Flavie Eidel

NSFW / Dans un champs d'amour

Hey you!

I hope you're doing well!

I would love to know what you would like to see more from me on this platform. As much as I mostly only create for myself and my clients on Instagram, here, it is more of a you and me situation! It isn't always the easiest to be completely self aware and a little help is always appreciated :) 

So please, feel free to give me any feedback on how I could improve! (either in the comments section, by private message here or even on Instagram! It is up to you :)

Thank you lots and have a wonderful day :)

You are beautiful!

Hey you!

First, I hope you're doing well!

Then, I wanted to share with you these pictures I took last month of my gorgeous client! I don't know how I get so lucky and have such stunning people trusting and supporting me! It's beyond me!

Estelle wanted a shoot of self love and I tried my absolute best to give her what she wanted and deserve.

Fun fact: the weather was insanely awful when we initially planned this session and she came all the way to my place for... nothing. It was a great opportunity for us to talk about her situation, which gave me plenty of ideas for the photoshoot that I wouldn't have had otherwise, but gosh I felt bad for her, when I saw her beautiful self walking away UNDER THE POURING RAIN!
Luckily, when she came the second time, the weather was wonderful and the conditions ideal to make the magic happen!

We actually got along so well that we keep in touch and it's a pleasure to go get drinks with her!

I hope you like these pictures as much as I do!

Thank you!

Hey you!

I am just passing by to thank you LOTS for supporting me, and welcome the new subscribers!

It warms up my heart to feel so loved and it definitely motivates me quite a lot.

I hope you like the content you see in here and will keep appreciating it! :)

I'll get back asap with some exclusive photoshoot, but for now, I'll let you with this old unpublished photo of Hannah!

Take care of yourself, eat something that makes you feel good and don't stay too much on your phone! ;)

See you,

Flavie.

We'll be okay.

Hey you!

I hope you're doing well and that you are safe.

I know things can feel extremely overwhelming and hopeless lately, but many amazing things are happening all around the world, every single second.

Some kids are having their first laugh, some couples say 'I love you for the first time', some people are planting trees, some others are changing their mind on difficult topics... 

It may seem small, but lots of small changes make a huge impact. :)

Let's feel the hope fill our hearts before getting back to our day, and let's be the change we want to see in the world!

See you soon!

Peace of Mind & Summer Vibes

Hey you!

Just passing by to wish you a great day and even better weekend!

See you soon!

Flavie

You are allowed to have fun

Hey you!

Just a little reminder that you deserve to enjoy your life, even as an adult.

You're allowed to follow your weird dreams, say yes when you should say no, or book this trip you've been thinking about for a while.

Treat yourself well, you're precious! :)

See you soon,

Flavie.

You got this

Hello you,

Don't mind me, I'm just passing by to remind you how great and precious you are. Whatever you're struggling with right now will only be a vague memory very soon.

Breathe, you'll be fine.

See you soon,

Flavie xx

Take time to relax

Hey you!

I know life can be really fast sometimes, but it is extremely important that you take time for yourself while you do as little as possible.
Make yourself some tea, listen to some music, watch your plants grow, count your fingers...

Your brain needs to rest and you won't betray yourself by allowing it to do so. 

Take care of yourself :)

See you soon,

Flavie.

A baby on the way...

This session has been planned for months and I am SO happy that despite everything going on, we managed to do it!

When C. contacted me to take her pregnancy pictures, I immediately thought about the ocean. And it happened that it actually had a lot of sense, since a little beach town not far was filled with memories for the future Dad, and that one of the names options for the baby was related to the ocean.

And I'm not gonna lie, I really needed an ocean shoot.

I say it a lot, but I am so in love with my job.

I am paid to meet people, bring special emotions to them, and make art out of it, so they can have memories of it forever. It is insanely fulfilling and I don't think I could have chosen a better career for myself. I am so thankful for all the support I receive, and that includes YOUR support.

You're amazing. Thank you :)

Treat yourself the way you want to be treated

Hey you!

I know I've already mentioned this on Monday, but I think it is an important point that deserves to be developed. 

People will base the way they act with you on:
_ The way you treat yourself,
_ What you allow (your boundaries).

