(ARTICLE) The No Bullshit Guide On How To Make Friends With Highly Successful People and Get Millionaire Mentors

In this Article I will be explaining how to ACTUALLY make friends with these type of people instead of going to “networking” events and trying to beg people to associate with you.

When you’re around people who’re doing better than you,

You become uncomfortable IN A GOOD WAY when you’re around people who are playing life at a much higher level than you.

The average person surrounds themselves with people who are playing life at a lower level than themselves because it makes them feel good about themselves.

It makes them feel like they’re much more significant

And when you’re in a peer group of people who aren’t high achievers like yourself….you’re not going to be growing… you will stay stagnant or drop down even lower.

You want to find people that can make you feel uncomfortable at your position in life.

This will force you to level up to raise your standards and grow.

And one thing that I realised from an early age with the people I grew up with.

I noticed that I was usually the smartest one out of all my friends….

And im not saying that in a downgrading way but in terms of business and making money, I was always way ahead of them and more motivated in making it big.

“If your’e the smartest in your friendship group, then you have the wrong friends”

You want to find people who are much more smarter than you are and surround yourself with them.

YES!

This will make you feel dumb at times, but a side effect this is that it results to you in growing massively. You’re gonna learn soo much

And its not always about being around highly rich and successful people

Because it’s important to have a variety of friends who have value.

If you want to change your body and want to get into great shape…..

go and make friends with people into fitness…..in 12 months time you’ll be shocked at how you look at yourself in the mirror

If you want to make more money, surround yourself around people who are making way more money than you are

What Not To Do

Whenever you approach people that are more successful than you are

PLEASE!!!

Don’t come from a position of just trying to TAKE from them

When MOST PEOPLE approach mentors, they’re approaching them to TAKE value...

To GET something from them.

Anytime you try to TAKE... you repell people..... especially people at that level

Too many people want friends of value but they go at it with a.....

“WHAT CAN I GET FROM THEM / WHAT CAN THEY DO FOR ME” Type of mentality

The worst thing you can do when approaching a mentor is coming from a place of trying to GET from them

This is such a selfish mentality and people hate it.

Don’t go up to people and say “hey can I hang out and be around you”

This is SUCH a free loader mentality

That’s a position of taking, which results to repelling people away and turning them off to a point where they want to do nothing to associate themselves with you.

What TO Do

You should always be thinking to yourself

“How can I add value to this person”

“What can they gain from me aswell”

If you don’t know how to add value to them.... ask them

“What can I do to add value to your life?”

Even if they have nothing you can do for them, this will let them know you’re not a freeloading leach.

Come from a position of trying to help and add value TO THEM

And the value you will receive in return is their time and presence.

Think of it though..... how many people do you think are actively thinking of how to add value to a millionaires life?

Most people just want to TAKE from these people. So by you wanting to be of service to them, you’ll stand out.

So that’s what Id recommend,

Don’t be a taker

Cuz even me myself

I have a lot of people who message and approach me..... nearly EVERYDAY

They’re asking me coach them

They’re asking me to mentor them

They’re asking to give them money

and I can just SENSE that all they want to do is take from me which naturally makes me to not want to associate with them.

It’s just the same as when women have their guard up because 97% of guys just WANT something from them

You need to come from a position rather than taking.

As appose to the people who are respectful of my time and actually think about how they can add value to my life as-well.

It’s all about you ADDING value to the mentor so that they actually do wana reciprocate.

And don’t be afraid to pay for their time if you need to.

Cuz guys these people are busy, they ain’t just sitting around the house doing absolutely nothing.

And you don’t want to waste their time either.

You need to be very respectful of their time.

Don’t be that person who’s constantly just bugging them asking questions you can EASILY find the answers to.

So before you ever reach out to your mentors, make sure you’ve done your research before asking the question

Because it’s very annoying getting asked questions you’ve already put out information on or have already had conversation on.

And if you can’t find the answers that way....

THEENN you go and ask.

Because their time is really valuable and that’s one big mistake a lot of people make.

Because if that’s how you’re operating, you’ll actually be TAKING from them in a way.....

instead of giving.

And Don’t message them every few days asking them

“Hey what you up to?”

“Hey wyd?”

“Wana hang out?”

“Hey”

This is VERY annoying. It’s like receiving spam / junk emails.

Mentors like people who’re proactive

People who are willing to do what it takes and are respectful of their time.

If you’re just being a leach and you’re just trying to TAKE from that person, you will repel that person and you won’t get a mentor that way.

If you really want their undivided 1 on 1 attention then you’ve to pick a spot on their calendar and book their time.

If you want to be friends with them, this is something thatll have to happen naturally over time.

You can’t force a relationship.

How To Find Mentors And Highly Successful People.

Now you see...... that’s not really what you should be thinking about.

Instead, the real question you should be asking yourself is

“how do I change my environment and stop with these losers that I grew up with”

Also another question to ask yourself should be....

Why should, or why would highly successful people want to be around someone like you?

Why would smarter people who are more successful than you want to hang around you?

What value do YOU bring to the table?

as we all know....

You slowly but surely become who you around with.

So if you want to come across people who are highly successful, it’s as simple as this......

You have INCREASE YOUR VALUE and place yourself in the environments and locations these people are at.

Simple as that.

A lot of people these days seem to think that highly successful people are just gonna be banging down on their door wanting to be best friends all of a sudden.

It doesn’t work that way.... you need to increase your value and then place yourself in the environments these people are at

and then open your mouth and have conversations with them

Step 1

Define who you need to become for THEM to want to be friends with you.

