do u love sebastian? tell me why!! pls
Added 2024-09-29 11:40:32 +0000 UTCedit 9th oct: HI thank you SO much for all the comments! im incorporating them into the video now so any new ones wont be included past this point but feel free to add your opinion anyway as theyve all been so interesting to read!!
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hiiiii! so im thinking at the end of the video i wanna talk about all the different reasons people love sebastian so much - cos my theory is that there are a bunch of different reasons, depending on the person. eg someone might bond with him over being a stepchild, or wanting to get out of his town, or having anxiety etc.
if you are one of these people and you are comfortable with me sharing your comment in the video (i can do it anonymously if you want, just lmk!), i would love to hear it! i think having people's actual comments will be more effective than me talking vaguely about the subject.
but don't feel like you have to - if no one comments i can ask on discord, just thought i'd give you guys first dibs 😋 ok ily xx
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I come from a really small rural town. There are not a lot of opportunities to find places where you fit in. If you don't feel like you have a place in your family, it is extremely isolating. I also had siblings and come from a hardworking/achieving family. It doesn't take much to be looked at as lazy or a loser. Even the friends you do have, do you have them because you guys like each other or because there's no one else/nothing to do? I can identify a lot with those parts of his story. I also wore a lot of black =) There's really something special about actually getting to know an introvert. It is not an easy process. It takes time and patience. You can feel the distance and insecurity in a lot of his dialogue. A lot of trust has to be built up before they start opening up and showing themselves. That's one of the reasons why I find romancing him so interesting. A lot of spouses on the game feel the same to me on Heart 1 as they do on heart 8, 10, or 14. - which makes it boring. It is really beautiful after marriage with him how much he says that he feels like he belongs and how comfortable he feels. He makes his appreciation and affection easily known. I do feel like his flaws can get blown out of proportion and less is looked on what's behind them and how he grows from it. He asks you about how much money you make, but then follows up with how he should get a "real" job. Once you have kids, he starts reflecting on his relationship with Maru and admits how a lot of it was his fault. I do wish his 14 heart event had a little more substance. But overall, I get a lot of satisfaction from his story. I have tried to romance and marry other spouses but always end up going back.
SourBluePiece
2024-10-21 15:29:09 +0000 UTCI know i'm late but to add; he seems like that dude i can sit and talk about anything. I like that despite his immaturity, he seems like a smart man. And he has goals/ambitions! When you marry him he tells you he's able to make that game he's always wanted to do and as an artist myself, that felt so rewarding. But yknow. Biased. Ive only married Sebastian in ALL my playthrus lmao. True sebastian simp.
Cloud
2024-10-13 01:47:15 +0000 UTC<3 thank you for your comment!
Fiona Sangster
2024-10-09 12:23:57 +0000 UTChahaha i too agree he would be miserable in a frogless city. thank you!!
Fiona Sangster
2024-10-09 12:20:54 +0000 UTChahaha i too would die for my pixel husband. thank you!!
Fiona Sangster
2024-10-09 12:19:28 +0000 UTCaw cute! love that! thank you!
Fiona Sangster
2024-10-09 12:18:53 +0000 UTC😭 so sweet! thank you!
Fiona Sangster
2024-10-09 12:18:23 +0000 UTCnot too late! im only now going through these! thank you!
Fiona Sangster
2024-10-09 12:14:26 +0000 UTCnot too late at all, im only just going through these! thank you for your comment!! ill have to look up that poem it sounds lovely
Fiona Sangster
2024-10-09 12:12:47 +0000 UTCI'm probably too late to this too, having only just joined but having read some of the comments and stuff I am realising that I am Sebastian. I practically live in one room, even though I have a whole house to myself, I am an introvert to the point of feeling like I might have anxiety and I grew up in a village and now live in a big city. I am more into foxes than Frogs but always look out for them on my dusk walks. I think when you are at home a lot going for a walk becomes so much more meaningful. When I was a kid I use to walk up the road to watch the city lights come on. I always go for the “it gives me a strange, sad feeling” option as it is how I feel IRL. It is hard to explain, I don’t just want to say its “because it’s sparkly” I think the word I might be looking for is the awareness of ones own ennui, which totally makes sense for Seb. (I should have made peace with the universe before I got in the car). I notice that Sebastian is the only one who does the whole Makeout Point trope, even though someone like Haley could have done (her dialogue does sergest she has a car if she can drive 20 miles to the city to buy clothes). If I can’t sleep I open the window and watch runners and dog walkers and cars go past to remind myself that I am not alone in my wakefulness, I don’t need to know people to feel less alone. There is a poem called How to Love Your Introvert performed and written by Kevin Yang that has a line that goes “Do not confuse the stillness of lips with the rhythm of apathy/ just because I do not wear my heart on my sleeve for everyone to see does not mean that beats any less strongly than yours”. I feel like Sebastian is like that, it is all internal and I know what that’s like and I know how much he can love the player and that in the quiet you will have whole worlds to explore together.
