Flavie Eidel

A Shoot of Self Love x Paris

EN Hey you!

I hope you're doing well!

Of course I couldn't stay in a new place without taking self portraits, you know me!

I know I keep saying it, but self portraiture has such a huge impact on the way I interact with my body on a daily basis. Taking time weekly to celebrate it and reconnect with the way I move it and look at it changed drastically how I do it in the rest of my life. So don't hesitate to incorporate Self portraiture in your Self Care routine as well! You deserve to see how beautiful you are :)

FR

Hey you!

J'espère que vous allez bien!

Bien sûr, je ne pouvais pas être dans un nouvel endroit - aussi joli de surcroît - sans faire quelques autoportraits, vous me connaissez !

Je sais que j'arrête pas de le dire, mais l'autoportrait a un impact tellement énorme sur la façon dont j'interagis avec mon corps au quotidien. Prendre du temps chaque semaine pour le célébrer et renouer avec la façon dont je le déplace et le regarde a radicalement changé ma façon de le faire dans le reste de ma vie. Alors n'hésitez pas à intégrer également l'autoportrait dans votre routine Self Care ! Vous méritez de voir à quel point vous êtes canon :)

Hey you

I hope you're doing well! :)

I just got back from my work trip to Paris and I'm as exhausted as excited! It was such a wonderful time, I love the pictures I took of my clients there, I walked so much, and ate super good vegan food! I even got time to meet up with a friend and go see my passed grandma's flat. The whole trip was so intense but one of my best times since I got back to France! Can't wait to do this again, maybe in another city??

Stay tuned for the self portraits I took there ;)

This weekend was a reminder to believe in your capacities because you can do so much more than what you allow yourself to do!

I believe in you :)

Talk to you soon,

Flavie 

A Shoot of Self Love - True Love

EN Hey you!

How are you doing lately?

For this week's edition, I wanted to get cheesy and talk about the love of my life: Merle.

When I first got her, it was honestly such a stupid decision. I didn't think much about it and I just wanted to impulsively fix a personal problem by making my life a bit harder, as I loved to do at the time.

But it got much harder than expected and my overwhelmed brain had no idea how to handle this huge new responsibility. Oh gosh I made mistakes. So many mistakes. I was not a good dog mom, to be honest. I was completely self absorbed, and as someone who absolutely hates ask for help, I couldn't rely on anyone.

But one step after the other, taking care of this little angel (and accepting that she was taking care of me as well) became easier and smoother.

And the shy little bean she was started blooming and showing her true self, which is my biggest joy to this day. Everytime I see her going a bit farther, get a bit more friendly, or even being a little sassy bitch, I'm over the moon.

Having her into my life was such a huge growth opportunity and I'm so thankful for this mistake I made almost 5 years ago. For the lone wolf I am, having such a cool best friend is so precious and I can't believe how lucky I am to get to spend so much time with her. 

Have a great day and talk to you soon!

FR Hey vous!

Comment ça va ces derniers temps?

Pour l'édition de cette semaine, j'avais envie d'être mielleuse et de parler de l'amour de ma vie : Merle.

L'adopter était honnêtement une décision tellement stupide. Je l'ai fait sur un coup de tête et je voulais juste régler impulsivement un problème personnel en me rendant la vie un peu plus difficile, comme j'adorais le faire à l'époque.

Mais c'est devenu encore plus compliqué que prévu et mon cerveau débordé n'avait aucune idée de comment gérer cette énorme nouvelle responsabilité. Oh mon Dieu, j'ai fait des erreurs. Tant d'erreurs. Je n'étais pas une bonne maman chien, pour être honnête. J'étais complètement absorbée par moi-même, et en tant que personne qui déteste absolument demander de l'aide, je ne voulais compter sur personne.

Mais un pas après l'autre, s'occuper de ce petit ange (et accepter qu'elle s'occupe aussi de moi) est devenu plus facile et plus fluide.

Et le petit bourgeon  timide qu'elle était a commencé à fleurir et à se montrer telle qu'elle était vraiment, ce qui est ma plus grande joie à ce jour. Chaque fois que je la vois aller un peu plus loin, devenir un peu plus amicale, ou même être une petite peste impertinente, je suis aux anges.

L'avoir dans ma vie a été une énorme opportunité de croissance et je suis tellement reconnaissante de cette "erreur" que j'ai commise il y a presque 5 ans. Pour le loup solitaire que je suis, avoir une meilleure amie aussi cool est si précieux et je ne peux pas croire à quel point j'ai de la chance de passer autant de temps avec elle.

