💌 Valentine's Day Special! 💌
Added 2025-02-07 18:51:18 +0000 UTCHey guys! For Valentine’s Day, I’m doing a special Wishful Thinking episode where I answer your dating related questions and react to your stories! 💘
What you can send in:
💖 Dating Questions – Ask me anything about dating! This can be about my personal experiences, general advice, red flags, green flags, or anything else love related.
💌 Your Own Stories – If you have a funny, awkward, wholesome, or straight up wild dating story, I wanna hear it. I’ll be reacting to these live! Just make sure to put "[STORY]" before your comment so I don’t see it beforehand. I want my reactions to be completely in the moment.
❤️🔥 Hot Takes – What’s your most controversial or unpopular opinion about dating? Maybe you think that texting everyday is overrated or perhaps you have a different take on cheating. Just label it with [HOT TAKE] so I know it’s part of this section.
You have all week to comment your questions down below. I'm excited for this one, my loves. 😘
Comments
[HOT TAKE] A restaurant is not cheesy and cliché and should ALWAYS be your first option for a few reasons: 1. It is the most neutral of places when it comes to interests; everyone loves food 2. It can easily be arranged - unless you're thinking about going to a 5-star restaurant, which you ought to avoid; they're a scam, anyways 3. If you're reserved, sharing a meal can create natural conversation starters 4. There's less pressure and it's more comfortable than doing something that requires high activity, from hiking to even shopping at the mall 5. Because of the public nature, it's also a guarantee of safety if you're ever feeling uncomfortable with the person sitting across the table as staff will assist with whatever issues are present But if your date is persistent on the idea that a restaurant as your first date location is unpreferable, I give you two options: the zoo or any other "animal garden", or the arcade!
Jorge Qintero
2025-02-14 03:07:18 +0000 UTC[Question] So I've been talking to this girl that I had met, after the first year of COVID had started, and we have been talking ever since then. We live in two different countries, but thankfully in the same timezone, so we often spend our days with each other talking to each other on discord or texting throughout the day. Every once in a while we'd plan something out to see each other in person to hang out. I've been wondering, how can I better express my love to my girlfriend?
NaturallyAllen
2025-02-13 18:03:14 +0000 UTC(Question) What are your red flags in dating? The ones you see in others, to be clear. What are things you consider green flags? (Story) Not Valentines, but when I was in high school, I asked out a girl I really liked to homecoming. My first clue that it wasn't going to go well was when I asked her, she made a bit of a show of considering it before saying "sure, okay." For two weeks she effectively ignored me and avoided me and didn't communicate with me at all, whether it was to meet up before homecoming, getting a corsage, or any thing really. I started to figure out she didn't like me the same but it was basically confirmed a few days before when one of her friends approached me and told me that she didn't really want to go with me and that they (she and her other friends) had been trying to get her to tell me that. That hurt but my thought process was "take it on the chin, just go to the dance, and try to enjoy the evening." Night of homecoming comes around and I'm standing by the entryway when I see her. She walks past me, she apparently didn't see me, and then starts talking to one of her male friends and started clasping hands with him. There I was, standing there, holding a corsage meant for her, and feeling pretty bad for myself. When she finally did notice me, she basically pinned it all on me that she totally wanted to tell me but I wasn't there at lunch two days before when she wanted to tell me. I wasn't there because I was at a student council meeting. A meeting her friend also went to (the same friend who told me that she didn't want to go with me) so she probably would have known. She also said that the reason she didn't try to reach me because "things can get confused over text." Like telling me two days before homecoming was the better option. Real kicker, I later found out she had a boyfriend at the time too (and it wasn't the male friend she was talking to at homecoming.) So it was majorly a huge cluster. I'm over it now, but I'm still kind of mad at myself for letting myself be such a pushover. If there is any advice I could give people, if they don't seem like they want to be with you, don't try and force it or even push it. If you get the feeling they aren't that into you, they aren't that into you and you are better off moving on.
Brycen Lanager
2025-02-10 01:44:04 +0000 UTC[QUESTION] I’m interested in getting to know this girl in one of my college classes, but I’m about 90% sure she’s got some form of social anxiety (it’s been like three weeks since the semester started and she hasn’t even looked at anyone else, let alone talked to anyone). How should I go about initiating a conversation or just any sort of interaction without being too forceful or overbearing about it?
