Ray's Place: Post your advice questions for Ray here!
Added 2024-08-01 14:00:15 +0000 UTCIt's that time again: post your advice questions for Ray here, and he'll answer them as soon as he has good wisdom / a lot of exogenous moon juice in his veins! No matter what category of ick you're dealing with, Ray will help you if he finds your question compelling enough, or if his flight is delayed long enough and he's already eaten everything he finds interesting in the British Airways Captain's Lounge.
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Hey Ray, Is it ever too late to pick up the piano? I took lessons back when I was too young to realize what an investment it was, and now here I am as adult hella tuneless. Am I just chasing an idealized idea of my youth, and the sad dream that I still have untapped potential that can be molded into something beautiful and soulful and talented? Or is it time to just take up an old ball-and-chain, permanently wear slacks, and start practicing my water cooler conversation ahead of time?
Andrew K
2024-08-13 05:33:18 +0000 UTCDear Ray. I always want to push people I see standing in front of the elevator. Why does it not occur to them that when the doors open, people will need to exit? This happens every day. Do they deserve humiliation?
Damneurn Puchai
2024-08-07 02:06:47 +0000 UTCRay— most effective pick up line?
Meg Young
2024-08-05 01:20:38 +0000 UTCDear Ray, as a fellow Californian I was wondering have you ever had the pleasure of visiting Catalina Island cause I think it'd be the kind of place you and most of the guys would have a good time at(I just know Philippe would love the place)
drrockso20
2024-08-02 21:48:03 +0000 UTCThat's what I thought, but the boys at the pool keeps saying "crispy as the DICKENS", so now I'm more confused than ever!
b.zap
2024-08-02 17:24:10 +0000 UTCYou don't need Ray to tell you, you know the answer in your bones: Crispy as all hell One needn't oversystematize ambrosia
trashdo
2024-08-02 07:50:41 +0000 UTCHey Ray - My husband gets pissy about other people's bad hair cuts. I tell him no one is obligated to fulfill their potential. I think part of it is that, as we're bald, he sees in their bad hair choices a gift spurned thoughtlessly. What's a good way to make him see another's bangs aren't worth stressing about (and probably aren't fake, not our business)?
John Ryan
2024-08-02 04:11:39 +0000 UTCDear Ray, A doughy venture capitalist has brought shame to my home state. What can I do to right this wrong? Should I write a book?
souvlaki Alabama
2024-08-02 00:01:11 +0000 UTCRay — no time for a proper salutation, I have a fashion emergency: I want to rock the Loro Piana Open Walks (in beige), but my closest friends are strongly against it. One of these friends has the fashion sense of a burrito, while another (a self-proclaimed Guess jeans otaku) has railed against them as “stealth wealth” bogeymanshoes. What is this man in search of a classy casual loafer to do? Thanks in advance, Tom
Thomas Williams
2024-08-02 00:01:04 +0000 UTCHi Ray, Out of all the kitchen gadgets these days, is there ONE that actually ups your flavor game? ONE that a player should actually own rather than dropkick over the horizon? Sous Vide Wand? Convection Thing? Smoking Cloche? Driveway Egg? Shit man, am I better off just learning the mother sauces on the kind of stove that comes with a house? - Nick
Nicholas Williams
2024-08-01 22:02:26 +0000 UTCDear Ray, How crispy should the perfect Stella be? Is there a measurement system? I have trouble with these things. Thanks!
b.zap
2024-08-01 20:19:33 +0000 UTCWhat is the correct way to wear a beanie for a haircut blessed with bangs? Hat on top with bangs a-flopping down the front - ala the Fall Out Boys - or bangs swept backwards and the hat in a pulled-back position such that a good inch or so of slicked hairline is visible - ala Harry Styles sometimes?
FLON
2024-08-01 18:42:43 +0000 UTCHi Ray, heading to Vegas for a nerd convention (the kind that RB might go to brush up on his skills on deleting Yahoo dating profiles) and am concerned, what's the best place on the strip both for class and quality, as well as protection against nerds? Should I just bring a burner and use such as unwired mp3 players to listen to my tunes on? Favorite maglite is actually the Weltool BB3 surefire clone I built.
