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My Favourite Writing

I keep a few posts in a little folder to remind myself of what I hope to achieve one day. It'd be interesting to share those posts, so here goes. I've done a lot of variations of this one, but ...

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Stop Trying To Do BDSM Like the Locals

The “128 Slave Rules” was written by a Fetlifian in 1786 by the look of it. Here are a few to sample:

“I worship my master. I worship my master’s body. The power of my master...

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Frank can lick pussy for hours

Frank can lick pussy for hours. Telling you so is his Fetlife mating call. All pussy-kind is supposed to be profoundly appreciative of his patience and oral endurance, but all I can think is, “Ok...

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Subs Aren't Delicate Flowers

If I were to name my most hated BDSM belief, it would be that all dominants should protect their subs. It assumes that male dominants are uniquely qualified for a role that we can't perform for our...

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<sigh>

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Dog Shaming Part 2

They never put the second picture up, though. 

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Bobby Dog's Moment of Fame

This is Bobby Dog, and everyone loved him so much they put the picture on all kinds of websites. I don't agree with the victim-blaming, in the caption though. Too loud? <sulk>

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Why Nice Guys Finish First

I’ve received some spectacularly horrible unsolicited messages from strangers on Fetlife. There was the sock who told me he wanted to watch me bleed out while hung over a bath and the reader who ...

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Stop Using Consent Models to Escape Your Ethical Duties

This is not RACK:

I’m a risk-aware skydiver. I know diving out of planes is potentially hazardous, so I don’t have to check my gear before jumping. Being risk-aware is enough. It...

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Old Days

It's a shame I tinted this one. It would have been better with the right colours.

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This fucking dress

I bought this for a wedding in my twenties. On the day of the event, I ironed it and burned a hole into the back. I said fuck it and wore it, but I never had the gall to wear it again. I'm still so...

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Crosswords!

At my childhood home, visiting Gauteng for the week and doing crosswords.

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New Fetlifian

This was an amazing era. Seven years ago, new to the scene, and doing parties right, left, and centre.

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Writing

Me back in the day when you had to write all your poems out by hand. 

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Monkey!

We were buried in a cloud of monkeys that day. It was the best kind of fun.

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My hood

This is currently my favourite spot in Cape Town. 

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Tears

This is why all the doggos go crazy when the volunteers arrive. 

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Hiking Around Cape Town

This was one of the toughest hikes I've ever done. Pretty much the whole trail was built from these crazy rocks. It was problem solving all the way.

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Remembering Bobby Dog

Bobby used to take all the things inside, then outside again. He might put them down, but if you try to take them, he'd pick them up and take them outside, then inside again. 

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Norman Says You Should Never Ask a Girl How To Get Girls. I'm Not So Sure.

Never ask a girl about how to get girls. If you're trying to catch a fish, you don't ask the fish. You ask a fisherman. – Norman

The odd thing about fish is that they don...

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All Hail the Tricksy Wank Fodder Hunter

You know the guy: He’s not in your inbox to extract personalised smut, just to ask your advice about the humiliating three way he had with his girlfriend and a guy with a huge cock. He’d never ...

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The masochist is not the beating heart of every kink interaction. Sadists are whole people, too.

I recently had a (vanilla) conversation that went something like this:

I’m not going to do X. It might harm you.

I’m already destroyed. It’s okay to do X.

Destruction isn’...

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Imposters in the Kink Community

When I found the kink community, I was an exhibitionist and a slave. That was another life. I’m living this life now, and every streak of exhibitionism in me has evaporated. These days, ‘demise...

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Things You Should Know About Your First BDSM Party

  • Not all play parties are raging orgies, so button up your jorts, Caligula. The kink scene isn’t a doorway into PornHub. Bodily fluids are strictly controlled and orgiesque events smell like...

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Things I Wish I’d Known About Dating When I Was 20

  • You don’t need a good reason to say no to sex. You don’t even need a bad reason. These are all acceptable reasons:
Your team lost and life has thus ceased to...

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Your Social Phobia Isn't Worthy Of Shame, So Get To an Event

Fetlife is confronting for the socially anxious. You want to be an active part of scene, but a room full of kinky strangers is what horror movies are made of. If you have this disorder, presenting ...

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Bottoms Make Mistakes, Too

A kinkster who’s “never made mistakes” is a kinkster who will make the same mistakes over and over until she gets old enough to wear purple. If there’s a brighter red flag than that, I’ll...

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Can We Do the Roaring Twenties Again?

The last time we hit the Twenties, flappers in long pearl necklaces danced the Charleston to the tunes of live jazz bands. People drank Champaign like water and threw out their morals with last nig...

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The best way to make a girl feel comfortable is to demand her address after laying your creep fantasy at her doorstep like a half-murdered mouse.

This morning I received a lovely message. It was about recipes and creativity, but then he threw this sentence in at the end:

You must be one hell of a fuck. Give me your address and...

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What to Expect Now That We Have K&P Back

K&P has, at last, been freed from clickbait hell. “Press love” posts will now be detrended so that we can re...

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