Bonne journée et à bientôt !

A Shoot of Self Love Sunflower

Hey you!

I hope you're doing well and life is treating you well :)

Here are this week's self portraits! Honestly I'm posting these at 1AM in the morning after countless hours of work and I hope you'll like them :)

I'll pend my Sunday showing my city to someone who never came here and I can't wait to be a little city guide!

Have a great day as well!

Talk to you soon,

Flavie

A Shoot of Self Love 6 - Water x Letting go

EN Hey you!

I hope you're having a great day!

Here is the new edition of A Shoot of Self Love! I know it's smaller than usual, but a Bitch gotta fail sometimes ;)

Thank y'all for your support and your constant kindness! It blows my mind and truly motivates me daily to know I have such cool people in my life!

Special thanks to Vertige for encouraging me to do it that way :)

Have a wonderful rest of your day and don't forget to TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF!

Talk to you soon,

Flavie

FR Salut vous!

J'espère que vous passez une excellente journée!

Voici la nouvelle édition de A Shoot of Self Love! Je sais que c'est plus petit que d'habitude, mais il faut savoir échouer parfois ;) Je voulais vraiment la traduire en français, comme je fais désormais avec mes derniers posts, mais j'ai déjà eu du mal à le finir ce mois ci *emoji Chat Potté*

Merci à tou.te.s pour votre soutien et votre gentillesse constante! Ca me bouleverse et me motive vraiment chaque jour de savoir que j'ai des gens aussi cool dans ma vie!

Un merci spécial à Vertige pour m'avoir encouragé à le faire de cette façon :)

Passez un merveilleux repos de votre journée et n'oubliez pas de PRENDRE SOIN DE VOUS-MÊME!

À bientôt,

How was May?

EN

Hey Babes!

How was your month? Your week? Your day? I hope you've learned things that matter to you, that you treated yourself like the precious gift you are and that you allowed your surroundings to do the same :)

I hope June will be even better, no matter how May was for you!

I'm so thankful that my work gives me the opportunity to connect with wonderful humans like you. Everytime I feel unable to work, I feel super guilty to not post anything, and I start being scared that y'all left (because.. it would make completely sense) but then, I finally look and... y'all are still here?! I love y'all!!

Alright, have a great day,

Talk to you soon,

Flavie

FR

Hellooo!

Comment s'est passé votre mois? Votre semaine? Votre journée? J'espère que vous avez appris des choses qui comptent pour vous, que vous vous êtes traité comme le cadeau précieux que vous êtes et que vous avez permis à votre entourage de faire de même :)

J'espère que Juin sera encore meilleur, peu importe comment Mai a été pour vous!

Je suis tellement reconnaissant que mon travail me donne l'opportunité de me connecter avec des humains merveilleux comme vous. Chaque fois que je me sens incapable de travailler, je me sens super coupable de ne rien poster, et je commence à avoir peur que vous soyez partis (parce que ... ça serait complètement logique!) mais ensuite, je regarde enfin et ... vous êtes tous toujours là?! Je vous aime tous!!

Très bien, passez une bonne journée,

À bientôt,

Shine Like a Diamond

EN Hey you!

First of all, I hope you're doing well and that the shine is bright wherever you are.

Second, here we are at the final self portrait series of the month Yoohooo! I DID IT 

As you already know, I've been feeling pretty weird lately, but at the same time, I've also been the most authentic version of myself ever so far. And I wanted to embrace this paradox in this week's self portraits.

Everday, I unlearn to stick with weird society limits that I don't understand. Women shouldn't wear cleavage? Too bad, I like it. Glitter should only be for big occasions? Yeah, sure. You should only dance at parties? Yeah yeah. You should keep your mental health private? Watch me.

Please, allow yourself to do what feels right to YOU. The more you free yourself, the more you inspire others to do it as well. If it feels too overwhelming at first, do it for all the people that will feel good looking at you blooming.

Yes, it can feel a bit scary sometimes, but I am convinced that you have the power within you. You're a strong ass human being, never forget.

Have a great day angel, I believe in you!

Talk to you soon,

Flavie

FR Hey vous!

Tout d'abord, j'espère que vous vous allez bien et que la brillance est éclatante où que vous soyez.