And the more you give yourself what you need, the less you need it from outside, which makes all your relationships healthier and more genuine.  When you already take care of the love part, you invest your time in things and people that you actually appreciate, and not just that could potentially give you the love you think you need.

Also, finding out how you can have a healthy relationship with yourself will: first, make you feel safe in most places and situations, second, have positive consequences on all your relationships.

Treat yourself like your best friend because you are. 

See you soon

Take Time to Get to Know Yourself

Hey you!

Just passing by to tell you that you deserve to invest your time in yourself. Do you truly know who you are and what you want? 

Ask yourself what you like, what makes you happy, what direction you want to take next. Remove everybody else from the picture. No trend, no family, no outside influence. Just you, your heart and your brain. If it helps, feel free to start a journal to document all of this. 

You deserve to know yourself. 

Hope this helped!

See you soon!

Love Yourself First

Hey you!

I hope you have a great week ahead and that you make sure to stay safe, but not too much!

Today I wanted to remind you that it is absolutely important that you take time to work on loving yourself more and more everyday. No outside love could ever fill the hole created by a lack of self love. 

Treat yourself the way you want to be treated, always. Identify what love languages are important for you and shower yourself with affection.

You are worthy. You don't need anything else to be worthy of love, and especially your own.

You don't need to like everything about yourself. Nobody is perfect, that's a fact. But as much as you could forget a lover's annoying bad sides, you can do it with yourself. 

Everyday, give yourself love. Make yourself smile and laugh. Sooth your heart. 

I hope this helped!

See you soon!

You'll always have hard days.

You'll always have hard days. We are humans and the range of our emotions is wonderful.

For a while and to try to keep going, I didn't have other options than numbing and ignoring the bad feelings. And let me tell you, even if it sounds good on paper, it is a hella bad idea. You cannot enjoy he good if you don't welcome the bad too. Once I shut down the road to SadLand, AngerHood and NostalgiaCity, I couldn't find my way to HappyVille, JoyTown or ExcitementPlaza either. It's a whole pack.

So next time you cry, remember that theses tears are necessary for your next smile to exist. 

I don't know if that makes sense to you, but I hope it did help :)

See you soon!

Open for a surprise

Just Merle passing by to wish you a great week, filled with hope, love, and progress.

See you soon!

You can do so much

Nothing will change if you change nothing.

You only have to start and go at your own rhythm to see progress.

I believe in you.

Don't forget to rest.

I know this year has been a pretty exhausting one so far and it's easy to feel overwhelmed when it looks like we are in the middle of a weird game that never stops to get harder.

So it's important to set a timer on your phone, eat something you like, watch a movie that makes you feel good, laugh with friends, have a good night of sleep, finish this book that you didn't give enough attention to lately, take a walk, make a bouquet with wildflowers from your neighborhood, etc...

You can't keep going if you don't allow yourself to rest.

And yes, I am also saying all theses things to myself, because I definitely need to learn that it is okay to take breaks. 

Take care and talk to you soon!

EN. White Privilege, what to do with it?

Hey you.

Today, I am not here to spread joy, or anything related to positive emotions. I am actually filled with rage and anger as I am typing this article. Not my anger, not my rage. But the one that the black community has been building up for centuries now, related to how racism affects their life in so many aspects daily.

I want to use all the platforms I can to share with other white people the knowledge I have been accumulating about the situation. So if you are unaware, please read. And I hope it is only the beginning of your self education on this subject :)

1. What is happening right now?

As you probably know, in Minneapolis, George Floyd, a black man got killed by police officers during an arrestation last week. Evidences show:
_ he was arrested for suspicions of using a fake bill to pay for groceries,
_ he was NOT causing any trouble
_ before killing him on the ground (as you probably already saw), he was first beat up by the cops in their car.

"In this white supremacist society, when police kills a black man, we want to know what made it happen. There is something in us that believe that black people deserve this." - @janayathefuture 

George Floyd is only a name in a never ending list of black people arbitrary arrested, molested, humiliated and killed by police officers and authority figures, all around the world. 

People decided to protest against unpunished police violence and things escalated. But not as you may think. Indeed, instead of apologizing and trying to find solutions to this major issue, police decided to be extremely violent with pacifist protestors.

