Codependency (2021 Rerun)
Added 2024-06-09 11:00:05 +0000 UTC[Rerun] Dr. Kirk Honda talks about codependency.
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November 3, 2021
The Psychology In Seattle Podcast ®
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Important topic which I personally wish you covered more thoroughly... instead of 3 hours defining what it is not and how most others got it wrong, I would actually like to hear 3 hours on how it actually looks like in therapy, and complications from comorbid conditions and how to tackle them, rather than giving it 10 minutes at the end...
Oren Shatz
2024-10-18 13:34:54 +0000 UTCSame!
Wandering Soul
2024-06-20 17:58:23 +0000 UTCWas there a definition of enmeshment and I missed it? I need a deep dive on what exactly the internet says vs therapist definition of enmeshment is.
Lauren King
2024-06-12 03:57:36 +0000 UTCIs it possible that we get the two terms (dependant and co-dependant) mixed up or mashed together because people who suffer from addiction are often also dependant on people to take care of them? I relate to being co-dependent (having married and divorced and married another addict). I also have tried to extricate myself from my relationship with my addict 3rd husband many times but I always welcome him back even though I'm going against my better judgment and I'm watching myself let it happen (dissociated?). I went through this pattern over and over and over again in these 2 relationships. (my first and second relationships were not with addicts but were with abusive partners) I'm very much an overfunctioner and I don't allow people to take care of me even though I desperately want someone to take care of me sometimes (I don't feel like I deserve it). I was diagnosed with BPD when I was 34 (I'm 48 now and I've been in therapy for 12 years and it's really helped but hasn't "fixed" me) I am not dependent but my partner (addict) is very dependent on me - when he's not using. When he's using, he's dependent on his substance. It's very complicated.
Fiona
2024-06-10 21:26:04 +0000 UTCI love the Twilight example. I feel like the books represent Bella’s parentification and codependency absolutely uncritically as virtues — culminating in her vampire superpower of being a “shield.” Those books romanticize so many unhealthy dynamics, but unpacking them really helps me see through (and become free from) some of my messed up socialized beliefs.
Eliza Rowley
2024-06-10 19:33:54 +0000 UTCThis is my mom and brother. He's 41 and she still pays his bills because she thinks he's incompetent despite overcoming addiction over 6 years ago now. He's "irresponsible" yet he manages her business. I feel sorry for him. My brother's fiance text me recently how she finally put her foot down and cut off communication with my mom (my mom would treat her like trash and say things like how she'll never be good enough for her son). I have been in no contact with my mom for a few years now, and sure that if I wasnt- I'd be sucked into that dysfunction, also.
Mel Chinnici
2024-06-09 16:51:54 +0000 UTCI’m learning how to ask myself what I want and to know what is right for me and tolerate the distress of rejecting people and experiences I don’t want in my life. I’m not responsible for everyone’s peace
Judson Costello
2024-06-09 14:53:33 +0000 UTCStupid kids and their parents. Now where’s my wife? She’s supposed be home at 11:37am!
Cat Sanctuary Dallas
2024-06-09 14:43:45 +0000 UTCI’ve found myself in codependent relationships, as the ‘rescuer’. For me, it felt that the more I sacrificed myself and gave myself over to their needs, the more it would prove my love (and that I’m lovable).
Vaughan Dutton
2024-06-09 13:56:01 +0000 UTC
