. The worst of it: I have a half brother who never met my dad and he was destroyed beyond words at the fact that he never got the chance to shake his hand and meet him.

Naz

Love the deep talks guys. Keep them coming. 💛

Anastasia Joseph

love the deeper chats 🥰

Amy Willard

James!!! Never beating the allegations! 😂💀

Kwaku Ankama-Asamoah

I'm just waiting for James to one day pick a Craig David song, for song of the week. 🤣

Jeremy J

He's referring to his dad's dad and then the man who was actually confirmed to be his dad's biological father

Antonia Oliver

I second on that one!

Debora Tatagiba

I’m so sorry, i think i misunderstood something somewhere. James says his father passed from COVID and then goes on to speak about him as if he’s still here and he also said he’s never had a significant loss in his life. Was he speaking of someone else that passed away from COVID?

Ashley Cherrelle

This episode touched a nerve..very deep thoughts. Nothing prepares you for the death of a parent. I lost my dad suddenly 10 years ago and I can remember every detail of that day, like it was yesterday. He was my hero! Cherish them while they're here and thank them for their love and sacrifices...you don't know how long you have with them♥️🙏🏼🕊

Shelly Ann F

Great episode though and may god bless our parents

Sami Amir

James looking at Fuhads reaction to test the waters 🧐

Sami Amir

This episode got DEEP. Really enjoyed it though. ❤️

Hannahh

I think this was one of my favourite episodes. True real feelings that a lot of people can relate to, including myself… Thank you both🤍

Alice Piggot

The math was not adding up, something triggered them to want to take the test, there is so much you can do for fun… DNA testing ain’t one of them😂😂😂

Lilly

Please check Fuhad’s mic volume.

Kwaku Ankama-Asamoah

Really love this heartfelt ep. Touched a little nerve as I lost my father suddenly just under 4years ago. Nothing can prepare you for that kind of loss no matter what age you are. Love you guys keep up the good work! 🎉❤️

Mrsshakeshake

I was waiting for james to say "you have a beautiful relationship - beautiful - turns out... 3 of your 4 kids.... 😂😂😂

Alicia Barrie

The thing about knowing though is , you know how low you’re gonna feel and you can’t do anything about it. My grandma’s twin sister was like our second granny got hit by a car 5 minutes from our house. She was in her 50s I was in middle school. Had the state sheriff’s in my house telling us. (I was mostly raised by my grandparents) then I lost my brother when I was 17 from overdose & drowning when he was only 25. So I don’t think it’s better knowing the feeling. Since no matter what I know my parents will be the hardest. It will be very different from the others.

Roxxy Lynn

Agree again. In my world, being saved from hurt, disappointment and all the emotions that live in the basement is really not living life to the fullest.

Lilly

Ohhhh buddy. I had an affair on my daughters dad and wrecked my marriage. He wanted to make it work but i wanted out. (Blissful ignorance - i didnt tell him, he broke into my house and read my messages after we broke up). Im sooooo scared about when my daughter finds out. Im ready to sit there and take accountability and do what i need too to help her through it. But man im not looking forward to it 😭 I dont condone what i did, and im not that person anymore thanks to a decade of mental help treatments - but no one cheats in a happy relationship, and i hope at some point shes able to hear my side of the story too.

Alicia Barrie

I get what you’re saying and in a way you’re very lucky to have got to your mid 30’s and never experience loss. I experienced it at 11 when my uncle (father figure) died suddenly. I remember thinking at age 23, that I’d officially lived most of my life without him than with him. Even now at 34, the grief still hits me at random moments. No matter how many people you lose, you can never be prepared. I’ve been thinking about losing my mom too and genuinely get anxiety at the thought. It doesn’t help that I work in palliative and end of life care so deal with death on a daily basis! But yeah all this waffling just to say, you can never be prepared for losing anyone of significance to you 🤍

Maariyah

Take on the dilemma: the DNA test wasn’t truly “just for fun”, one of the kids “playfully suggested” it and it was definitely because they noticed something sus in the homestead!

Kern

I agree, ignorance is not bliss, I think I deserve the opportunity to deal with whatever: the good, the bad the ugly & the grotesque! Let’s see what my psyche can withstand…..Don’t you dare take away from me. When you say you only live once, that also includes the worst life has to offer not just the best.

Lilly

Love this episode. Really enjoy hearing your experiences, thank you for sharing <3 <3

Inès Leca

This was such a deep episode love,losing a parent destroys you no matter how many losses you have had prior 😞

Bee

Hugs🫂

Lilly

I lost my Mum when I was 11 ( she was 38) and lost my Dad when I was 50 ( he was 80) for me it was worse at 50... 50 years of memories with Dad stick more with me than the 11 years with Mum. Any loss any hard regardless of what age you are.