Deuxièmement, nous voici à la dernière série d'autoportraits du mois Yoohooo! JE L'AI FAIT

Comme vous le savez déjà, je me sens assez bizarre ces derniers temps, mais en même temps, je suis aussi la version la plus authentique de moi-même jusqu'à présent. Et je voulais célébrer ce paradoxe dans les autoportraits de cette semaine.

Tous les jours, je désapprends à m'en tenir aux étranges limites de la société que je ne comprends pas. Les femmes ne devraient pas porter de décolleté? Dommage, j'aime ça. Les paillettes ne devraient être que pour les grandes occasions? Oui bien sûr. Vous ne devriez danser que lors de fêtes? Yeah Yeah. Vous devriez garder votre santé mentale privée? LOL.

S'il vous plaît, permettez-vous de faire ce qui vous semble juste. Plus vous vous libérez, plus vous inspirez les autres à le faire également. Si cela semble trop effrayant au début, faites-le pour toutes les personnes qui se sentiront bien en vous regardant vous épanouir.

Oui, cela peut parfois être un peu intimidant, mais je suis convaincue que vous avez le pouvoir en vous. Tu es un être humain fort, ne l'oublie jamais.

Passez une bonne journée, je crois en vous!

À bientôt,

You are so powerful

EN

Hello Sunshine!

I hope you're doing great and you're taking care of the amazing human being you are!

I believe in you. You have a very unique potential, and this world is a better place because of you.

Many people think about you and the way you've made their life brighter, they just don't necessarily tell you everytime. Trust me, no matter where you're in life, you're not a failure, and you've never been. You're doing things that manu humans dream of being able to do. You're impressive, please, believe it! 

Talk to you soon,

Flavie

FR

Salut petits soleils!

J'espère que vous allez bien en ce moment et que vous prenez soin de l'être humain incroyable que vous êtes!

Je crois en vous. Vous avez un potentiel tout à fait unique et ce monde est meilleur grâce à vous.

Beaucoup de gens pensent à vous et à la façon dont vous avez rendu leur vie plus brillante, ils ne vous le disent pas nécessairement à chaque fois. Croyez-moi, peu importe où vous en êtes dans la vie, vous n'êtes pas un échec et vous ne l'avez jamais été. Vous faites des choses que beaucoup d'autres humains rêvent de pouvoir faire. Vous êtes impressionnant, croyez-le!

À bientôt,

Flavie

You're such a great human being!

Hey you!

I hope you're doing great!

I haven't been really active lately, due to a pretty bad mental health, but I'm willing to try my best and throw all my love at you again! 

I hope life is sweet to you and you're feeling good enough to take decisions that make you feel good. Whatever you do, I'm convinced it'll lead you to great opportunities. I believe in you!

Have a great day and talk to you soon,

Flavie

A Shoot of Self Love - Sensuality NSFW

Hey you!

I hope you're doing well and you're having a great relationship with yourself lately!

Today I am back with a little bonus self portrait series I did the other day. To be completely honest with you, I spent a fair amount of time wondering which pictures of this series I should or should not share. I was scared it was too much for some. Too much skin, too much flaws, too much sensuality.

Sensuality has more often than not been one of the major ways I personally experiment life. I love to seduce, flirt, play. In the large sense of each. It's one of my favorite ways to create and nourish relationships with others but also with myself. I simply love to feel sensual. It makes me feel good, free and confident, which helps me accomplish great things in all aspects of my life. 

I don't know why I should be ashamed of a healthy way for me to show love to myself and others. 

I personally would love to live in a world where we can all feel safe around everything related to sexuality. There should be no shame or blame, but only love and curiosity, right?

Everytime I act on my fear of being rejected, I actually reject myself. Everytime I let society convince me that there is something wrong with me, they win.

We all have our own definition of sensuality and I would love to know yours so feel free to - respectfully - share yours in the comments if you'd like!

Thank you for making me feel safe enough to share these with y'all!

Talk to you soon,

Flavie

Hey you

Just passing by to remind you that you're super cool, you bright up people's day without even knowing it, and you're full of potential. :)

I'm glad you exist!

Have a good day,

Talk to you soon,

Flavie

A Shoot Of Self Love 6 - 2

Hey you!

First of all, I hope you're doing great and  your weekend is filled with fun!

I'm back with the second part of this month's series "Water x Letting go"

Bubbles are a great way for me to reconnect with my playful side and chill out. When I'm stressed out and I can't take a decision, I just get the closest bubble blower I find (I got a lot of those hanging around), and I blow bubbles until everything clears out.

