the deepest dive into haley from stardew valley

haley my beautiful queeeeeeeeen (FOR GIRLS ONLY)

i love the thing about how alex is for the boys and haley is for the girls. she's my wife ok? we're in love!!!!!

it's so interesting to compare the 3 'rude' characters - haley, seb, and shane. i saw a lot of discourse on the subreddit of like 'it's such a double standard that people hate haley and love shane'. and like. yeah. thats a valid point. but to be fair it's quite a different vibe of rude. i think with these characters being as un-fleshed-out as they are, with so much room for projection, there's more room for someone to associate haley with someone they've known irl and hate her bc of that. and that's so valid tbh. but my goal with this video was to change hearts and minds about haley and i SUCCEEDED bc i got/get so many comments from people that i changed their mind 😭 fuck yes my mean sapphic wife redemption.

i feel like it's partly the thing of like you get assumed to be mean when you're pretty, like my sister (you saw her in the penny vid, shes objectively beautiful i will take no comments on this) says this happens to her like people say 'omg i assumed u were gonna be so mean!' and it's like no she just has strong cheekbones lol. personally i feel like haley is more comparable to sebastian than shane - vaguely insults u. not interested in u. doesn't see what you have to offer them. omg imagine goth haley 😳

when i filmed this video i had 600 subscribers and i remember thinking that that was an absolutely mindblowing number. it took me a while to get comfy when filming it because like at least 600 people were going to be seeing it? definitely? what the hell? (and now the vid has 80k views 😭)

i think this is the point where i kind of adopted the attitude i have now of like - whatever. don't think about it lol. it'll be fine. and it was fine, and it IS fine! one of the reasons making these videos has helped my confidence so much is that i would do a line read while filming and be like no that was bad let me do it again. so i'd do it again and when i was editing i would be like wait that first one was fine wtf. like i learned through brute force that my standards for myself were too high and i was doing fine. so that has helped me a lot. eg at my wedding my partner and i did a joint speech and people told me i seemed really comfortable, and i credit that to these videos bc like - just relax. just say it like you would normally say it and that will be good enough :)

this was also right after i crashed my car into a wall LOL i was trying to reverse up a steep driveway at speed but i did too much speed. oh well that's the only time i've crashed in 6 years and there were 0 casualties so that's pretty good going imo