Michael Mabbott
2024-10-09 00:45:40 +0000 UTC(might be commenting this too late bc I only just found out that your patreon exists, but I will happily rant abt my husband anyway!! 🤪) Despite never personally having had a thing for “bad boys” or goth/emo adjacent guys, I’ve always enjoyed developing relationships with characters who have built up walls around themselves and are initially standoffish towards the player (similar to Shane of course, who I have also married on a different save lol). I find the process of gaining their trust to be so rewarding when they do start to open up to you and slowly begin to reveal their true thoughts, feelings and personality. There’s something appealing about being drip-fed information about them as the relationship grows. It’s ironic, bc I also LOVE Sam, who fits into the “what you see is what you get” category and is very warm + friendly towards you from the start. Meanwhile, Sebastian is essentially the inverse. But, like I said, having to put in more effort to unravel the mystery is part of the appeal. I also genuinely do like his quirks— his love for frogs, fantasy board games, spooky things and rain and bats, the way the Spirit’s Eve festival is the only event he gets excited about (Halloween is my favorite holiday too 😋). I can relate to needing space and alone time and feeling overwhelmed when there’s too much going on around me. When you’re married he even makes a point to tell you that, even though he needs time to be by himself every now and then, he still loves you and loves being around you (and pretty much ONLY you 😂). So it’s also nice to feel like you’re providing solace and comfort for someone who is used to isolating themselves to the extreme. TLDR; the process of slowly winning him over and learning more about him is very rewarding; I like his quirky lil hobbies + interests and his marriage dialogue is some of the most diverse and romantic, actually!! luv my moody emo king <33
Caroline
2024-10-08 19:17:02 +0000 UTCHonestly, the first time I played stardew valley, he didn’t make much of an impression on me. I barely saw him around the town and it was really hard to find him for gift giving. But his 2-heart event gave me enough insight to him to the point I felt like I could relate to the feeling of being emotionally drained from social interaction and just wanting to stay in my room and rot all day lol. After that, I put more effort into building the relationship and I learned that he’s actually pretty sensitive and I think the whole “angry at everyone and the world” attitude is just an act (as it is with most people like him). I think for some people it may make him appear a little immature at first but with the player, he develops into someone that learns to appreciate the things around him. Sebastian’s dialogue at 6 and 8 hearts towards the player is also pretty sweet to me. He says some things along the lines of “You look really nice today!”; “I’m glad you’re around, I was starting to get bored.” And it shows me that he’s really opening up to the player, which is such a big thing for an introvert. It’s incredibly hard to open up and maintain a close relationship for me, so I understand how meaningful it is for Sebastian to do this with the player. Additionally, his 10-heart scene is probably my favorite out of all the marriage candidates because of the intimacy it portrays. A motorcycle ride at night to view the city lights from afar is so incredibly romantic (Elliot should take notes lol). Unexpectedly, I think he’s one of the more romantic marriage candidates after the bouquet. His dialogue is very sweet and it’s always paired with that portrait of him smiling (it always makes my heart skip a beat lol). After marriage, I do appreciate that he doesn’t just turn into this sociable person just because of the player. He stays true to his nature and I can appreciate that. He’s a loner at heart but he carves out a space for the player, and I find that to be really beautiful.