So next time you're feeling anxious, maybe try some bubbles!

Talk to you soon,

Flavie

A Shoot Of Self Love #6 - Water x Letting go

Hey you!

Thank you so much for sticking with me for another month or for joining :) 

And also, thank you lots for voting! Y'all chose this month's theme: Water x Letting Go ! I'll create 5 self portrait series exploring these subjects and post the uncensored images here every Sunday, and at the end of the month, I'll publish a new edition of A Shoot Of Self Love Mag with everything I've learned through self portraiture about Creativity, Technic and Self Love ! 

Please, feel free to play as well and take self portraits related to this theme! I'd absolutely love to see what you did so use #AShootOfSelfLove when you post them on social medias!

Here is my first entry, I hope you like it! 

Help me Choose - A Shoot Of Self Love

Hey you!

First of all, I hope you"re doing great and eating good food lately!

A Shoot of Self Love #5 finally came out and I'm so excited to start working on the next edition already! But for this, I need your help to find the next theme... by playing a little game! (you know me, I turn everything into games...)

I would need you to play Fuck Marry Kill with 3 different themes I preselected:

The one who will get the more success will be the winner of the month,

The second one will get another chance next month,

And the third one will just die right here.

The more you play, the more fun it gets!

It'll determine my self portraits of the month (I already have so much cool ideas), and I'm so glad you're the ones deciding!

Okay, here are the themes:

* WATER x Letting go

* PLANTS x Growth

* A SHOOT OF PET LOVE x Joy

Now, it's your turn, let me know what you want!

A Shoot Of Self Love #5 - Creativity

Hey you!

First of all, I hope that you're experiencing fun emotions lately.

Today, I'm happy to share with y'all my new edition of A Shoot Of Self Love about Creativity! Working on this subject all month definitely helped me welcome this beautiful tool into my life again, as all my latest Self Portraits can maybe tell. So I wanted to personally thank you for supporting my art and helping me work on projects like this, that really matter to me and are really cool learning opportunities. 

I really hope that it'll help you dive a bit more into the healing world of Self Portraiture and maybe inspire you to create some beautiful images or moments with yourself. Whatever you get out of it, I'm hopeful that it'll be fun!

I honestly can't wait to start working on the next editions, and keep making it a bit better each time. So please, don't hesitate to share any feedbacks or ideas with me (on a kind way, I'm sensitive :)!

As usual, if you ever post Self Portraits on social medias, feel free to use #AShootOfSelfLove so I can see your beautiful face!

Take care of yourself,

Talk to you soon,

Flavie.

Fly me to the nude - Uncensored

Hey you!

First of all, I hope that you're having a good day and the weather is nice where you are :)

Lately, I've been in such a creative mood, I don't really know what's happening. The sun and flowers, probably. But here is one of the self portrait sessions I've done this week.

I didn't plan this one at all but I'm so glad I got to try this. I personally love the result and I can't wait to do it with some clients!

Hope you like them as well!

Have a great rest of your day,

Talk to you soon,

Flavie

Exclusive Photoshoot - Chaïma

Hey you!

First of all, I hope you're doing well and this week is treating you well!

Today I wanted to share with y'all one of my latest photoshoots. Chaïma kindly accepted that some of the pictures would be shared on Patreon and I'm over the mood to finally show them to you.

You probably don't know that about me, but I'm obsessed with birthdays. How cool is it that we have a special day to celebrate ourselves, once a year??!

So when Chaïma contacted me to come to my city and spend HER special day in front of my camera, it was like... A dream come true! 

She was sooo sweet that she even brought a gift for me, that reunited me with reading! :) But enough of me, let's talk about the real Queen of this post!

She was like an angel, with her purple hair and her warm smile and she immediately filled up the room with her beautiful energy.

Seeing her play with balloons, a crown on her head with her laughs as the soundtrack was such a precious moment.

Thank you Chaïma for choosing me for your special day, I hope you get many more beautiful celebrations of your precious self!

Talk to you soon,

Take care of yourself,

Flavie.

Photoshoot w/ Zoe ( @lafilleauxhortensias )

Hey you!

Today, I wanted to talk a bit about this photoshoot I did with Zoe not long ago.
It was a while I haven't worked for someone who is used with being in front of a camera, so when she contacted me, my imposter syndrome screamed.

But after a few hours of work and seeing how happy we are both with these pictures, I guess everything went well, right?

