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But I'm Not a Stalker

I've begun to create a list of screenshots from my stalker. I can't post them on Fet because that would be classified as stalking </irony>

I'm not sure what comes next, but I'm going to...

Toxic Positivity is Shame Wearing a Pretty Dress

Chronic illness is a kind of grief, and toxic positivity is the thing that stops up the tears. Healthy people don’t acknowledge their loss, you know, so don’t feel. Don’t talk. Don’t act. J...

If You Wanted To Do It, You'd Have Done It Already

I recently learned that people rarely do what they don’t want to do. Yes, it took 47 years to learn that. I also put two bites of cheesecake into a takeout container yesterday, so I don’t know ...

What Are Boyfriends?

Boyfriends sit on the evolutionary chain just after Neanderthals and before humans. They’re basically hominids who have developed opposable thumbs but haven’t yet evolved into girlfriends. They...

If Sex Advice for Women Were Written Like Sex Advice for Men Part Two

Stroke his nipple, kiss his left ear, and trace the muscle on his inner thigh with your fingertip while circling the air with your right foot. Once you’ve moved below the waste, compliment him on...

If Sex Advice for Women Was Written Like Sex Advice for Men

-1) The penis has millions and millions of nerve endings, so most men find direct cock contact far too stimulating. Make blowjobs a thing of the past. Rather lick his abdomen just to the left of hi...

Rape, Sexual Anorexia, and a Bottle Full of Rain

As promised, the post that sprung from last night's. This did NOT go as expected.

There are three kinds of rape survivors:

• Those whose sexuality inexplicably rem...
  2023-10-27 06:27:58 +0000 UTC View Post

Look at mah dick! Look it! Look!

I want to sculpt this into a whole other kind of post, but I thought I'd put up the original for interest's sake. 

I am irrationally and disproportionately c...

I Don't Have Spoons. I Have a Bucket, and You Need to Fix Your Damned Leak

They say if you have a chronic or mental illness, you get 15 spoons a day to represent your limited resources. I don’t have spoons. I have a bucket. If a building springs a leak, the...

My Philosophy on the Submit Catastrophe

I once spent a couple of years writing a series of features about some of the world's most successful social impact entrepreneurs. Those years became the lens through which I viewed th...

Getting Support is a Lot of Hard Work When You're Ill

Hi, I’m Red, and I don’t ask for help.

My reasons are (sometimes) more selfish than you might think, though.

They say somewhere between 45 and 60% of adult Americans have a chronic ...

You Know More About Kink Than You Think You Do

So you’ve found BDSM. You want to be tied. Or flogged. Or dominated, but you feel like the most ignorant person in the room.

You aren’t.

Your vanilla years have taught you to recogn...

Online Abuse Doesn't Kill Because It Hurts. It Kills Because It Convinces the Victim They Don't Deserve the Space They Take Up in the World.

Online abuse leads to almost 12 deaths in every 100, 000 teens. Targets are twice as likely to commit suicide than others in their age group, but if you want the statistics for adults, you won’t ...

Dominant's Contract for Being Served Obediently by a Brat

The following agreement outlines the DOMINANT’S duties towards the BRAT - I mean DOMME. The DOMINANT is obliged to strictly comply with the provision of the agreement.

1.1. The brat’s ser...

Vanilla is a Precious Spice, Not a Reason For Shame

Vanilla is a precious spice. It’ll set you back $200 a pound, so only one percent of vanilla flavourings contain actual vanilla. These pods only bloom one day a year, and as the third mo...

On Questionmark Avatars and Argonians

I just made friends with a question mark avatar with no profile description to speak of. He sent me a two-line message, but it was a *good* message. And, like no question mark avatar that’s ever ...

My Writing Process

Yesterday a reader asked me about my writing process, and I thought it worthwhile to add it here. Beginners to writing often share first drafts. This is not the product. First drafts are not for sh...

Extrovert's Contract for Associating With an Introvert

The following agreement outlines the EXTROVERT’S duties towards the INTROVERT. The EXTROVERT is obliged to strictly comply with the provision of agreement.

1.1. The extrovert shall warn the...

Some Masochists Just Want Tops Who Hit things, But I Want More

Learning to write is a lot like learning who you are. The more authentic you can be on the page, the more compelling your work will be. When I work with beginners, half the job is annihilating thei...

Not Waving But Drowning

Having a mental illness is like swimming with sandbags around your feet. Everyone else is staying afloat just fine. They’re laughing and splashing up a storm, but you don’t find the water quite...

Don't Set Your Slut Dial Above Its Recommended Settings

This week a Fetlifian sent a question into the Fetisphere: How could she turn her demi self into a slut? She wanted to join the fuck fest, but she couldn’t find her inner Caligula. People gave he...

Bloody hell

That post was written so badly yesterday. 😳😂 Sorry for subjecting you to such shitty writing. I've edited it, but I doubt it can be completely rescued. 

Submit

I joined the Submit Discord in February when Apollyon said he was asking for feedback on his ethics and policies. Almost immediately, I saw him silence two trans voices in a discussion about trans ...

Deepthroating isn't Kink Lite for Vanillas

Deepthroating is the most vanilla kink in BDSM-ville. Few other forms of S&M play have occupied non-kink sites as successfully as this one. You’ll see it on vanilla Only Fans pages. You’ll ...

How To Be a Fetlebrity

Thank you for embarking on the selfless endeavour of becoming a Fetlebrity. The first step towards kinky stardom is the ability to use seven adjectives in a sentence and sacrifice your grammar-chec...

Around the Internet in 40 Days

This week I went on a journey to the unknown lands of the vanilla internet. I got ignored on Tumblr, went viral on Facebook, and got followed on Medium. I joined an NGO, posted photographs of my do...

We Apologise For Our Bodies

We go to yoga classes. We apologise for our bodies. We work 50 hours a week. We apologise for our bodies. We rise to the top of our chosen fields. We apologise. We raise six toddlers and five labra...

Types of Consent Manipulation

Are you sure you need this limit?

Isn’t it selfish to refuse when it’s my favourite kink?

I’ll leave if you don’t do what I like.

Are you sure you don’t want to...

Writing That Inspires Me

I'm learning to write satire through only one publication: McSweeney's Internet Tendency. This is one of my favourites by Rebecca Jane Stokes

30 THINGS MY NEIGHBOR KATHY SAID TO H...

2023-10-05 05:44:30 +0000 UTC View Post

Writing That Inspires Me

This is another post that I absolutely worship: Three Beards by Donald Hall. He's a poet. Little wonder. 

1.

In my life I have grown three beards, covering many of my ad...