Leaving Abuse (2017 Rerun)
Added 2025-05-20 11:00:18 +0000 UTCDr. Kirk Honda talks about leaving abuse
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February 1, 2017
The Psychology In Seattle Podcast ®
Trigger Warning: This episode may include topics such as assault, trauma, and discrimination. If necessary, listeners are encouraged to refrain from listening and care for their safety and well-being.
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Comments
Thank you so much for this. That‘s very refreshing to hear. Also, in abusive rls there is always psychological abuse / manipulation involved, making it hard to leave.
Melly
2025-06-14 22:20:59 +0000 UTCSending love and solidarity to you, and hope you continue to find healing. I have a few choices words for your MIL, though.... 🤬🙃
Sylvia Soule
2025-05-22 06:07:51 +0000 UTCThanks for this episode. It also hits close to home for me and it's so refreshing to hear what you shared about it. I've been in a harmful relationship for 17 years, since we were 16. My mind grew around it and it's so hard to detach from the years of berrating comments, control, manipulation, and aggression. Especially while we love one another so deeply. What you said about having kids also adds that extra layer of complexity. Each May I get this wave of inspiration for about 2 weeks to plan to leave, it's a strange pattern but must hold some meaning. Then it fades, my mind changes, I am reminded he has become much better and I decide to stay. 3 kids, me being a stay at home Mom for 13 years, and his gradual improvement among many other things keep me here. I have been finding some healing and good avenues of support, thankfully having some good people like my sister to help me see clearly in a haze of confusion and pain. My mother in law blamed me when I called her about my husband being arrested for assault on me. She said, "oh Nic, he must be really hurting, what did you do?" And that among thousands of other comments that squashed me left me feeling too sensitive and crazy almost broke me. We started couple therapy but recently ended it as our therapist had to take medical leave. He was great in many ways but I feel he mutualized it, minimized really awful treatment and I came away feeling confused and retraumatized. Anyway, sorry for the long message, I am growing while staying and doing the best I can to empower my kids. I hope they find partners that treat them well and they treat their family well also. My life has its beauty and I can probably stay for the rest of it and still find my joys and peaceful moments.. and cherish those times of sanctuary.
Nicole Scholze
2025-05-20 18:54:18 +0000 UTC