A big grocery store, Target, got vandalized for 2 major reasons: This company directly funds the police that killed George Floyd and refused the protestors to buy supplies from them to wash their face after being directly sprayed with tear gaz by the police. Not to mention that the company made a ridiculous amount of money during a pandemic that starved millions of people around the world. 

We see protests happening all over America and once again, media show explosions, fires, and whatever sensational images they can find.
But what they don't show are:
_ most of theses vandalizations are from white people (white supremacists, white undercover corps, "white allies" that feel entitled to take actions that could directly hurt black people), as many videos can testify.
_ all the pacifist protests going on. They are the majority. And it doesn't calm down police officers that have no problem shooting kneeling people in the head or driving over crowds.
_ all the events in the past centuries that lead to this.

2. Okay, but why is it my problem?

As white people, we could have the reflex to look away as soon as we feel uncomfortable and find excuses to justify our inaction. I know it very well. I am guilty of it. I am guilty of only showing my activist card when it's to defend myself. I am guilty of putting my comfort before other people's safety. But I decided that I won't hide behind my white privilege anymore and that I will make up for theses mistakes with actions, not apologies. It isn't about white people right now. It isn't about our ego, our image, or anything else. It's been about us for long enough. If you benefit from black culture at any level, and don't use your power and privilege to dismantle systemic racism, you are part of the problem. As a white woman, I cannot ask men to fight patriarchy if I am not ready to fight racism.

The current society was built by and for white people. White supremacy is a social construct, re-enforced by the stories that are told to and by us, and as any social construct, can be dismantled to lead to a better world.

3. I get it, but what can I do?

I have good news for you: there is so many things you can do right now, even from the comfort of your couch.

* You can educate yourself about racism
Knowledge is power. And it can be shared endlessly. By educating yourself and sharing this knowledge with other white people, you are taking this pressure off black people's shoulders. They have other priorities right now than repeating things they have been saying for centuries.
You can Google key words like "how to be a white allie?", "police violence on black people", "white privilege", etc
If you have any questions, please ask Google, not black people.
If this new knowledge makes you uncomfortable, that is a good sign. Embrace the discomfort, the guilt and the rage. 

* You can add black people's narrative in the content you consume daily.
Follow black people, listen to what they have to say, look up black history. The more we do it and the more we change our prospective on the world. Only listening to white people's point of view on black people's issues doesn't help anything.
Watch movies and shows made by black people. Everything made by Ava Duvernay and Jordan Peele is a really good start.
I am getting a list of black content creators ready, but in the mean time, if you have instagram, I highly encourage you to follow
in English: @blackhistory @blklivesmatter @janayathefuture @chikalogy @nowhitesaviors @aaron__philip @untilfreedom
in French: @maisnoncestpasraciste @decolonisonsnous @tetonsmarrons @sansblancderien @assatraore
Personally I decided to unfollow the white people that remain silent about the situation and replace them by black content creators and it definitely changed a lot my social media experience. 

* You can now share this knowledge with the white people around you.
This may not be super pleasant. Many may remain resistant, and it can bring up conflicts. That means you're doing great. Theses people love and respect you. They'll end up thinking about what you told them. And it'll probably change their point of view and help them evolve. Text your friends, colleagues and family members, talk about it with the children you know... And start real discussions, not just mention it.
For the little story, my ex husband called me out on my racist behavior when we were together. At first I got super offended and took it personally. I took it as a personal attack and threw back nasty arguments at him. But looking at it now, I am extremely thankful that he did it. Otherwise, I would have probably not being able to start questioning myself on it.
Be the person that cares enough to put themselves in danger for a better world.
Please, if you share your knowledge, make sure to not publicly share graphic content of violence towards black people. It can be traumatic for black people that see it.