Woowoosweet

Did you guys secretly fire Remskii

“Soul”COL

Bro they got top tier beards most men strive for, hats off to them🫶

Nickyrrig

I used to think that way too James ❤️ every night my husband and i say 3 things that went well for us each day. It took some time but now its natural and it really made us slow down and look at the good stuff ❤️❤️ try it. And go back to therapy 😂❤️

Alicia Barrie

Great episode! But I didn’t like this one. 💭

Tim C

Fuhad is correct baby James' competitiveness. James even overly competes with himself.

Mo

When I saw James doing Yoga, I thought James has to change things up. He wasn't able to stretch or deeply breathe. Thats tension.

Mo

I lost the woman who raised me 2 years ago. She was my nan, but she was really my mom. I lost the man who raised me when i was 9 and it fucking rocked me. Ive lost some friends - i am a veteran 🇨🇦. Nothing prepared me for losing her. It still hurts.

Alicia Barrie

Yup!

Alicia Barrie

I ended up turning on the video and shutting it off and it kept playing audio

Claire McDavid

the Reddit thread was true?! Yall have kids?!?! I’m so shooketh but understand why it wasn’t publicized

Claire McDavid

Since the conception of the pod I could never get with the “ignorance is bliss” mentality it’s just too lazy for lack of a better word. While I don’t need to know EVERYTHING the the things they think ignorance would benefit from be too close to things that feel like you’re living a complete lie if you don’t know the truth. Great episode.

K-Camp

When they say bouldering are they referring to rock climbing?

Mrsmignon

Dilemma: I don’t agree with James at all, 60, 80, on my death bed I’ll be damned if I’m living a lie and EVERYBODY in my family knows but me??? Let’s be serious, now anytime I’m like “damn I love my family” and there’s this eerie silence in the room every time. Fuck that! Take me out of the Matrix, that’s not a real life!

Axl

Damn, this was a great ep. Love all the laughter and shit you guys get up to with crazy scenarios but my introverted soul adores these kind of real and deep talks. You can never pre-per for a parents loss. Good friends and loved ones is wats gonna get you through it because when you are out in the sea of grief desperately treading water trying to keep you head above the surface they are gonna be like a boat holding you up until the sea has shrunken enough for you to touch the bottom and stand again. Really love the songs this week. Jame"s first one got me cackling 🤣 Na Le - Omiki, Phaxe

Maria

Very vulnerable episode and I am thankful to the boys for opening up 🫂🫂🫂. Enjoyed every minute

Rachel Dagbovie-Atsu

*hug*

ThatCrippledArtist

I lost a brother when I was 24, another brother at 31 and my mom when I turned 41… for free, I can testify that time doesn’t heal a damn thing…….you just crack on. On happiness….the book “Power of Now” by Eckhart Tolle is quite the expose on the true nature of happiness , great read!

Lilly

Is it me? Or does James face look noticeably thinner? Not in a bad way.

Jeremy J

Really enjoyed this episode! It was warming to see you two chat about life circumstances that lead you to be vulnerable to your audience. XOXO

SavvyStrands

The song James chose hahahahahahahhaha

Tuesday Mitchell

Fuhad and I said wtf at the same time 💀

Jube

Why is there no audio twice now mannn

Logan

The boys got deep today. The older we get, we realise the mortality of our parents and it is sooooo JARRING!!! Like. What are we supposed to do with this?! I’ve told my parents they aren’t allowed to die 🫣

Desiree Jordan

James i'm no doctor, but you may have identified where you restart your therapy journey. Why is winning never enough and why is percieved failure never an option. I also think (know) many people are wired this way. Myself included. My parents, thankfully, are still living. Many of my friends have lost one or both parents. You can never, be prepared for the the death of significant, unconditional love of a caring parent.

IsleChile

The way yall make me want to give yall Granny hugs when yall speak so vulnerable. Ugh….BRING IT IN!!!! 😭

Kesha Samuels

I have a big family so I’ve always been surrounded by people I love. Growing up I never thought about how am I supposed to cope with their deaths. My dad died two years ago and certain things are still very triggering for me. Idk what I’ll do when my mom dies.

Lauren Vidal

Fuhad she gotta go! 😂😂😂

Kesha Samuels

It don’t matter how many deaths you had beforehand, you are never prepared for your mum and dad going. Lost siblings when younger and that was hard enough but Idid not expect the metaphorical train that hit me when my mum passed. And it took time to accept.

Sharn Gill

Che Ecru is amazing and he writes and produces his own music 😍😍 my favorite

Alyssa Zmudzinski

One day James is gonna be an amazing bi girl who will let him tap into his sus side w a mmf 3way LMAO

Tonya Rivera

Had to call my folks after this one damn man!