Hueburt Dinklesprout
2025-02-08 08:25:08 +0000 UTC[STORY] This one is kinda a sad one, but I will try my best to not make it a long one. When I was fifteen years old, I met my best friend Mary. Whenever people ask me who she is to me, I simply say “love of my life, bane of my existence.” Because our story is a wholesome one, but it has kinda a tragic end. I met her when I was at my lowest. I was angry, I had a lot of self hatred towards myself, and I felt so alone and rejected in this world. But the moment I laid my eyes on her during our Catholic retreat, I felt a spark I never thought I would feel before. It’s like all my anger and sadness went away for a small moment when I saw her for the first time. After that retreat, we talked almost everyday in the summertime. And the more we talked, the more in love I was with her smile, her jokes, just everything about her. To me, no other girl in this world existed, she was everything. She was my rock and my biggest support system and honestly, I often feel I did very little to deserve that. She would stay at my house to get away from it all and I would take her on drives whenever her home situation got chaotic. We saved each other in a way, I guess by making each other feel seen and wanted and less lonely. But as wholesome at it starts, we unfortunately never became a real thing. Truth is, I knew that to her I was more of a comfort for her. She would go after these guys who showed huge red flags and once they started to treat her badly, she came running back to me so I can comfort her and make her feel okay. And one I made her feel okay and gave her the attention she wanted form these other guys, she went to pursue then again, only to get hurt and come running back to me again for comfort. And that cycle continued for years and years and it got really bad once we got to college. And for the longest time, I was okay with just being a second option. I guess because I figured it wouldn’t get any better than this. It’s the reason why I stayed in a toxic relationship for two years because I felt it’s what I deserved after I decided to keep my distance from Mary for a bit. But even though I knew it wasn’t right what she was doing, Mary got me through a lot and still never made me feel alone. She gave me the courage to leave my toxic ex two years ago, she was there to pick up the pieces when I was feeling so low again after the breakup, and I felt happy for a bit because it felt like old times. It made me realize that I never stopped loving her, and I don’t think I ever will. But unfortunately, I know that no matter what happens, the cycle will still continue, and I’m not sure if I want to put myself through that again. I still love her so much, and that’s why it hurts that we’re not close anymore, but I need to love myself first. I don’t know what the future holds, she used to tell me that w never know what could happen with us in the future, but I think I’ve gotten to a point where I don’t think it’s fair for me to put my life on hold for her anymore. We walked passed each other on campus last week, it was actually her birthday. We stopped, and we stared at each other for a bit. Her eyes were still as beautiful as they were the first day I met her, and I could feel her talking to me with her eyes, almost as if she was saying “it’s okay, you can let me go now. Go live your life, thank you for everything.” And with that, she smiled and we went our separate ways. I don’t know much about this love thing, I think I’m still trying to figure it out. But if the multiverse is real, then maybe in another life, Lalo got his dream come true with Mary. 💚
Lalo Venzor
2025-02-08 05:40:09 +0000 UTC[STORY] I've been in a lot of toxic relationships so I have plenty of dating stories some of which have left me with trauma. The one I like to tell people about is the one where I was in a 5 year long distance relationship. Both of her parents were military and separated so most of the year she was with her mom who was in Germany at the time and on holidays and the summer she was in my town with her dad. One time we were house sitting for her dad and just had sex and for some reason she decided to grab the gun her dad gave her (just in case someone broke in) and pointed it at me. I was laying there naked with my hands up thinking "idk what I did but I probably deserved it." Then she put the gun in her nightstand and we continued to have sex. She ended up breaking up with me a few years later and is now married to the man who I didn't want to have a polyamorous relationship with because he was older than my mom. Side story: I was house sitting for the dad on a separate occasion and their cat came up and started rubbing their face against mine while I was playing xbox. He then put his paw on my neck and slowly extended his claws and left it there staring at me for a good minute before retracting them and continuing to stroke his face against mine.
MisTerxAv1eR
2025-02-08 05:12:16 +0000 UTCHonestly, I don't know. I just feel like at the end of the day I want to have a joint life insurance plan with my future partner. (Because I think that's romantic)
r!
2025-02-07 22:01:33 +0000 UTC[HOT TAKE] WEDDINGS ARE A DAMN SCAM. Weddings just exist to make money. Just the wedding rings themselves cost and arm and a leg and kidney and a lung to buy. Photographers, food, cake, suits and dresses cost so much more when you add the word “wedding” before it. I highly doubt the day of the wedding is most people “happiest day of their lives”. It’s just and excuse to splurge on the wedding. If I was to get married I bet just sitting in my car, eating 7/11 pizza with my girl and just talking would be happier than a wedding. I’d rather spend the money we would use on a wedding for a vacation instead or to just save it. Unrelated side tangent: gift cards are also a scam. Just give me cash that I can use anywhere. Gift cards are not equal value to cash. Hookers don’t accept them, nor does my crack dealer, so would should I??? [STORY] Not really a story but I remember my ex’s roommate (let’s call him Mark) was in a polyamorous relationship with 2 other people. One time he told me he was planning on living with the 2 people he was dating along with like 6 other people who were polyamorous, all together in a big house with like 5 rooms or something. I always thought that was a recipe for disaster. Living with just a couple roommates can be a little chaotic but imagine living with like 7 other people, everyone coming in and out all the time (in more ways than one 😏) and everyone just fucking each other. The amount of drama and chaos that would pop up is unimaginable. He even mentioned there’d be a dedicated bedroom just for fucking, which just grosses me out thinking about it knowing multiple people would be in there in and out constantly fucking.