I'm still amazed of how lucky I am to have a job that makes me meet such wonderful humans on a beautiful way!

Thank you Zoe for your trust and the sunshine within your heart!

Have a great day,

Flavie.

Hey you

Hello Sunshine!

Merle is just passing by to remind you that you're a super badass human and that you deserve  to enjoy your day at its fullest.

Talk to you soon,

Flavie

Naked on the Internet, unprofessional?

Hey you!

First of all, I hope you are doing great and that this week is treating you well!

Today I wanted to talk about a subject that's been in my life for years: should being naked on the internet be considered unprofessional?

Being naked simply means exposing one's body. We all have one, and while they all are quite unique with their very own particularities, they also are pretty much the same and more supposed to be functional than beautiful. Censoring them more and more creates a taboo around something that's literally the most simple thing in our lives: the freakin shells we live in. Nudity happens to be sexualized but I don't think it should be the naked person's responsibility to make sure no one sexualize them (especially since literally everything can be sexualized...)

On another hand, a profession is just a way to contribute to society's well being, ideally by using special skills we develop during our life time. Capitalism made a whole thing about it that turns around shame and arbitrary validation, but I don't even think only tasks with monetary transactions should be considerate as work. I personally call work all the actions I take to make the world a better place at my level, and based on my own value system. Obviously, there is tasks I like more than others, and some that I have to do even if they don't go towards my vision of a better world. It may be very utopistic of me to think that way, but that's the way I currently look at it.

What does being naked on the internet has to do with professionalism?
I don't fucking know. Some would say you have to reach some random standards to be validated as a professional being, some others would even evoke "respect" as an argument, but I don't understand any of this (or I'd say that I understand it enough to decide to not participate to this huge no sense).

Life is too short to limit yourself with stupid social codes that no one fully agree with or even understands. Be naked or don't be naked. Work too much or not enough, work naked, work in ski apparel, I don't care. Just be happy and help others around you feel happy as well. That's all that matter at the end. And being naked on the internet makes me and some other people feel happy so I guess I'm doing it right... right?

I feel like this post was sponsored by Captain Obvious but I hope my naive train of thoughts may have helped you at some level... What do you think about this subject? I'd love to have your opinion!

Have a great day, don't hesitate to question the world you live in, and have fun!

Flavie

Hey you! I need your opinion :)

Hey you!

EN I hope you're doing great! Today, I'd like to know what you think! I don't think I've ever mentioned it here, but I like to offer a little something to my clients before they leave the session, so they can remember all the things they've felt during the few hours we shared. 

I usually offer stickers with designs I've made, and I'd like to add a little postcard. But I'm struggling between 2 options: a dark and a bright one.

Can you help me and let me know which one you prefer?

Thank you lots!!

FR J'espère que vous allez bien! Aujourd'hui, j'aimerais avoir votre avis. Je pense pas l'avoir déjà mentionné ici, mais j'aime offrir un petit quelque chose à mes client.e.s avant qu'iels s'en aillent, afin qu'iels puissent se souvenir de toutes les choses qu'iels ont ressenties pendant les quelques heures que nous avons partagées.

Je propose généralement des autocollants avec des designs que j'ai réalisés et j'aimerais ajouter une petite carte postale. Mais j'ai du mal entre 2 options: une sombre et une plus lumineuse.

Pouvez-vous m'aider et me dire lequel vous préférez?

Merci beaucoup !!

I think I downgraded...

Hey you!

First of all, I hope you're doing well!

Today, while I was unsuccessfully looking for a special old file, I found a bunch of pictures I took a few years ago. And I honestly think I downgraded.

I don't know, I like them a lot and I'm kind of fed up with staying comfortable in my comfort zone. Don't get me wrong, I'm glad the pandemic gave me the opportunity to  explore new aspects of my work - on top of the fact that I'm lucky enough that it makes some people feel good - but gosh, it starts to get boring... It's been so long that I tend to forget what "normal" used to be.

I miss the constant source of inspiration the world can be and I can't wait to look at it again with my camera. But in the mean time, I really want to keep getting out of my comfort zone, and make art that I'll be proud of in a few years.

I added a fair amount of the pictures I'm talking about, if you'd like to travel with me for a few minutes :)

Have a great rest of your day,

Thank you for your support!

Talk to you soon,

Flavie

Hey you!

