FlirtyFetishes: BDSiM July UPDATE
Added 2025-07-30 20:58:36 +0000 UTCHi! I hope everyone has been having a great season, wherever you may be. In this update, I have added some new things, including a new trait
Hi! I hope everyone has been having a great season, wherever you may be. In this update, I have added some new things, including a new trait.
*EDIT Aug. 18, 2025: For those experiencing the Crash & Yearn buff indefinitely, this buff will not go away until Aftercare is received by the Sim with the BDSiM Insight trait experiencing the buff. This buff appears when BDSiM Socials have been performed and completely depleted the BDSiM meter. To prevent the buff from occurring, the performance of Aftercare Socials are crucial. I apologize if this was not made clear prior to this. I will continue to revise this feature so please let me know of anything you would like to see!
*EDIT Aug 5, 2025: It has been brought to my attention that some Social Interactions in the Training Session were not functioning properly. I have solved this issue and ask for you to delete the version of FlirtyFetishes you have now and replace it with the one available at the bottom. The codes to prevent the failure were not properly listed and I take full responsibility for my lack of detail and its result. To those who experienced the failure, please accept my greatest apologies with acknowledgement that this was not my intention.
New Trait:
There you have it, folks! BDSiM Insight is your way to Aftercare socials....or your way AWAY from Aftercare. Whichever is your preference, you can do something about it now. Find this trait along side the other BDSiM Traits in the Rewards Store or Wicked Attributes if using Wicked Whims.

More Additions:
Headline (custom relationship +/- sign above Sims' heads) appears after BDSiM Social Interactions
New and improved Social Context with new descriptions
Dominant and Submissive Traits (not Roles) are now known as Assertive and Eager
New Relationship System: All Sims with BDSiM can gain relationship points without being in a D/s Dynamic. It is not meant as Romantic, but experience with any particular Sim. This will lead to fun game development and play in the future. I will explain this more soon!
Spank Socials have been added to Training Session.
2 New Animations by Marysal added to the Training Session: Slap Breast and Pinch Nipples (Under the "Inflict Pain" Pie Menu. *Sounds coming soon.
Brat Social Interactions now appear when relevant.
Fixed Training Session Social Interactions
Thank you for your support and being here! What I have added and changed is laying a great foundation for some really awesome and unique elements I plan to bring to FlirtyFetishes. Please keep eye out this month for some possible things that might interest you!
Please let me know if you need help or have suggestions. Enjoy!
Comments
Oh no! I am in the process of making this element more user friendly. And yes, it is from the BDSiM Insight trait. Removing that should make it all go away. I apologize for this inconvenience! I hope to be back in your game soon π
EllaNoir
2025-10-06 22:34:30 +0000 UTCI've had to remove the mod as no matter what I do, the Crash & Yearn moodlet will not go away or resolve. I've done extensive aftercare, and it won't go away. Even using UI Cheats Extension and other cheats won't let me remove it. Looking forward to the next update, hopefully that'll work better! I've had this mod for ages, and this is the first time I've had this issue. I gave the sims the BDSM Insight moodlet -- is that what's causing it?
Brave At Heart
2025-10-06 22:29:40 +0000 UTCHey! I apologize the inconvenience! I have not encountered any issues with July 5_8 update!
EllaNoir
2025-09-28 20:02:22 +0000 UTCHi I had a quick question. For context: I have the July version of FF and I haven't updated to the new Sims 4 patch from 9/18 as I'm waiting for all of my mods to be compatible/updated. I checked Scarlet's Realm to see if your mod was compatible with the new update, but the status is listed as "unknown". Do you know if the July version of Flirty Fetishes is compatible with the recent basegame update? Or should I wait for a public release of an update? I completely understand if you have updated the mod to be compatible for early access members only. I just am unable to read your most recent post since I'm a non-paying member and I don't want to accidentally break my game when I update TS4 if the version I have of your mod is incompatible with the 9/18 patch. Thanks!
knickknack666
2025-09-26 00:38:56 +0000 UTCHi! Please remove other mods and test out with only FlirtyFetishes and let me know.