* Donate money if you can
You can give to non profits, black owned businesses, buy things that people are selling to raise money for donations, etc.
And try your best to boycott companies that benefit directly from systemic racism (like H&M, Nike, and many more).
Examples of good non profits: Black Lives Matter Global Network, National Bail Out (that bails out Black mothers), Official George Floyd Memorial Fund, The Conscious Kid (raise money to fund a program to get Children's Books to Support Conversations on Race, Racism, and Resistance" into classrooms across USA), and many more (I will have a more complete list coming soon)

* Sign petitions
All of them. And share them. And feel free to search for them by keyword on the petition websites.
American ones: http://chng.it/hRVfQmf4GZ , - I signed a bunch but I don't know how to find the links.
French ones: http://chng.it/8w4ZzmnDkb , http://chng.it/fvtfqZ78Ty , http://chng.it/5mnRywkGhV , etc

* Send emails to consul members around America
Budgets for the upcoming years are being validated at this time of year, and it extremely important for the situation to defund the police and use this money into social and health programs, to make sure this doesn't keep happening. There is lots of ressources on Internet about alternatives and reasons why the police system doesn't work.

* Use your privilege to help
- Offer to take your black colleagues shifts since going to work right now might be insanely hard, babysitt their kids, go grocery shopping for them, etc. Not only protesters, this situation is traumatic for black people.
- Go to protests and make sure that you do not escalade the tension. Be there to protect and support. Bring helpful supplies: bandaids, water, snacks, masks... Share them with black people. Know when to be silent. Some chants aren't ours to sing as white people. Don't accept to talk to the media about the situation. We need to hear black people and only black people on this issue.
- Call out racism when you witness it. Don't talk for black people, but don't let them defend themselves alone either. Don't be a savior but try your best to be a supportive ally. 

* Vote.
Don't vote for yourself, but for the people that are forgotten by our current society. Think about them in your choice of candidate to support. And if you really don't want to vote, considerate giving your vote to someone who can't (undocumented immigrants, for example). 

I know this is a lot on informations and I hope you got something out of it. Listening to me is not enough. I am only making this post to share the knowledge I have on the situation and redirect you to the people you should be listening to.

* Question your own inner racism enough to take anti racist actions in your daily life.
If you have the power to hire people, maybe give the priority to black candidates. If you want to buy things, maybe give the priority to black owned businesses. This society only has white people as leaders. In every field. The money is held by white people. It’s time to redistribute the cards, for a better game. Imagine you are playing cards with other people and you only get the shittiest cards. It doesn’t mean you are a bad player. But you already lost the game before it started. You’ll try your best to delay your losing, but whatever you do, whatever abilities you have, you won’t win against a shitty player that holds all the good cards. 

Let's keep changing together, for a better world. 

FR. Que faire de mon Privilège Blanc?

Hey toi.

Aujourd'hui, je ne suis pas ici pour répandre de la joie ou quoi que ce soit lié à des émotions positives. Je suis en fait rempli de rage et de colère en tapant cet article. Pas ma colère, pas ma rage. Mais celle que la communauté noire accumule depuis des siècles maintenant, liée à la façon dont le racisme affecte leur vie au quotidien, sous tant d'aspects.

Je veux utiliser toutes les plateformes que je peux pour partager avec d'autres personnes blanches les connaissances que j'ai accumulées sur la situation. Donc, si vous n'êtes pas au courant, je vous invite à lire ce qui suit. Et j'espère que ce n'est que le début de votre auto-éducation sur ce sujet :)

1. Que se passe-t-il en ce moment?

Comme vous le savez probablement, à Minneapolis, George Floyd, un homme noir a été tué par des policiers lors d'une arrestation la semaine dernière. Les preuves montrent que:

_ il a été arrêté pour suspicion d'utilisation d'une fausse facture pour payer ses courses,
_ il ne causait aucun problème,
_ avant de le tuer au sol (comme vous l'avez probablement déjà vu), il a d'abord été roué de coups par les policiers impliqués, dans leur voiture.

"Dans cette société suprémaciste blanche, lorsque la police tue un homme noir, nous voulons savoir ce qui l'a engendré. Il y a quelque chose en nous qui croit que les Noirs le méritent." - @janayathefuture

George Floyd n'est qu'un nom dans une liste interminable de Noir.e.s arrêté.e.s, molesté.e.s, humilié.e.s et tué.e.s arbitrairement par des policiers du monde entier.