Shrek 2 On DVD
2025-02-07 21:59:54 +0000 UTC[STORY] When it comes to spicy roleplays, I feel - please take no offense - disgusted when being dominated because it reminds me of my ex. In high school, I was the outcast. One day, one of the popular girls, let's call her Amber, tells me that she likes me and wants to date me. Now, we were no strangers - we shared 3 periods, we've had a few chats outside of class and we even liked the same anime! I was excited, so I took the chance. But as time went by, she started becoming really touchy and aggressive - DOMINANT. I wasn't comfortable, but I thought this was normal so I didn't say anything. At one point, she pinned me down against a wall and words can't describe how genuinely afraid I was. She would also tell me I needed to change my behavior, saying that it's embarrassing. But I took it, anyway. I thought I did something wrong, so I tried getting gifts on Valentine's Day to fix things. But one of her friends showed me the reality - Amber dating me was really her plan to make her ex jealous and want to get back together. AND IT WORKED. To add salt to the wound, she had me listen to a voicemail where Amber called me a freak - some time after I told her about me being diagnosed with a low form of ASD because it hit my self-esteem like a truck. I was emotionally and physically used. Amber's in the past now, but I'm never going to let alone put their hands on me and play with me like she did ever again. It also made me realize that when it comes to spicy roleplays, I enjoy being the dominant one, but I also enjoy being gentle with it. Basically, I'm a soft MDom. Edit: Your latest shy girl audio reminded me of how, the day after Valentine's Day, I was sitting by my lonesome at the city harbor. Suddenly, I was approached by the shy girl of my class - we never talked a lot, so we didn't recognize each other immediately. But when we did, we had some small chat before giving me comfort for what happened between me and Amber. To cheer me up, she handed me some homemade cookies that she made for a party - best cookies in my life. We actually became good friends until she had to move to another state for university. But by then, I had fully recovered from Amber's meddling.
Jorge Qintero
2025-02-07 21:02:57 +0000 UTCQuestion where can I find a girl like you lol But actually what's a massive green flag in a guy
reiven
2025-02-07 19:44:50 +0000 UTC[HOT TAKE] Valentine's Day is much more fun to celebrate as a kid than it is to celebrate it when you're an adult. Back when all we cared about were candies, handmade cards, and an innocent view about love, and the complexities of romantic relationships were nowhere to be found until much later.
Jorge Qintero
2025-02-07 19:38:00 +0000 UTC[STORY]'' so I actually had an awkward moment with an old highschool friend will call her susan, basically what happened this took place a year or 2 after graduating highschool in 2015 I don't remember when it exactly happened but let's just say we stopped talking after awhile, basically what happened is there was this girl who was a good friend of mine and she secretly was in love with me, she must of kept it to herself cause she never said anything before, but I never saw her romantically just as a friend, so we were texting on messenger and she told me the last time we hung out she low key wanted to fuck me, I stared at my phone for a good minute like wtf so I played along to see what else she would say, so i was oh ok cool you know, I asked her how do you wanna do this or what's the call? So she told me you can pick me up from work and everything like that so we can have some private time, so I said ok and I told her this would be my first time so what do I do when this moment comes she told me I'll teach so I said ok, but I told her could we possibly use condoms cause I don't wanna have kids and this next part threw me off she said she likes kids tho, and that made like of god no.....and the nest up part about this is she was already in a relationship at that time and what made it worse is she already had a kid with the guy she was with so I was bruh what the fuck so I texted her back after being shocked for a while I said look I'm flattered by all this and told her no cause I already had crush on another girl and I told her that I didn't feel the same then she instantly blocked me on messenger and we didn't talk for a couple of years xD I was like wtf just happened after she blocked me just the fact she was already in a relationship and had a kid was the red flag for me so that's my awkward red flag story😂
Mika Shimada
2025-02-07 19:14:38 +0000 UTCWoooo let's go❤️
Mika Shimada
2025-02-07 18:55:03 +0000 UTC
