For Love To Be Created, They Must Wonder About You

You must fall in love with tension.

It's hard for most people to understand that man or women will start to like you more and feel more attracted to you when you're not always talking to them or constantly in contact.

They need time and space away from you to think about you and let their feelings grow.

When you're not always around, it gives them a chance to miss you and wonder about you, which helps their feelings deepen for you.

They need time to feel their emotions for you and consider the possibility of losing you.

They also need to talk to their friends about you, which can make them uncertain about where they stand with you.

This uncertainty can lead them to reach out to you for clarity. When they do, it’s often easier to schedule another date, as they’re seeking reassurance and a deeper connection.

When you try to set up a date twice and they reject you both times, don't bring it up again or ask them out unless they bring it up first, even if they're always calling and texting you.

Why? If someone truly wants to see you and you stop mentioning it, they'll bring it up. If they don't, it means they don't want to see you.

There are only two possibilities:

1) they bring it up, and you arrange a definite date,

or 2) they stop contacting you.

Either way, you win by either getting them or finding someone better.

(For men) Women are emotional beings and not mostly visual creatures like us men are, you must give them the space, time and freedom for their feelings for you to grow for you.

If you try to rush the process, it's like taking a cake out of the oven before it's had enough time to cook properly. Forcing a woman to like you more and want to see you before she's ready is just like taking a cake out before it's fully baked. It needs time to transform from a liquid batter into a fluffy cake. Likewise, her feelings need time to develop naturally.

What happens when you take a cake out of the oven before it is finished cooking? 

It usually deflates. That is what happens to a woman’s interest level in a man when he tries to chase her, and force things to happen before she feels that she is emotionally ready. It causes her interest level in him to deflate.

Since most men don't understand women or what they emotionally respond to, it's only a matter of time before they get dumped or the relationship ends. You can almost put a stopwatch to it.

The sad part is that most men are too egocentric to change. Instead of reading a patreon like mine and learning how to improve, they rather keep making the same mistakes and failing with women because they believe those "quick" game hacks on tik tok is enough to truly understand women on a deep level of true mastery.

(For the women reading) These things can work for men too however, as a woman you guys fall in love with men who you wonder about and get bored with men who are obsessed with you even though thats what you THINK you want.

So there isn't a way to totally reverse this and use it on a man.

As a woman, a lot of these things will come naturally to you. You will not really behave in needy ways because you probably have a bunch of men constantly shooting their shot and validating you which makes it easier to be in a state of abundance.

Whereas most men don't have this. Most men maybe receive 1 nice compliment every year, so when they come across a very good girl who likes him back, their emotions get the better of them and they overstimulate her with attention to a point she gets bored loses interest in him.

They chase her right out of their lives.

So as a woman, you only need to maintain tension by not talking and calling everyday. it keeps things healthy for the both of you.

Most men will not know this stuff, so if it's with a guy you really like, explain this to him. explain how talking everyday will make you get bored and you'd prefer him to just contact you when its time to arrange a date and save the yapping for when you're together in person.

The idea is less really is more, especially in the beginning.

(For men) this helps you remain mysterious, because then when she’s not talking to you, she’s thinking about you.

She’s telling her girlfriends about the date she’s got with this new, exciting guy. There’s just something about you. She doesn’t know what it is, and she can’t wait to see you to figure out what it is. Why are you so different?

But the more you talk, the more you try to crack jokes over text when she doesn’t know your sense of humour. Nine times out of ten, that stuff is not going to land well.

The More Insecure Someone Is, The More Unattractive Behaviours They'll Demonstrate

A lot of our behaviours in dating is a reflection of our self worth and our self esteem.

We would all ideally want someone who is secure in themselves.

Secure partners are:

• Trusting

• Patient

• Understanding

• Easy going

• Good at communicating

• Fun

• Confident

We are all insecure in our own ways, however the more insecure you are then the more behaviours you will do that will run someone right out of your life.

Insecure people are always:

• Anxious

• Avoidant because they feel soo overwhelmed by the closeness

• Angry

• Manipulative

• Controlling

• Lose emotional self control

• They refuse to listen

(For men) You must remain disciplined with the girls that you have a high attraction and interest in. I know it's hard because all you can think about is ripping her clothes off but you must treat them the same way you treat the girls you don't find as attractive and you put in your friendzone.

When you come on too strong, you rob her of the feeling of getting to miss and wonder about what could happen between you and her. There's no longer a mystery or excitement.

-Till Next time