Les gens ont décidé de protester contre la violence policière impunie et les choses ont dégénéré. Mais pas comme vous le pensez. En effet, au lieu de s'excuser et d'essayer de trouver des solutions à ce problème majeur, la police a décidé d'être extrêmement violente avec les manifestants pacifistes.

Une grande enseigne, Target, a été vandalisée pour 2 raisons principales: cette société finance directement la police qui a tué George Floyd et a refusé aux manifestants de leur vendre des fournitures pour se laver le visage après avoir été directement aspergée de gaz lacrymogène par la police. Sans parler du fait que l'entreprise a fait une somme d'argent ridicule lors d'une pandémie qui a affamé des millions de personnes dans le monde.

Nous voyons des manifestations se dérouler partout en Amérique et encore une fois, les médias montrent des explosions, des incendies et toutes les images sensationnelles qu'ils peuvent trouver.

Mais ce qu'ils ne montrent pas sont:
_ la plupart de ces 'pillages' proviennent de Blancs (suprémacistes blancs, agents de police infiltrés blancs, "alliés blancs" qui se sentent autorisés à prendre des mesures susceptibles de blesser directement les Noirs), comme en témoignent de nombreuses vidéos.
_ toutes les manifestations pacifistes en cours. La grande majorité se déroulent dans la paix. Et cela ne calme pas les policiers qui n'ont aucun problème à tirer à bout portrait sur des manifestants à genoux ou à conduire par dessus la foule.
_ tous les événements des siècles passés qui y ont conduit.

2. D'accord, mais pourquoi est-ce mon problème?

En tant que blancs, nous pourrions avoir le réflexe de détourner le regard dès que nous nous sentons mal à l'aise et de trouver des excuses pour justifier notre inaction. Je connais très bien ce sentiment. J'en suis coupable. Je suis coupable de ne montrer ma carte d'activiste que pour me défendre moi. Je suis coupable de mettre mon confort avant la sécurité des autres. Mais j'ai décidé que je ne me cacherais plus derrière mon privilège blanc et que je compenserais ces erreurs par des actions, pas des excuses. Il ne s'agit pas de blancs en ce moment. Il ne s'agit pas de notre ego, de notre image ou de quoi que ce soit d'autre. Cela nous concerne depuis assez longtemps. Si vous bénéficiez de la culture noire à n'importe quel niveau et n'utilisez pas votre pouvoir et vos privilèges pour démanteler le racisme systémique, vous faites partie du problème. En tant que femme blanche, je ne peux pas demander aux hommes de combattre le patriarcat si je ne suis pas prêt à combattre le racisme.

La société actuelle a été construite par et pour les blancs. La suprématie blanche est une construction sociale, renforcée par les histoires qui nous sont racontées et par nous, et comme toute construction sociale, elle peut être démantelée pour conduire à un monde meilleur.

3. Je comprends, mais que puis-je faire?
J'ai une bonne nouvelle pour vous: il y a tellement de choses que vous pouvez faire en ce moment, même dans le confort de votre canapé.

* Vous pouvez vous renseigner sur le racisme

La connaissance, c'est le pouvoir. Et il peut être partagé à l'infini. En vous éduquant et en partageant ces connaissances avec d'autres Blancs, vous enlevez cette pression des épaules des personnes Noir.e.s. À l'heure actuelle, iels ont d'autres priorités que de répéter ce qu'iels disent déjà depuis des siècles.

Vous pouvez utiliser des mots clés Google tels que "comment être un allié blanc?", "Violence policière contre les Noirs", "privilège blanc", etc.

Si vous avez des questions, adressez-vous à Google, pas aux Noir.e.s.

Si ces nouvelles connaissances vous mettent mal à l'aise, c'est bon signe. 'Embrassez' l'inconfort, la culpabilité et la rage.

* Vous pouvez ajouter le récit des personnes Noir.e.s dans le contenu que vous consommez quotidiennement.