EllaNoir
2025-09-20 21:28:30 +0000 UTCHi ! Ever since i have updated the mod, the flirty interaction has disapeared totaly..
Marilyne HΓ©bert
2025-09-20 20:33:03 +0000 UTCI do my best to ensure proper grammar and capitalize where needed. However, modding the Sims doesn't have a correction option. I have stated before, if anyone sees where there is a typo, to let me know.
EllaNoir
2025-09-19 18:17:14 +0000 UTCI have a question, I know it'll be turned down, but I don't mind going for it. Nothing breaks immersion more for me than seeing incorrect punctuation, when there should be capitalized words and lower case words in the game, in buffs, in the pie menu, et cetera. And when buffs in mods, not just yours, in many mods.. they use color pictures for the buff icons. When naturally in the game they are all Gray. That's like when people make custom aspirations using colored icons instead of making a gold aspiration icon.. Please don't take offense.. Personally, I would love to go through your entire mod and capitalize every letter that needs to be capitalized. And turn every picture icon Gray, that should be.
SiimplyJessica
2025-09-19 18:01:03 +0000 UTCI'm not sure why that is happening. I will investigate this on my end. In the meantime, I would check apply the BDSiM Insight trait in a new save and see if it happens again.
EllaNoir
2025-09-13 01:49:26 +0000 UTCI'm getting crash and yearn AS SOON as I choose traits / with sims without a partner or bdsim actions. as a kinkster i agree aftercare is important but in the sims its making it less playable and not fun
Crystalfairy
2025-09-13 01:43:49 +0000 UTCHi! The traits are available in the Rewards Store or the Wicked Attributes menu if you're using Wicked Whims by Turbodriver. Can you confirm if they are there?
EllaNoir
2025-08-28 12:11:30 +0000 UTCHello, I installed the mod but I can't add the bdsim traits, what did I do wrong?
Lesport Tom
2025-08-28 07:57:16 +0000 UTCHi Scott and welcome! I am thrilled you are playing my BDSM mod for the Sims 4...however, my mod does not have the moodlet you have mentioned. Perhaps it is another BDSM mod you have installed? You can ask in my Discord server as others may be able to help!
EllaNoir
2025-08-11 18:20:56 +0000 UTCNew to do mod. One of my sims got the "Crash & Burn" moodlet and it won't clear. Even using a cheat to remove it doesn't work. Is it supposed to time out or do certain actions need to take place
Scott Call
2025-08-11 18:07:06 +0000 UTCHi! Welcome! No, you are not missing anything in the mod. In the last update, I changed the Dominant and Submissive traits to Assertive and Eager to prevent possible confusion with Dominant and submissive major skills. So they are there, just the name was changed. I am working kn an updated guide currently. Let me know if you have any other questions!
EllaNoir
2025-08-10 13:09:50 +0000 UTCSo new to the mod (so still learning things) but I feel like im missing 2 traits the submissive and dominant ones. just wondering if they got removed or if ive somehow messed up Also am new to moding sims too
Kitsune Inferno
2025-08-10 13:02:06 +0000 UTCHaha nah. Long story, but as I was uploading the April version to the public sites, I was made aware of an issue I needed to fix. So the updated version with the fix for the public sites is April 5.8 on LL and Wicked.cc. The same fix needed to be applied to the July version, so I fixed it up and uploaded it. Hence, multiple uploads with changed yet similar titles. Sorry for the confusion π
EllaNoir
2025-08-06 05:37:06 +0000 UTCOkay, I'm confused here. Was notified that a new version was out, wicked.cc site says updated 8-5-2025 but the download is labelled April, 5.8? Yet when I unzip it its dated 8-5-2025. Was this just a time warp? ;)
Diane
2025-08-06 04:27:05 +0000 UTCLove β€οΈ it
Luci Martin
2025-08-05 19:54:44 +0000 UTCThank you so much <3
EllaNoir
2025-08-04 17:56:12 +0000 UTCThank You. such a great mod and i appreciate the work you put into it
Luci Martin
2025-07-30 21:29:43 +0000 UTC