GruntyGinMan
2024-08-01 16:52:32 +0000 UTCMost Esteemed Playa, After a long time on the Bench of marriage, I find myself unceremoniously pinch running in the dating pool. I do not want to play poorly for unwanted prizes. Neither do I wish to scrape scraps from the human lint trap and reconstitute it, like shoddy, into something that holds up as human connection under only the most cursory and untested scrutiny. I don't drink, so the classic barmeet is not such a great option. I've gotten a phone number here and there in the neighbourhood, but almost uniformly plans get cancelled. I seem to have a horrible talent for giving the families of women who make plans with me medical emergencies. I have spent a little time swiping on apps, but the people who seem interested in me are, politely, not interesting. Bit of a Groucho Marx thing going on maybe? Who's to say. It seems kind of like these apps are a video game for pretending you are doing things about making your life better. Like DuoLingo, for loneliness. I'm a little lost. When I read profiles, what women say they are looking for tends to line up pretty well with what I have to offer (credit scores and Going to Therapy and decently presentable in a way that she will not wake up in the middle of the night panting from a nightmare about a celebrity I have never heard of tempting me away with a sex position I have also never heard of). Help a player get his mojo back?
Ben Wilinofsky
2024-08-01 16:45:05 +0000 UTCDear Ray, Since you aren’t making music anymore can you comment on the feeling of being “afraid” of retirement? I look forward to the day I have enough of a stash to tell people to fuck off and I’m finally enjoying life. What am I missing?
Joshua Nash
2024-08-01 16:21:22 +0000 UTCRay, I need some advice. As a man of years, how do I deal with young people using janky terms like "holding space", "plant-based", "clean" in regards to purchaseable foods? It makes me want to retreat into the nether world. It's like all of reality has been annexed by HR and Marketing departments.
Alexander Rediger
2024-08-01 16:08:45 +0000 UTCHi Ray. How are you so calm and chill? I am anxious about everything.
Jonathan
2024-08-01 15:31:16 +0000 UTCHi Ray, I'm turning into my mother—namely, I sneeze too much. It's always 5 sneezes in a row and it's annoying AF to me and the people in the surrounding area. I bought a really expensive air filter (multiple hundo) but the sneezes persist. How do I stop this obnoxiousness? Or how do I joke it away, like Tina's farts?
Jenn
2024-08-01 15:21:23 +0000 UTCRay: I have lived through some pretty rough chuckles over the last couple years and could use some help bringing the zizzle and the zazzle back into my life, so to speak. I feel that you are the foremost expert on such matters and I would benefit from your wisdom. Help me remember how to dance like there’s ass in my pants!
David Wolkin
2024-08-01 15:20:23 +0000 UTCHey Ray. How do you deal with one of your heroes disappointing you? Not like missing a meet and greet disappointing, but more skeletons in the closet with some viscera attached kinda disappointing?
Omnithea
2024-08-01 15:02:04 +0000 UTCHey Ray, my go-to dinner routine to impress a date is home made pasta with a lobster cream sauce (lobster base ftw) with some tender shrimp on the side. But how do you live an ethical life with the weight of capitalism on your shoulders? I should be middle class but damn if asparagus as a side dish isn't wrecking my budget.
Sandra Tilmonster
2024-08-01 14:59:32 +0000 UTCHi Ray! How does a person of a certain age acknowledge "general understanding" of current slang/emoji idioms without actually trying to use them myself in a way that will most likely be alienating/embarrassing? E.g., if I am addressed with something like "no cap," what would be an appropriate register in which to reply that is somewhere comfortably between "frfr" (possibly Too Much) and "yes, quite" (Too Much in other direction)?
Corrine Bredin
2024-08-01 14:58:09 +0000 UTCRay - hoping you're well and things in life are going your way. What advice would you give to a therapist who is very burned out on their job, and having a hard time feeling connected to their patients?
Phase Raccoon
2024-08-01 14:56:26 +0000 UTCHey Ray, How do you get over impostor syndrome? I feel like I've gotten lucky to get where I am but it's a bit of a house of cards right now, professionally. I'm worried that I am gonna get "found out" one day for not really being fit for the gig.
Joe Locastro
2024-08-01 14:46:28 +0000 UTCHi Ray. How do you find an actual passion in life? I've tried my hand at a lot of things, and put the work in on a few of them, and nothing's ever clicked. It's either just a job or it's a hobby that's too unsatisfying to be worth the frustration. What am I missing?
Distant Egg Song
2024-08-01 14:41:54 +0000 UTCRay, I need some advice. My job is putting undue pressure on the people I work with and who work under me. I don't have anything lined up, but I want to leave. Is this The Thing To Do?
48 Minutes of Dogs Barking
2024-08-01 14:33:05 +0000 UTCHi Ray. Which country is the best at food? Which is the worst?
Meadow Green
2024-08-01 14:19:52 +0000 UTCHi Ray. Do you think a fella needs to have a job to feel fulfilled? I look at retired people and feel terrified about the prospect of having nothing to do but build birdhouses until I croak.
fancymatt
2024-08-01 14:13:30 +0000 UTC