Suivez les personnes Noir.e.s, écoutez ce qu'iels ont à dire, faites des recherches sur l'Histoire des Noir.e.s. Plus nous le faisons et plus nous changeons notre perspective sur le monde. Se contenter d'écouter le point de vue des Blancs sur les problèmes des Noir.e.s n'aide en rien.
Regardez des films et des émissions réalisés par des Noir.e.s. Tout ce qui a été fait par Ava Duvernay et Jordan Peele est un très bon début.
Je prépare une liste de créateur.ice.s de contenu noir.e.s, mais en attendant, si vous avez instagram, je vous encourage fortement à suivre:
en anglais: @blackhistory @blklivesmatter @janayathefuture @chikalogy @nowhitesaviors @aaron__philip @untilfreedom
en français: @maisnoncestpasraciste @decolonisonsnous @tetonsmarrons @sansblancderien @assatraore

Personnellement, j'ai décidé de ne plus suivre les blancs qui restent silencieux sur la situation et de les remplacer par des créateur.ice.s de contenu noir.e.s et ça a clairement changé beaucoup mon expérience sur les réseaux sociaux.

* Vous pouvez maintenant partager cette connaissance avec les blancs autour de vous.
Ce n'est peut-être pas super agréable. Beaucoup peuvent rester résistants et provoquer des conflits. Cela signifie que vous vous débrouillez bien. Ces personnes vous aiment et vous respectent. Ils finiront par penser à ce que vous leur avez dit. Et cela va probablement changer leur point de vue et les aider à évoluer. Envoyez des SMS à vos amis, collègues et membres de la famille, parlez-en avec les enfants que vous connaissez ... Et lancez de vraies discussions, ne vous contentez pas de le mentionner.
Pour la petite histoire, mon ex-mari m'a appelé sur mon comportement raciste quand nous étions ensemble. Au début, j'ai été très offensé et je l'ai pris personnellement. Je l'ai pris comme une attaque personnelle et lui ai rejeté des arguments désagréables. Mais en y regardant maintenant, je suis extrêmement reconnaissant qu'il l'ait fait. Sinon, je n'aurais probablement pas pu commencer à m'interroger là-dessus.
Soyez la personne qui se soucie suffisamment de se mettre en danger pour un monde meilleur.
S'il vous plaît, si vous partagez vos connaissances, assurez-vous de ne pas partager publiquement le contenu graphique de la violence envers les Noir.e.s. Cela peut être traumatisant pour les personnes Noir.e.s qui le voient.

* Donnez de l'argent si vous le pouvez
Vous pouvez donner à des associations créées par des personnes Noires, acheter des choses que les gens vendent pour collecter des fonds pour des dons, etc.
Et faites de votre mieux pour boycotter les entreprises qui bénéficient directement du racisme systémique (comme H&M, Nike et bien d'autres).
Exemples de bons organismes sans but lucratif: Black Lives Matter Global Network, National Bail Out (qui sauve les mères noires), Official George Floyd Memorial Fund, et bien d'autres (j'aurai bientôt une liste plus complète)

* Signer des pétitions
Toutes. Et partagez-les. Et n'hésitez pas à les rechercher par mot-clé sur les sites Web des pétitions.
Américains:http://chng.it/hRVfQmf4GZ, - J'ai signé un tas mais je ne sais pas comment retrouver les liens.

Français:http://chng.it/8w4ZzmnDkb, http://chng.it/fvtfqZ78Ty, http://chng.it/5mnRywkGhV, etc.

* Utilisez votre privilège pour aider
Offrez de prendre remplacer vos collègues noir.e.s, car aller travailler en ce moment peut être incroyablement difficile, garder leurs enfants, aller faire les courses pour elles.eux, etc.
Allez aux manifestations et assurez-vous que vous n'envenimez pas la tension. Soyez là pour protéger et soutenir. Apportez des fournitures utiles: pansements, eau, collations, masques ... Partagez-les avec les Noir.e.s. Sachez quand vous taire. Certains chants n'ont rien à faire dans la bouche des blancs. N'acceptez pas de parler aux médias de la situation. Nous devons entendre les Noir.e.s et seulement les Noir.e.s sur cette question.
Dénoncez le racisme lorsque vous en êtes témoin. Ne parlez pas pour les Noir.e.s, mais ne les laissez pas non plus se défendre seul.e.s. Ne soyez pas un sauveur, mais faites de votre mieux pour être un allié de soutien.