You attract who you are.

People like people that are like them or are like how they ideally want to be.

So if you want to attract someone and develop friendship with them….

You have to be someone that they see value in.

In social status, If someone is a 10 and you’re around a 3……. They won’t see a lot of value in having a friendship or being associated to you

And it’s not until you bring up YOUR status and your level for those kind of people to see the value in associating themselves with you.

Step 2

BECOME more valuable.

I might swell tattoo this on my forehead.

You have to be constantly working on yourself to become MORE.

The more VALUABLE you are, the more quality people you will attract.

And you become more valuable by what youre doing right now…

Learning

Improving your finances and making more money

Improving your business

Getting at higher levels within your career

Or maybe its by you getting in better shape.

Its all about becoming the type of person you want to attract.

Have you ever noticed… the people who are in healthy and fit also are friends with people who are fit

People who are successful usually have a very successful group of friends.

Becoming valuable can be based on a lot of different things but it will be based on who you want to attract.

STEP 3

This is another one many people forget or choose to ignore.

You have to place yourself in environments where you can automatically attract the People you want in your life.

Once you get clear on the kind of people you want to attract into your life, you need to ask yourself

“ Hmmmm Where do the kind of people I want to be around usually go to”

Where do they spend their time?

What kind of environments are THEY in?

for example,

If I’m someone who’s into boxing, guess what?

I’ll go to a boxing gym....because why?

Everybody is into boxing as well, so we will naturally just get along and I’ll most likely meet boxing professionals there.

If I’m someone who’s into business, then guess what?

I’m gonna start going to business conferences in my city.

If I want to be meet a bunch of sexy girls….then im gonna go to the clubs and lounges in my city

If you’re into gaming, then go to gaming conferences and events.

If you’re someone who’s into trading and crypto currency’s, then start attending trading and crypto currency conferences in your city.

If you’re into Technology, then go to the technology conferences and events in your city or state

If You’re into real estate, then Start going to real estate conferences which are happening in your city.

If I was someone who was into fashion then guess what?

I’d be going to local fashion events...

or because I live in London..... I’d be going to the London fashion week

I’ve actually been to that one a few times.

If these type of events don’t happen in your city or state then you’ll have to travel there.

You are aware there are some Successful who will fly across the world just to attend a conference right?

It’s all about putting yourself in the environments the people you want to be around are at.

You need to get out the house.

It’s easy to find these events and conferences. It can be done with a simple google search. 👇

You CAN find conferences and events which are free but the best conferences and events are usually the ones which you have to pay to attend.

And that’s simply because there’s a higher chance you will meet much more serious people in those ones

This is because people don’t mind putting money towards things they take seriously.

But this is not to say that the free ones are bad.

And Even if you’re someone who’s never been conferences before, I wouldn’t recommend going to one which you have to pay to attend.

Try the ones that are free first so you can get a feel and brief understanding of what they’re like.

And if you’re gonna be paying to go to the conferences, don’t see it as an expense.....look at it as an investment instead.

But do it responsibly. Don’t go broke by spending all your money by going to events.

this is not to say that just because you go to a conference or an event.... that everyone at conference or event will want to be your friend.

You will come across people who do and don’t want to be friends with you..... but most people will be open for a conversation.

You could potentially meet people who KNOW people who can HOOK you up with the IDEAL people you need to be around you.

Sometimes in life, it’s about WHO you know and this can take you to a lot of places.

I’m all for being a “lone wolf” and not following the crowd but building relationships in life is a very important skill we should be improving on.

Another way aswell to meet like minded people is ONLINE.

Just in this patreon alone.......there’s been quite a few friendships which have been made

and that was simply by them being in the same online space or community.

So use the internet to your advantage, find communities or spaces where the people in those groups are like minded.

Don’t be so restricted with thinking meeting like minded people always has to be face to face

I actually met 2 of my closest friends through the internet...... yeah, i know.... crazy!

whatever it is that you may be into, there are events and/or locations where other people who are into those things are at aswell.

It’s all about GETTING YOURSELF OUT OF THE HOUSE and going to these places to be able to meet those kinds of people you want to be around.

Also,

Don’t be so caught up in JUST wanting to connect and meet people who are ALREADY at the top

That’s a good option and I fully encourage that.

But I’d also recommend to make friends with people who are currently around the same level as you but they’re heading towards a bright future.... like yourself

for example,

If you’re in university or college..... join the clubs and societies of your university or college.......

Universities and colleges have soooooo many people in them, so don’t be afraid to speak to people.

Make friends which the medicine students

Make friends with the law students

Make friends with the finance students

Make friends with the tech students

Make friends with the architecture students

You get the idea......

build friendships with the people who are high achievers because there’s a high chance that these people are gonna be in big positions one day.

Closing thoughts

Build with people who fit your future, not your past.

If you’re around people who don’t have ambitions, they’re freeloaders, and are just wasting their life away you may want to limit the amount of time you hang around them.

However if they are and have always been GOOD people to you, don’t just cut them off.

But if they start hating and showing envy towards you, cut them off. Instead of hating, they should be motivated and inspired.

Make sure that YOU…ARE ALSO…. a high achiever who’s working and striving towards your goals.....

otherwise you’ll just be seen as a leach around the kind of people you want to be around.

And nobody wants to be around them kind of people.

Just remember, you are who you hang around with.... so be very.... very selective over who those people are.

Till next time.