Hey Angel,

I'm just passing by to remind you that you're perfect as you are. You're on a beautiful journey and you deserve to live your life at its fullest, even right now. Every single day is precious and you deserve to enjoy them all.

You deserve to feel like the main character of your own movie. Even if it sounds ridiculous to some other people. Like if too short to waste it on fears. 

I believe in you,

I'm excited for you.

Have a great day,

Talk to you soon,

Flavie.

What Self Portraiture taught me.

Hey you!

First of all, how are you doing? How was your week? How are you holding on? Are you happy? What was the highlight of your day so far?

Today, I wanted to share with you the benefits of self portraitures from my experience and hopefully, it can motivate you to give it a try as well!

A couple years ago, I remember very well hearing the beautiful models I was working with on a photoshoot tell me "why wouldn't you take pictures of yourself?!!" and I laughed nervously, hiding more behind the couch I was sitting next to. But even if it sounded terribly scary at the time, and without even realizing it, they planted a seed in my head.

And what a seed!!

With the pandemic, my work as a photographer got challenged. I didn't have access to most of the things that were essential to my art: people and locations. Or at least that's what I thought at first... Until I realized that I am a people and my home is a location. 

I love to say that I'm recovering from self hate, one self portrait at a time, because it's all it is. Taking the gaze back on myself when I was so scared to look at me changed me drastically, inside and out.

I used to feel ashamed of parts of me that weren't validated by society. Until I took time, energy and creativity to documente them with all the love I hold. Taking pictures of my stretch marks, saggy breasts, asymmetrical face etc changed the way I was looking at them and I let others look at them as well. When in the past I used to self doubt about the particularities that make me unique when I met someone new, I now automatically doubt the other person if they dare looking down at these beautiful parts of me. 

I now look at my body with all the love and consideration it deserves. 

Plus, knowing that people can easily find pictures of me as I am kind of reassures me. They don't have to project non sense expectations on me, they accept me as I am or they leave. And I love it. I don't want to waste my time with people I don't align with, so I'm glad when they disappear first. 

Now let's mention how much of a beautiful practice it is for creativity to work on self portraiture. You're the only one who choose the rules and contrains. You can train over and over pressurelessly. Nobody cares if you "fail", take too much time or are being weird. Your art is the only thing that matters at the moment. 

Plus, I now have fun memories to look back at in the future. And we tend to forget how important it can be for some people (it is for me). 

Please, give it a chance. It doesn't have to be perfect. Have fun and everything will be fine! 

Lavie Eibel - une petite pause

Hey you!

Here is a little podcast episode for you to relax a bit whenever you need it. It's in French but I hope it can help you :) 

Have a great rest of your day and let me know if you'd like more like this one!

I am planning on doing a new life episode soon btw!

Alright, talk to you soon,

Flavie.

Everything about my Photo Background

Hey you!

First of all, I hope you're doing well.

This past year, I got a few questions on my photo background and I figured I would make a post about it. 

Frame
First of all, I highly encourage you to get at least one background frame. They are pretty cheap and It's easy to set it up whenever you need it and it'll make everything easier, no matter what you want your background to look like.

Fabrics
I personally decided to get lots of matching fabrics from a local fabric store to play with them depending of how I feel at the moment. I sew holes on a side of each of them to tie them to the frame with rope. In my opinion, it's important to pay attention to textures when you pick your fabrics so the light reflects differently on them.

Shine
I add shiny elements (because I like it): a discoball, chandelier crystals I got from a house I grew up in, christmas lights... It adds little sparkles to the background.

Decor
I love to add fun decor stuff that I either make or find.
For example, I make all my little gold stars from pasta boxes that I cut and spray paint, or clouds from carton boxes. I use balloons, plants, an old chair, flowers I cut in my neighborhood... Whatever inspires me at the moment :)

I have no idea if these little indications helped or inspired you but if you have any complementary question, please let me know!

Have a great rest of your day,

Talk to you soon,

Flavie.

Hey you!

I hope you're doing great and that it's sunny where you are, if you like the sun!

I just wanted to wish you a good day,

Talk to you soon,

Flavie.

Improving relationships, one conscious gesture at a time.

Hello you!

I hope you're doing well and that life is kind to you lately. :)

Today I wanted to talk about all kinds of relationships. During this pandemic, we saw most of them take a turn and many people can feel extremely lonely right now, which is completely understandable. I've had my moments as well so I decided to look into little tricks I could apply to my relationships to improve them and... it's working! I feel more loved and loving the more I work on this and I figured I may share them with you, just in case it could help :) Some of these little tips may sound obvious to you and that's cool, but a little reminder is never a bad thing, right? 