mel
2024-10-04 18:36:14 +0000 UTCI have always enjoyed being someone's "safe space." And for me as an AuDHD person, I've always read (perhaps projected) Sebastian as autistic, and that his social/ anxiety issues are related to a fear of rejection that autistic people often feel. I felt that I related to that, and I enjoyed that because of the player's influence, he becomes more and more open, happy, and emotionally safe. As well as that, like 3-4 years after I initially played the game, I met a partner of mine who also was like this and we've been dating for 3 years now :D I didn't even realize the similarities until like last year when he called me out for always marrying Sebastian lol
Taehee
2024-10-01 08:22:05 +0000 UTCI love Sebastian! Partially because I have a type and its literally boys like Sebastian lol. But also I think he's deeper than he appears - I think the initial impression of Sebastian is that he's going to be this Bad Boy ™️, but he's a depressed/anxious lil nerd that doesn't really feel at home with his family of origin. Which is relatable on a number of levels for me. He's also my first spouse, and I be riding for pixels like that lol
Khadija
2024-09-30 03:43:26 +0000 UTCoh, and you totally have permission to share my perspective in your video! I hope it helps other people who felt/feel the same way that I do. I understand you, I see you, you're good enough just as you are, you're capable of being loved, and you're not irreparably damaged or broken. You're just hurting, and it's okay to hurt. You weren't given what you needed to thrive as a person, and that is NOT your fault. I hope you find what you need to heal <3
PurpieSlurpie
2024-09-30 00:47:04 +0000 UTCI initially wasn't interested in Sebastian because of the whole wanting to leave the valley thing. It felt wrong to keep him from that. I only romanced him in a later play through and only felt comfortable doing so because I spent enough time talking to him to form my own undoubtedly-biased read of the character which made it feel okay to keep him in the valley. My personal read was that he didn't want to go to the city so much as he wanted to get some distance from his less-than-stellar home life, but there aren't exactly a wealth of rental properties in the valley. It was nice that the farm could let him stay near his friends and the wide open frog-filled spaces he likes to wander around in. I think he'd quickly end up miserable in a crowded, expensive, frog-less city. I never felt like my character saved him (not my thing). it was more that she made him feel comfortable and gave him a place to just be himself, which I can certainly relate to needing. I like to think that his relationship with his family will improve now that he's not seeing them every day. He also feels like the only character I'd date in real life. Introverted, nerdy, needs a lot of alone time, pretty private about his emotions until you get to know him, sign me up! I love how he has a bunch of his own hobbies and interests that he maintains even after you're married. Watching the videos on the other love interests has just made me like Sebastian more as a love interest. Most of the love interests feel like nice friends who would stifle me in a romantic relationship, lol.
Nedj
2024-09-30 00:41:16 +0000 UTCI relate to and sympathize with him a lot as a person. Those feeling of anxiety, restlessness, depression, and always having no energy to do anything, even when you really want to. The way that he feels ignored, brushed aside, and unloved. The way he expresses those feelings in his dark and gloomy appearance and language. The way he feels comfort in melancholy. His dissociation and escape into fantasies and "nerdy" interests. His dissociation and escape through lying in bed all day, just stuck inside of his own head in his own worlds. The way he feels like he barely has any friends and struggles to make any new ones. The feeling that he's never taken seriously by anyone around him. Not having any direction in life, not feeling like he's "good enough" at anything to actually thrive in a career, then trying to make hobbies into a career and failing at it anyway because it's not actually fun anymore. I can relate to being traumatized and clinically/chronically mentally ill and just trying to cope with the best maladaptive coping mechanisms that I have because no one ever taught me any better. I see my adolescent self in him and I want to be the unconditional love and support for him that I was never given. He feels like a kindred spirit to me. I know him, I am him, I have been him, I SEE him. Does that make sense? ;w;
PurpieSlurpie
2024-09-30 00:38:37 +0000 UTCAs someone who deals with depression, it can be difficult to ever feel like you can be loved or lovable, and so I think that might be why I like Sebastian! (My other faves are Harvey and Leah, so I think as a bit of an introvert/loner/outsider I'm drawn to that type in fiction)
Samantha Albert
2024-09-29 23:53:38 +0000 UTC