* Voter.
Ne votez pas pour vous-même, mais pour les personnes oubliées par notre société actuelle. Pensez-y dans votre choix de candidat.e à soutenir. Et si vous ne voulez vraiment pas voter, pensez à donner votre vote à quelqu'un qui ne peut pas (personne sans-papiers, par exemple).

* Interrogez votre propre racisme intérieur suffisamment pour prendre des mesures antiracistes dans votre vie quotidienne.
Si vous avez le pouvoir d'embaucher des gens, donnez peut-être la priorité aux candidats noirs. Si vous voulez acheter des choses, donnez peut-être la priorité aux entreprises appartenant à des Noirs. Cette société n'a que des blancs comme leaders. Dans tous les domaines. L'argent est détenu par des blancs. Il est temps de redistribuer les cartes, pour un meilleur jeu. Imaginez que vous jouez aux cartes avec d'autres personnes et que vous n'obtenez que les cartes les plus merdiques. Cela ne signifie pas que vous êtes un mauvais joueur. Mais vous avez déjà perdu le jeu avant qu'il ne commence. Vous ferez de votre mieux pour retarder votre défaite, mais quoi que vous fassiez, quelles que soient vos capacités, vous ne gagnerez pas contre un joueur de merde qui détient toutes les bonnes cartes.

Je sais que c'est beaucoup d'informations et j'espère que vous en avez tiré quelque chose. M'écouter ne suffit pas. Je ne fais que ce post pour partager les connaissances que j'ai sur la situation et vous rediriger vers les personnes que vous devriez écouter.

Continuons à changer ensemble, pour un monde meilleur.

Follow your dreams.

Follow your dreams, even the silly ones.

Especially the silly ones.

Do things that bring joy to you and others.

See you soon!

Don't be sad that it's over, be glad that it happened.

If nostalgia decides to take over your brain, remind yourself that every end signs the beginning of something else.

And if you want my opinion, that is pretty amazing.

See you soon!

Self Love is the best kind of love

Hey you!

I hope your weekend will be wonderful and that you'll have time to practice self love. Because wherever we are on the scale of self appreciation, it's never too much.

Take care and see you soon!

Amazing you

Hey you,

Just sliding in your mailbox to remind you that you don't need to be perfect to be amazing. 

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Be kind to your beautiful self

The way you look at yourself as a direct impact on how people see you. So be gentle when talking to yourself. Self improvement should always be done with self love. 

I believe in you!

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You can do this

Hey you!

Just passing by to tell you that whatever is your next goal, I believe in you. I know you can do it. 

Have a good day,

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Love is love is love

Just passing by to wish you a wonderful day/weekend/week/month/year/decade, with this picture of Gemma & Ophelia, the sweetest couple.

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My little hands' jewelry

Hello you!

How are you doing?

I hope it's warm where you are and the sun shines. Don't forget to step outside to get some vitamin D (I won't judge if you forgot. I do the same)

Here is a different type of posts, because I often get compliments or questions about my jewelry and wanted to share a bit more about it in here. 

I don't know for you, but my skin is super picky when it comes to what is allowed to touche it. Which means that I have to be selective when I choose my jewelry.

Which is fine, since I don't want to buy thousands of items, especially brand new and/or unethical.

I always had baby hands. Which is fine when you're a baby. But I'm not a baby anymore, as my grey hair can testify. But my chubby hands never grew old. 

And I love hands. I love how useful they are, their movements, their expressions... And I wanted to love mine as well.

So I started accessorizing them with meaningful pretty things that could easily reflect who I am.

I currently wear daily 5 rings, a few tattoos and a bracelet and here is their story, if you care.

_ The older item I have is one of my most simple rings, that I found in my room on top of a furniture when I was living in a shelter. I may have been wearing it every single day since I was 16-ish.

_ Then comes my only bracelet, that my grandma on my dad's side offered me for my 18th birthday, and that I never stopped wearing ever since.

_ I also got an engagement ring at that time from my first love, that I still own, but that I don't currently wear. 

_ Got my wrist tattoo with my brother's initial "E" at 18.

_ Then come my 2 hearts palms tattoos, that weren't planned at all, made by Clarisse Amour (based in Paris). I thought they would disappear within a couple months, but here we are, almost 8-ish years later.