Jay Guichardo

Loved this ep Always enjoy the laughs but its good to see the boys get abit vulnerable and show a different side to themselves

Siaosi Tamate

We uncs fr! 😭😭😭

Stop Karey

James got way too comfortable with the phrase "gaping hole" 😭😭

Kweku

Notice how he was able to recall his bench press victory so swiftly!? Petty James has resurfaced

marcus Washington

No amount of preparation can prepare you when a parent dies. My dad was the first significant loss I had, i was 28 and he had been sick for years. I remember the first time I looked at him and actually saw his “oldness/sickness” for the first time. That drive home was rough. I cried the whole 45 minute drive. I remember when he told me he was sick I told my best friend at the time that I would end up being the one who found him. So there was supposed to be this whole plan for when he died so that I wouldn’t be the one and sure enough, I was the one who found him. Brought me to my knees. Ngl, it broke me. I started using drugs cuz it numbed the pain. Got real bad and then I found someone that helped bring me out of it. It’s not easy losing a parent but having people around you that TRULY care abt you is what can help you deal with the grief. ❤️

Nichole

Walkout song : Biggie - kick in the door

Kristian Petersen

Everyone deserves to know the truth

Nicola Webster

No audio again?

KingKobina

One of the best episodes I’ve watched in awhile. I love when you guys talk deeply about real life things

Jasmine

Sometimes im just happy that other people have these thoughts

Prof X

The thought of death gets to me when im at peace and content.....then i spiral 😫😫😫😭😭🤣

Prof X

Great ep! Two things 😊: 1. The number of times I have thought about how I’ll handle my parents’ death is horrifying. I’ve been thinking about it for 30 years. Makes me appreciate them a lot more though. Mum’s 77 and my dad turns 80 this year. It is really morbid but I think it’s ok to try to come to terms with reality. I’m sure the actual experience will rock me though. 2. I watched a Kevin O’Leary interview today and he spoke about success and says he keeps making money (even though he doesn’t need anymore of it) because he enjoys what he’s doing. It be like that sometimes - success is doing what makes you happy and what a bonus if it can make you money as well!

Kagi

Another Thursday babies!! Let's get it!!

John Ramsay

Idk about you guys but I love when they get in there deep omg PAUSE 🤣 I MEAN deep into conversations like the way they did with their parents bc same. So relatable & love to see this side of them come out sometimes ❤️

Gaby Gauna Lozano

The parents passing chat was so real. Im the the oldest of three and I've been trying to get my parents to get it together and tell me/my siblings when important information is stored, life insurance companies etc.

Rhyvere Christopher

James what is this song 🤣🤣

Kitella K

I been on here for a while but I’m not social enough to comment but I will say coming from someone who loss their mom at a peak age in there life. This episode hit different. So I appreciate it a lil more

Reese

Great episode to start my Thursday morning.

Michael Shakur

Very good episode today

Karland Barrett

That song of the week!! I was finna say now James 😂😂

Diamond Johnson

"im gonna die ROCKED" is the perfect line

Travis Jai

LOLL James been in Nick’s streams with that song 😂😂

Jada P.

Oh I could tell it was backlogged

Kitella K

Dilema... he was the man she was seeing before meeting her husband, but 3 kids are not his, meaning she was seeing them both, trifling. Sadly that's pretty standard today.

Karland Barrett

These once in awhile “deep” episodes make me so happy because it feels like I know you chaps a bit deeper. So same time 6 months from now? Perfect

Memory Motseki

I love these healing sessions you guys have from time to time. Even if it is just James venting his desire to always win 😂😂😂

Karland Barrett

sotw frank Sinatra by cake

Warren Downs

Audio eps???

Jakob Young

Happy birthday 🎂

Tasha Marie

Rem on holiday again, damn that SNG producer money must be crazy 🤷😂

Josh

my birthday episode!!🥳🙂‍↕️

Abbygail

Awe awe! 🔥

shakirabera 🇿🇦

Yebo lapho! 🤟🏽

Memory Motseki

Let’s go!!!

Ashley Drake

James’ self reflection is so healthy! Get it king! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

Joanna

Are you guys not doing anymore audio uploads anymore?

Chris Suazo

Yewwww!!! 🤌👌💙

Naz

yasssss lol

LaTonya Brinson

Just in time!! Was looking for something to listen to while at work 🙏🏾🙌🏾

Salomon Rodriguez

4th!

Sara Kusser

GGG!!!!

Emily Bachmann

2nd

Quincee Miles

Let’s go!

Giovanni Soto

1st

Georgia


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