Give the love I would like to receive
Love often attracts love. That's that simple. Be kind for free, it feels good to spread love and not wait anything in return.

Questioning myself instead of others
Relationships are dynamics and if we can't (and shouldn't want to) change others, every dynamic gives us the opportunity to reflect on ourselves and grow. 

Being aware of how I feel and act around each person
We sometimes feed relationships mindlessly, without really taking the time to check what's going on. But is it really working?

Be grateful
Gratefulness is key, and expressing it is gold. Telling people how they make you feel can go a long way.

Take initiatives
We don't know what's going on in others' heads but chances are that they are craving connexion as much as you do. So don't be shy and make a move! Worst case scenario, they politely decline (people are almost never rude when you're kind). But what if they said yes?

Focus on the moment instead of the being
Trying to find perfect people to surround ourselves with is a never ending quest. I find it way more reachable as a goal to share (almost) perfect moments with people. Every single human has a good side and it's more likely to show up during a quality moment :) We can share very fulfilling moments with almost anyone, and that's so cool!

Pay attention to rhythm
Leaving room for other's rhythm can be challenging at first but go a long way. We all have different needs when it comes to how often we need social interactions and it isn't personal. 

Rituals/Schedule time
Dedicate time/energy to people you care about. Life can feel draining but sharing special rituals with your loved ones can definitely make it easier on a daily basis.
It can sound like: sharing sunset pictures, sending a little emoji to say we think about each other, watching a movie together online,... whatever, you do you.

Not making assumptions
People are way more than what you see of them. We all are really complex human beings with our own unique way to see and experience the world. The more we project our own vision on others and the more we shrink them into an inaccurate version of them. If you're uncertain of something, ask and be open to the answer :) Choose curiosity over judgement 

Let go
Some relationships aren't made to be or last and that's completely okay. It doesn't mean that you aren't good enough, just that there is something more adapted to you waiting somewhere else. If the relationship doesn't feel right, it may be time to move on.
If it feels hard at the moment to let go of a relationship, you can always set a reminder for days/weeks/months later asking if you still want to contact the person, and don't do it before (this little technic works super well on me) 

I hope these little tips helped you! Feel free to let me know if you applied them or if you have others that work for you!

Have a great rest of your day,

Talk to you soon,

Flavie.

Hey you

Just passing by to remind you that you're your own very special human. Your life is absolutely unique and no one ever lived what you're living. You're allowed to do things your way. You're allowed to do things no one else will understand if it feels right to you. You're allowed to believe in yourself. You're allowed to follow your intuition.

Have a precious day,

You're great.

Talk to you soon,

Flavie.

Feel Better Journey #1

Hey you!

I hope you're doing well and that life isn't too hard on you lately.

The pandemic has been tougher on all of us than we can even imagine and I had to be reminded this the hard way the other day. 

_ Long story short, I embarrassed myself like I couldn't even imagine in front of someone I kind of liked but barely knew. I showed him a side of me that I had no idea existed and had to admit that if I showed it, it meant it very well existed (I'll have to tell you the story one day, 'cause gosh, it's a funny one...)

I don't know for you, but personally I can't move on from a negative experience without understanding the lesson I can take away from it and make a turn. So after a few days blaming myself excessively for being broken, I decided that I could just start from there and work on my healing, one day at a time. 

And because I am bad at doing stuff alone but the pandemic forces me to be very much alone, I'll documente this Feel Better Journey and share it on the internet, just in case it can help people and keep me motivated (like I do with everything ahah). This video of Jeneration DIY definitely convinced and inspired me.

My ultimate goals are to reconnect with my vulnerability, stop hiding behind my ego, and feeling more fulfilled in general. We'll see how it translates in my daily life.

I know long term progress take patience and dedication and I hope I'll be able to maintain my efforts on the long run :)

I am a strong believer that the best apologies are changed behaviors and I would like to apologize to myself and this random guy - even if he probably doesn't give a damn fuck - for the weird moment we shared. But for this, I have to make sure I'll not be this version of me again. 

Having the idea of progress as my main focus is definitely so helpful so far. I've done stuff that I was delaying forever, been kinder to myself and others, got more excited about life, and that's quite a win already. Can't wait to see what's coming next.

I wish you a very special weekend!

Talk to you soon,

Flavie.