_ Then my mother offered me the pretty ring with a blue stone on it.

_ Then I ended up getting my arm tattoo from Manuella Ana (Based in Paris), to cover up another one. I am still in love with it and I am so thankful for this beautiful gift from her.

_ Once I got back to France, I offered myself 2 little silver sterling rings from a fast fashion website to mark this milestone in my life. I wish I bought them from an independent brand, but I honestly had other things to think about at the time. I am kind of surprise of their quality, since they haven't changed at all since I got them.

_ Once I arrived in Nantes, got my "good star" tattoo by my friend Goutte Noire to remind myself to be grateful on a daily basis. I love it, and can't wait to get another one from her when Corona Virus will be over.

_ Talking about this badboy, during the lockdown I finally found a ring that I wanted for years: my bumble bee, made by Lotta Djossou and I just received it. I love it so much. It was super affordable (60€ I think), made in France, and adjustable. I hope it's the beginning of a long love story between us and that it won't break.

The conclusion of this post is that, if you don't like something within you. Have fun with it! 

Alright, I hope this post was pleasant.

Take care of you!

See you soon!

Screenshots of Life #1

Hey you!

I hope you're in a safe space, mentally and physically. I hope that you're able to work safely and that your boss - if you've got one - doesn't put too much pressure on you in these already complicated times. 

Thank you for your support, despite my legendary inconsistency. You're great.

I got myself a hybrid camera this week to fill the gap between my big heavy oldie-but-goodie DSLR camera (5D Mark II, called Marina in reference of Marina Abramovic) and my iPhone 8 (that doesn't satisfy me when it comes to photo quality). My new baby is a Olympus Pen E PL8 and is now called Elisabet (in reference of Elisabet Ney, one of the artists I feel the most connected to for some reason. But I may talk more about this in another post eventually).

I am enjoying how easy it became to document my life on a pretty and artsy way. Thanks to Elisabet. I already love her deeply.

I went Downtown the other day, because I had to, and it was definitely a source of mixed feelings. Right in between "WOW LIFE IS SO COOL. EVERYTHING IS BEAUTIFUL" and "WTF I'M GOING TO CATCH THE VIRUS AND EVERYBODY AROUND ME WILL DIE BECAUSE OF ME". So much drama for a person so small. It shouldn't even be allowed. 

I am so privileged to not have to do this daily and I think about how to help people who don't have the choice. Sometimes, I also think about people who are even more privileged than me and start getting a tiny bit jealous. And then I remember that this is quite disrespectful towards all the people that are currently fighting for access to decent life conditions.  

So I document the random things I am thankful for. 

And I use this time to reconnect with myself and my surroundings.

And I hope you have this opportunity too, if that's something you've been needing.

I send you lots of positive thoughts, straight from my heart.

See you soon!

Take care!

Happy May, y'all.

Hey you!

I wish you a wonderful upcoming month. I know it probably feels uncertain to all of us. But I hope we can find solutions and ressources for the potential issues that we'll  come across. 

I know we can do this. 

See you soon.

Using my boredom creatively

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I've been frustrated with my editing skills lately, and I knew that I really wanted to learn new skills in this field. So now that I am motivated again, I decided that I was going to practice on some of my oldie but goodie shoots from last year.

I really miss having a team with who I could create art with and I hope I can find this in France soon. 

This series was called "Reality Perception" and was highlighting the fact that Truth and Reality aren't really a thing, and is completely distorted by our own perception, which entirely depends on so many inner factors (mood, trauma, triggers, memories, education,...). We cannot blame other people for the way we perceive them, and the way others perceive us doesn't actually have much to do with who we actually are.

Alright, have a great rest of your day!

See you soon!

You're great!

Hey you, 

I hope you're doing great and that the lockdown isn't too hard on you. Don't forget that this whole thing and the way you react to it doesn't define you. Try your best, whatever it means, and it'll be all good. 

The other day, I read that the future was dark, but not in a bad way. Just in the sense of you can't see it, and that living it is just slowly bringing light to what you need in a day. And I wanted to share this with you, because I thought it could be really helpful during these uncertain times.

Talk to you soon,