PATREON EXCLUSIVE (Full Video): Why Women Need Attention
Added 2024-06-03 06:02:22 +0000 UTC
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This video remind me one YT video of australian survivor. Mans vs. Womans and it is so hilarious. Check it, if you dont know it π
LubomΓr Kytlica
2024-06-11 18:40:32 +0000 UTC@Eric Okay, thatβs true too. My legal dad is 100% a loner man (though he had 2 wives for decades). Otherwise he only sees family only holidays. He doesnβt need friends.
RhodiumMaiden
2024-06-07 13:28:44 +0000 UTC@Joseph Agreed.
RhodiumMaiden
2024-06-07 13:26:06 +0000 UTC@Eric Iβm fine alone, & can thoroughly enjoy myself for some time, but I donβt NEED alone time. Iβm weird though.
RhodiumMaiden
2024-06-07 13:25:14 +0000 UTCSome women always want their man to try to get off work early, then donβt understand when his paycheck is smaller. Then occasionally when he has to stay late at work, the man will get the silent treatment or some other punishment. Itβs all about attention.
Eric Linden
2024-06-04 15:08:11 +0000 UTC@Eric Linden - I agree that "craving" seldom accurately describes the typical male desire for peer-bonding, but interesting what you say about senior centers--I'm not surprised though: Once you remove the female-typical desire for attention and social interaction, there remains little incentive for men to undergo the humiliation of increasing physical dependency that such institutions specialize in. I know intrinsic "loners" DO exist, but I wonder the true commitment of "later-in-life" loners to that lifestyle, sans senescence. On the other side, there is the aging "cat-lady" archetype, seemingly perfectly content with only her feline friends. In both cases, it may simply be the gradual passing of bonding peer partners their own age which may be largely responsible for their decision. There is also, I expect, the fact that most seniors are very likely to have had previous VERY long-term relationships that either have exhausted/jaded them, or that they consider irreplaceable--so they just wish to be left alone now. I guess we'll all get a chance to find out eventually if/when we get to that age.
Joseph Omega
2024-06-03 23:35:17 +0000 UTCI disagree about men. Some men crave the male bonding thing throughout their lifetimes. But some men are loners throughout life. Other men start out enjoying doing things alongside other men as you say, but slowly become loners as they age. By choice. They don't enjoy going to bars anymore, golfing, mountain climbing, paint ball, going to the gym, or the other things their male friends and coworkers ask them to do. They just enjoy individual pursuits more. They are loners, but not lonely. That is why there are far fewer men in senior living centers. They'd rather pursue their own interests and retain their freedom. Women need to be interacting with other women for their entire lifetime.
Eric Linden
2024-06-03 22:21:00 +0000 UTC@Eric Linden - I'm not 100% convinced that "men need a lot more alone time" in an absolute sense. It certainly LOOKS that way, but I also see many men seeking out and being perfectly comfortable in the frequent and ongoing presence of other men--the military (and sports teams and their supporters) is a very notable example. If I had to hazard a guess, it would be that men SEEM to need a lot more time away from women, compared to the reverse. But I'm not too sure about even that, as many women seem to thrive quite sustainably in the presence of other women (in their archetypal "knitting-circles"). Something seems to happen when men and women form a pair-bond: It looks as if women seem to require a LOT MORE attention from men under these conditions, as opposed to the opposite. Perhaps women do CRAVE near continous attention as Alexander suggests, whereas men MAY thrive on group time but, for them, it is NOWHERE NEAR a "craving", nor is it for the purpose of ATTENTION. When men are together, they bond while DOING things "alongside" each other, whereas when women are together, they bond while INTERACTING (i.e., "chatting") with each other. The latter, by its very nature, may be more conducive to attention-seeking. I would be interested in your opinions.
Joseph Omega
2024-06-03 19:41:49 +0000 UTCElon may be half right. Letβs use the example of connecting with children. In one approach which is considered to be evidenced based parenting, a parent only needs to connect with a child in two minute intervals spaced out. The child does not need lots of connection, aka attention, to function. However, this falls apart when children experience trauma. With the trauma informed approach, the child needs connection 30% of the time to develop a feeling of being safe and secure and at least 1,000 healthy instances of connection to work through an issue. This level of need his hard to imagine and how does this get carried into adulthood if they are not met.
Mark Bryski
2024-06-03 11:48:04 +0000 UTCI would say men benefit more from alone time to "fill their cup". Especially when their partner does not contribute to "filling their cup" or is "emptying their cup". In those cases, lots of alone time is essential and it will make the "cup emptier" feel threatened.
Mark Bryski
2024-06-03 11:18:53 +0000 UTCPart of connection, is helping a person fill their cup when their cup is empty. This is especially the case with children. Adults can also benefit from having someone help them fill their cup. Problems arise when the person who needs their cup filled cannot contribute to filling their own cup and has a hole at the bottom of their cup from unresolved trauma.
Mark Bryski
2024-06-03 11:15:33 +0000 UTCIn tribal times women had other women around them at all times. Even 50 years ago, extended families still lived nearby. Women had friends in the neighbourhood. Women had small children around, presenting a need for them to interact with other women. Women were constantly in other womenβs lives for legitimate reasons, not just to party or hang out.
Eric Linden
2024-06-03 10:40:33 +0000 UTCWhen I saw "5-10" in the Elon Musk quote I immediately presumed he meant minutes.
A. Modest Proposal
2024-06-03 10:30:31 +0000 UTCThe second one is obviously staged. Constantly changing camera angles and heavy editing. But it illustrates its point well.
Eric Linden
2024-06-03 10:27:19 +0000 UTCEveryone needs alone time or me time. But men need a lot more.
Eric Linden
2024-06-03 10:24:23 +0000 UTCI am only ten minutes into the video and can say, for some women, parenting is a blood sport.
Mark Bryski
2024-06-03 08:56:48 +0000 UTCThe 2nd tiktok is wild (to the point I hope is intended comedy!). It took my puppy many months to understand that alone is not forever but she's now clear about that, and she is always just as happy to see me regardless how long I take to be back - hence I kept her but not my ex. On a more serious note, I enjoy being alone so much that when I tell people that I'm sorta introverted, they think I'm bs-ing. So many things I can do on my own regardless whether any person in the world knows what I'm up to. Speaking of "up to", how interesting is it that women love to ask what we're up to, and even more so to tell you all about their answer. Love women, but sure as hell I have an excruciating time understanding the motivation behind some of their methods π€·π»
vanidotau
2024-06-03 06:46:35 +0000 UTC
